Raising children 3 - 4 years old

Crisis of three years

Bad behavior

Many parents complain that during the third birthday, the child becomes stubborn, impudent, hostile, disobedient and uncontrollable. According to child psychiatrist Rudolf Dreikurs and famous psychologist Julia Gippenreiter, there are four main reasons for a child’s bad behavior:

• Lack of attention- this is the most common reason. In most cases, from the age of three, children begin to go to kindergarten, and mothers go to work. And naturally, now the baby does not receive as much attention from his parents as before.

In such a situation, parents should give their child as much attention as possible in the evenings and on weekends. The child, of course, will demand it anyway: “Mom, read to me. Mom, play with me. Mom, I can’t do it.” And if the mother brushes the child off, citing fatigue or household chores, he will begin to look for other ways to attract her attention - and they will not always be “adequate”.

After all, the child very quickly begins to understand that if he sits quietly alone in the room and plays “”, no one will pay attention to him. But when he threw something, broke something, took a dangerous or illegal thing - that’s when attention appears, albeit negative, but attention.

Therefore, try to ignore, praise his positive actions, respond to the child’s calls to play together, and pay attention to him when the baby seems not to be waiting for him.

• Self-affirmation. It is very important for a child to feel like a significant and respected person in the family. How to do it? When making decisions concerning the child, or when solving simple everyday issues, consult with him and take into account his interests and opinions. The child should know that he can convince you that he is right, just as you can convince him. It is you who must teach your child a lesson in flexibility and compromise, which must take into account the positions of both sides.

Ask him for help, involve him in cooperation, organize situations and activities where the child could feel his importance and his authority.

A three-year-old child usually already understands his gender identity well. , girls - on mothers. They strive to imitate them in everything and gladly perform “male” or, conversely, “female” duties.

During this period, a pattern of future relationships with the opposite sex is laid. Therefore, parents should carefully monitor their behavior and speech.

Material for the lesson.

From the age of three and, probably, until adulthood, your child’s life will no longer have such bright events as the first smile, the first word or the first step, or such as knowledge of the world around him and himself. The baby has mastered the basic skills and abilities necessary for life, now all that remains is to develop all his skills.

The process of his psychological and physical development will be quick and painless if there are no disruptions. Of course, in the relationship between a baby and adults there can be no constancy; there will be both joy and disappointment.

Stages of peace of mind and balance will turn into stages of excitement or even aggression. This is inevitable, because sooner or later, the baby will have to “recognize” the people around him and no longer consider himself the center of the whole world.

The period between 3-5 years of a child is the most wonderful time. But even here there are difficulties and peculiarities.

Psychology of a 3-year-old child or the “crisis” of the age of three.

The baby's psychological balance is sometimes shaken as a result of some discovery that can make the child upset or aggressive. This period passes, but now it is advisable not to send the baby to kindergarten or to the care of a nanny. What causes this? Now I will try to explain.

Imagine that your life and the life of your child is a kind of play of 4 acts, in which the main characters, of course, are mom, dad and baby.

Act one. The child is happy and happy, next to his loving mother - the center of the universe! A baby is everything to a mother! She caresses him, feeds him, bathes him, dresses him, puts him to bed, and the child gets the impression that this will always be the case. This is a happy and cloudless time!

Act two. The baby “discovers” the existence of his dad, whom he also loves and adores. The relationship between a child and a father is a little different. This is how it should be, because the child does other things with his dad. A father for a child is also happiness.

Act three. Gradually we came to the main thing. Mom began to spend less time with the baby, her love did not decrease, it’s just that the baby has grown up and does not need special care and nutrition. Moreover, he is approaching an age when he begins to realize and comprehend everything he sees in his own way.

He already sees that mom is important not only for him, but also for dad. For example, when a mother, having put the baby into bed, tells him: “Daddy is waiting for me to watch a movie,” or in the evening, mom and dad leave home together, leaving the baby with grandma.

The child begins to understand that mom loves dad, and dad loves mom. And sometimes children think that their parents have some kind of secret and the thought comes to them: “Maybe they don’t need me?”

And such a “discovery” can greatly shock a child, especially if he is impressionable. It turns out that mom belongs not only to him! But at the age of 2-4 years the baby so often repeats “Mine! Mine!”

Changing relationships: mom - child and dad - child to a certain triangle mom-dad-child - this fourth act, the act of denouement.

The discovery that for parents he is not the center of the universe can make the child aggressive. He is angry with mom or dad because one of them is “superfluous.”

At some point in time, the baby may prefer one of the parents and will constantly attract the close attention of this parent.

In this period psychological development of the child Be sure to talk to him, explain that mom and dad love him and each other just as much. There is no need to leave the baby alone, much less punish him for aggression.

Thanks to the patience and understanding of the parents, this stage will quickly end, and the baby will restore his former emotional and tender relationship with his father and mother.

The child begins to understand tenderness in relationships between people and learns what mutual love is. Don't think it's too early for him to know this. The discovery of mutual feelings will help him make other, equally important discoveries in the future.

Psychology of a 3-year-old child: what is possible and what is not?

It is a huge mistake for parents to scold a naughty child with these words: “Ugly boy!”, “You are a very bad child!” and so on. Such words addressed to the child only increase his sadness, causing aggression and irritation.
If your baby demands more affection and tenderness from you, do not push him away, it means he really needs it. Be patient!

Be as natural as possible with your child. You don’t need to think that if you refuse some kind of affection, it will help him. On the contrary, if you speak kindly to your spouse in the presence of your baby, then say the same word to your child. You should not have long conversations in the presence of a child in which he does not take part.

If you notice that at some point the child is less affectionate with you than with dad (or vice versa), you don’t need to talk about it, pretend that you don’t notice anything. Parents' behavior should be like this:
If the baby shows more feelings for dad, then the father should tactfully and quietly emphasize the importance of mom: “Kiss mom, she fed us breakfast,” “Like mom, she does it well,” “Our mom is the best.”
And the mother should draw the baby’s attention to the father: “Play with daddy,” “It was daddy who came up with the idea of ​​going to the river today,” etc.

What happens if you don’t take the psychological problems of a 3-5 year old child seriously?

The kid becomes disappointed and begins to get angry at the whole world. His spiritual relationships with the outside world may be disrupted.
And at this time you may have a second or third child, which takes up most of your time. In no case should you forget about your three-year-old baby at the birth of another child; double your love and tenderness for him.

Going to kindergarten can make the situation worse. Many children take this action of their parents as a desire to alienate them from themselves.
We'll talk about this in the next article, “How to prepare a child for kindergarten” (article under preparation).

How to raise a boy- a question that occupies the minds of most mothers, regardless of the era, because any of them wants to raise the support of the family and raise a real man. Unfortunately, boys do not grow up to be men with a capital “M” on their own. Today, psychologists cannot come to a common opinion regarding who among the adults is more important in raising a son. However, if we analyze the family life of many social units, we can conclude that the greatest influence on boys from the moment of birth until the preschool period is directly exerted by their mothers. Since the first years of a boy’s life, when the baby’s character is formed and basic social skills are formed, it is the mother who spends a significant part of the time with the baby. It is the woman who, in practice, demonstrates to her son how to treat the weaker half of humanity.

How to raise a boy without a father

Contrary to popular belief, a boy raised by women will not necessarily grow up to be weak and weak. The statement that a boy raised without a father will grow up to be an inferior man is fundamentally incorrect and, rather, affects single mothers as a self-fulfilling forecast. It is much worse when children are raised in a family where the father is an alcoholic, where constant quarrels and misunderstandings reign, where the father raises his hand against the mother, etc. Single-parent families, first of all, are those in which there is a shortage of parental love and lack of attention.

A family where a son is raised by one woman naturally has certain problems and difficulties, but it is still better than raising children in government institutions.

How to raise a boy to be a real man - advice from psychologists

First of all, even in the absence of a father, who is a model of male behavior in a boy’s life, there must be such an example to follow. For this purpose, you can use an uncle, grandfather, coach, teacher, brave cartoon character, etc. It is also recommended to give the baby to the so-called “male” sport. Thus, the greater the number of male persons who are invariably present in his life, the better.

How to raise a boy without a father? Mothers also need to monitor their own attitude towards the stronger sex. You should not insult men in the presence of children; also, when surrounded by men, mothers should not feel awkward or inconvenient. After all, the child can feel this, as a result of which he will have mixed feelings caused by the discrepancy between the mother’s attitude towards him and the men around him, the result of which will be misunderstanding and internal conflict.

How can a woman raise a boy? When raising a baby without a father, it is not recommended to try to compensate him for the lack of male attention, at the cost of excessive “lisping” or fulfilling any of his whims. The surest decision would be to teach your son to be independent from an early age. If something doesn’t work out for the boy the first time, then you don’t need to immediately run to his aid; it’s better to invite him to try to repeat his own actions.

It is also recommended that mothers often take the position of a “weak woman” when communicating with the baby. In other words, when raising a son, a woman should not forget about her nature and be affectionate with him, a caring and loving parent, and not a magician who can solve absolutely all the boy’s problems, depriving the baby of the opportunity to try to cope with difficulties on his own. Also, such behavior will help develop in your son the ability to sympathize, pity and empathize, and teaches him to be a caring, helpful, strong man.

In addition, it is necessary to often praise the child and tell him phrases like: “you are my protector”, “you will definitely succeed!” etc. After all, for a boy growing up without a father, such praise has a special meaning. With this behavior, women reinforce the importance of the boy in the eyes of his mother.

Thus, women who are interested in the question of how to raise a man from a boy, on the one hand, need to be feminine and weak, and on the other hand, to be known as a confident and strong-willed person. Mothers raising sons without fathers should not try to combine feminine and masculine roles; they just need to remain themselves. It is also not recommended to play the role of a victim of circumstances in front of your son.

Raising a boy, a future real man, should not be perceived as a duty or a life obligation. As a result of the above, a boy raised by women in order to become a real man has all the prerequisites.

How to raise a boy correctly

It is important in raising a male child to give him trust and a certain amount of freedom. It is not recommended to forbid him to spend time with the children in the yard or communicate with other boys. The boy must be given the opportunity to independently find solutions to situations of confrontation.

How to raise a boy correctly? To do this, parents should make some effort. One of the most common misconceptions among parents of both sexes is related to the difference in educational measures applied to sons and daughters. For some reason, some mothers and almost the majority of fathers think that with a boy one should not indulge in “calf tenderness” and so-called “lisping”, believing that as a result of such behavior the boy will not grow into a real man. However, things are different in reality. Psychologists have provided evidence that among newborns of both sexes, boys are born weaker than girls, so they often need affection more than girls.

How to raise a 2 year old boy

The educational impact on boys, in any case, is based on the age characteristics of the child. Therefore, it is necessary to start a conversation about how to properly raise a 2-year-old boy with an understanding of what a two-year-old baby is like.

Until one and a half years of age, there is no difference in the upbringing of children of different sexes. It is at the age of two that the baby begins to understand that boys are different from girls. At two years old, the boy already begins to realize that he belongs to the male gender and identifies himself accordingly.

Positive communication with him is of great importance in the educational impact on a two-year-old boy. You should not get angry or hit a baby at the age of two, otherwise boys will feel that they are not loved, which can cause the appearance of the first symptom of a basic distrust of the world.

By the age of two, boys not only improve their walking, but also develop the ability to run and jump, they learn to throw a ball, and their sense of balance improves. Therefore, a boy should not be prohibited from developing physically. It's okay if, in trying to run and jump, he gets a few bumps and a couple of bruises.

At this stage, the boys develop an attitude towards housework - they have a desire to help their mother, a desire to sweep or vacuum, etc. Such aspirations of children should be encouraged, otherwise they can be discouraged and in the future the child will simply “come out on his own.”

In the two-year age period, for the first time, the need to develop certain prohibitions and certain norms of behavior appears. Contrary to the popular opinion of most psychologists, a baby begins to understand the word “impossible” at approximately the age of three, therefore certain restrictions and a system of non-physical punishment must be introduced already at the age of two.

How to raise a 2 year old boy? It is not recommended to overwhelm the boy with excessive care and you should not put pressure on him with your own expectations. For example, if a two-year-old boy does not speak, this is not a reason not to sleep at night. It should be taken into account that boys start talking later than girls. The main thing at this stage is the formation of motor activity and cognitive interests. And even if the baby doesn’t draw as well as the neighbor’s child, then you shouldn’t be upset. After all, each baby develops individually. And with their own expectations and subsequent dissatisfaction or frustration, parents demonstrate their dislike to the child.

The main activity of two-year-old boys is play, which consists of actions with objects of a manipulative nature. It is through such a game that the baby gets to know the environment, the objects in it and the people. Directly in play activities, it is easier to teach boys discipline, routine, order, certain rules, hygiene skills and basic labor skills, how to handle objects and compare them.

It is important for parents to learn that boys should not be punished with cruelty or indifference. By doing this, the parents only demonstrate their weakness to the baby, which can subsequently turn into a weakness of the boy’s character. Strength of spirit in boys needs to be cultivated using other methods.

Children should also be raised according to their gender. In other words, it is not recommended to use words such as “bunny” or “honey” when referring to a male baby. It is better to address your son as follows: “son” or “my beloved protector.”

How to raise a 3 year old boy

In early childhood, the most important thing for children of the stronger sex is to be in the zone of parental attention and care, primarily of the mother. At the same time, a father should not shy away from raising a 3-year-old boy, citing the fact that his son is still small. At the age of three, boys develop a sense of security and a sense of openness to the environment. Therefore, the care of both parents is quite important for them.

How to raise a 3 year old boy? What principles should the upbringing of a three-year-old boy be based on? What educational measures are acceptable, and which ones are best avoided? The listed questions become acute for adults when their male child reaches the age of three.

So, how to raise a man from a boy? To answer this question, you need to understand that at the stage of three years of age there is already a clear differentiation by gender in comparison with the two-year period. Therefore, at this age it is very important to try not to miss the formation in boys of self-love as a representative of the strong half of humanity. The son should think that he is a boy, and it is good to be a boy. This statement must be constantly reinforced and emphasized in praise. For example: “You are brave.” And phrases like “weakling” need to be excluded from your own vocabulary in relation to your son.

How to raise a boy for dad? Due to the fact that a child at the age of three feels even more strongly that he belongs to the stronger half of humanity. That is why his father becomes an object of admiration and increased interest for him. The boy strives to be like the head of the family in absolutely everything, and often tries on some of his things. In cases where the father is characterized by impatience and excessive irritability in relation to the baby, the son will feel awkward in his company and among other males. As a result, he will begin to look up to his mother and reach out to her. Therefore, for fathers, the optimal time to begin the educational process in relation to boys is the age of three. You shouldn’t wait until the kids get older and, therefore, wiser, as you could waste time. Therefore, mothers are recommended to send their sons for a walk with their husbands, which will allow them to find free time for themselves, and fathers will get to know their own child better.

The next principle of educational influence, which answers the question of how to raise a boy to be a real man, will be to provide space for a three-year-old son. Here, first of all, we are talking about physical space. Since boys need free space for normal functioning and development. After all, they are constantly on the move. It is imperative to release bodily energy; active games contribute to this.

There are also hyperactive children who require a slightly different approach. In order to understand how to raise a hyperactive boy, you should turn to the concept of hyperactivity. Hyperactivity syndrome consists of pronounced excessive mobility of children and impulsiveness. Such children are characterized by restlessness, they constantly spin around, are fickle in their hobbies (now they can do one thing, and literally a minute later - another), as a result of which many things are not completed.

A three-year-old boy requires special treatment. Since one of the developmental crises occurs at the age of three, at this stage the baby begins to clearly differentiate its gender and all this is complicated by hyperactivity. Therefore, if parents pay special attention to the question of how to raise a hyperactive boy, then there is no need to fight the innate properties of the baby, it is necessary to correct only manifestations of hyperactivity. There is no need to punish the boy for such manifestations, because it is not his fault that he still lacks self-regulation skills. You just need to help him learn to manage his own behavior and protect him from overwork. If active games are suitable for a non-hyperactive baby, then a hyperactive baby should be taught passive games, for example, you can draw with him.

In addition, regardless of whether the son is hyperactive or not, he needs to feel parental love. Therefore, parents should show their children their love from time to time.

The age of three can be considered a cult of independence. Very often from children at this age you can hear the phrase: “I myself.” If the actions that the boy is trying to perform cannot harm him, then he should be allowed to do them. For example, tying your own shoelaces.

Also, in the educational impact it is necessary to take into account the fact that boys, by nature, are researchers. It is at the age of three that their investigative nature begins to manifest itself in the form of disassembled cars. Therefore, you should not scold them for broken toys. It is necessary to provide them with the opportunity to satisfy their research needs while monitoring the safety of their son.

How to raise a 4 year old boy

We can highlight several simple principles aimed at solving the problem of how to raise a 4-year-old boy.

The first principle is that one should not be afraid to cripple a boy with affection and care. According to numerous studies, male children receive four times less praise and several times more punishment. Therefore, parents should not forget that a four-year-old boy is still a child, and not a small adult. He may be afraid of something; for him, a trip to a new place can be a life event. It is important to understand that adult living standards, concepts of time and space are not suitable for a four-year-old child.

In the age period, which falls on four years, the baby’s emotionality begins to form. And parents at this stage demand restrained behavior from him or, with their careless phrases, forbid him to show emotions. This behavior is fundamentally wrong. A four-year-old boy is just a child, not an adult. Therefore, it is necessary to teach the boy to correctly express his own emotions.

It should also be taken into account that boys at any age require more free space than the fair sex. Therefore, in order to balance the frantic hurricane of activity, it is recommended to purchase a sports corner for your son. Filial restlessness and noisiness must be treated with condescension and patience. However, you should still remember to focus the baby’s attention on the fact that he, as a man, needs to be balanced.

It is during the four-year period that the completion of the formation of boys’ ideas about their own personalities as representatives of the male sex occurs. Previously, the baby was guided by the external differences between the representatives of the strong half and the weak. At the age of four, the child already clearly identifies himself with the male gender and understands how to behave.

How to raise a 5 year old boy

At the age of five, the ability to identify one’s own person with a certain gender is already fully formed. Therefore, kids begin to actively strive to communicate with representatives of the fair half of humanity, but they are especially drawn to their mothers. After all, for them, it is the mother who is the sweetest, kindest and most beautiful. Often at this age boys want to marry their mothers. Starting from the age of five, a transition occurs in the baby’s life from childhood to school life. Therefore, at this stage, the upbringing of a 5-year-old boy should be aimed at developing the necessary life skills and optimizing performance. Raising five-year-old children should lay the foundation and behavioral characteristics.

How to properly raise a 5 year old boy? First of all, it is necessary to instill in him a joyful anticipation of school life; the boy must look forward to this moment. Thanks to this, parents will be able to correctly and painlessly adjust his daily routine.

We should also not forget that the future support of the family is being raised. Therefore, it is necessary to continue nurturing masculine qualities, but at the same time, not forgetting to surround your son with care and love. Fathers need to exert more influence, otherwise the boy will grow up to be an insecure individual, withdrawn and uncommunicative. The father’s task is also the physical development of his son.

Until the age of five, a boy can purchase toys that embody male professions (for example, plastic tools, various construction machines, construction sets), and after crossing the five-year mark, he must begin to be introduced to a basic tool (for example, a screwdriver or a light hammer). Let the boy learn to help dad around the house.

It is also necessary to explain to sons that they are stronger than the fair sex, that they should protect the girls and behave with them in a chivalrous manner. At the same time, dad should be an example of such behavior. He should help the woman in everything and show concern for her (for example, carry heavy bags or give up his seat in transport).

How to raise a teenage boy

For parents, adolescence is perhaps the most serious stage in raising real men. This stage is especially difficult for mothers. It’s hard for them to realize that just recently their little boy was an affectionate baby who constantly hugged them, but today he avoids his mother’s caresses. Suddenly, unexpectedly, the sweet boy turned into a grumpy teenager, treating his parents as an obstacle to his happiness. The worst behavior in this case would be attempts to put pressure on the child and endless readings of moral teachings.

From about the age of eleven until the age of fourteen, something strange begins to happen to boys. Previously cheerful and obedient, they become rebels. Unreasonable mood swings and disobedience become typical teenage behavior of boys.

Often, the first reaction of parents to such behavior is punishment and lectures, which are not only absolutely useless, but also deepen the gap growing in the parent-child relationship. Punishments only exacerbate the misunderstanding that reigns between teenagers and their parents.

Often, due to their busyness, fathers neglect raising a teenager, forgetting that their role in him is quite large. Children have to form their own system of moral guidelines, based on the films or TV shows they watch, computer games, or the example of the behavior of their peers. But life guidelines and moral values ​​should be passed on to boys from their parents.

How to properly raise a teenage boy? The main task of adults responsible for raising teenagers is to communicate with them as often as possible. However, concepts should not be replaced when parents read notations - this is not considered communication; communicative interaction between teenagers and their parents should occur on the basis of equality.

In order for a son to grow into a man, a good father, a worthy member of society, it is important to know how to raise a boy. Representatives of the stronger sex, capable of action and recognition, self-confident, courageous and courageous, grow up from little boys whose mother and father have found the right pedagogical approach. There are many subtleties and nuances that you need to know in order to raise a good person, a comprehensively developed personality, a real man.

Raising boys

In Ancient Rus' they believed that women should not raise sons. This is a man's task. Tutors were hired for noble children, and children from the lower classes moved in a male environment thanks to their early introduction to work. Since the 20th century, boys are less and less often brought up under male attention; care for children is shifted to women’s shoulders. The lack of male influence affects the behavior of the adult son. Men become lacking initiative, cannot fight back the offender, and do not want to overcome difficulties.

Psychology of raising boys

Courageous, strong and courageous men are not immediately born with such a set of human qualities. The character of the stronger sex comes from childhood. The correct actions of parents, based on the psychological characteristics of boys, are the key to success, the answer to how to raise their sons correctly. Boys and girls need a different approach, because their psychology is different. For a son to become a worthy member of modern society, it is important to build respectful, trusting relationships with him.

Rules of education

Each family's methods of education may vary, but if the parents' task is to form a strong, responsible personality, then it is worth raising their son by following the following few rules:

1. The baby should have self-esteem, and not just follow the orders of his parents.
2. Even a preschooler, not to mention a teenager, must clearly understand that everything started must be completed.
3. Let the boys play sports. This is necessary not only for physical fitness, but also for the emergence of self-discipline.
4. It is important to cultivate perseverance in a child in the face of defeat, and difficulties must be overcome by any means.
5. Boys need to be taught a sense of responsibility and mercy.

Male education

The role of the father in the task of raising boys is difficult to overestimate. If until the age of 4-5 years the mother is of greater importance to the baby, then after that she reaches out to the father. Only through communication with his father (or other men) does a boy learn masculine behavior. Children copy the behavior of their fathers, because his moral principles, habits and manners are the embodiment of the standard of masculinity, an example to follow. The authority of the father and attitude towards the mother determine how much the boy will love and respect his future family and wife.

How to raise a boy to be a real man

A man's character is formed due to the various actions of his parents. Some people focus on studying and books, others consider sports to be an important stage in the formation of a personality, for others it is important to raise a child who loves work. Whatever path you choose, the main thing is to show your child a positive example. Only your hard work, love of sports, and responsibility will be able to demonstrate and cultivate the same qualities in your child.

Sex education

No less important than the psychological aspects of upbringing are the physiological ones for a boy. From birth, monitor the formation of the genitourinary system; if problems are detected, contact a specialist. The cause may be weak or excessive development of the genital organs, narrowing or inflammation of the foreskin, and other disorders. Hygienic habits are established in childhood. For boys, uncleanliness can cause inflammation, pain, and swelling. Parents are obliged to form and instill healthy habits in a timely manner.

In addition to hygiene, sex education also covers other aspects. The task of the mother and father is to help the son understand that he belongs to the male sex, to teach him to behave adequately in relationships with the opposite sex. Children should receive information about sex life from their parents, not from peers or via the Internet. At the age of 7-11, boys should already be aware of reproductive function and childbirth, the onset of puberty and the changes that await them. After 12 years of age, teenagers need to know:

• about the existence of different forms of sexuality;
• about sexually transmitted diseases;
• about sexual violence;
• about safe sex.

How to raise a boy to be brave

If a boy is afraid of everything from childhood, there is a high probability that with age these fears will only intensify. Parents should make a lot of effort to develop courage in their future man. To help mothers and fathers who want to see their baby fearless, here are some recommendations:

1. For confidence, cultivating masculinity and courage, a child needs harmony in the family. When mom and dad cannot come to a common opinion, the child is confused and confused.
2. You cannot praise and set other children as an example. This comparison can lead to uncertainty.
3. Guardianship and worries about your son should be shown in moderation.
4. To develop courage you need to play sports.
5. You can't call a child a coward. You need to teach your child to fight his fears, for example, with the help of a sense of humor.

How to raise a good son

Parents want to raise their son to be responsible, proactive, strong, but at the same time loving, caring and attentive. It is difficult to realize these natural desires of mom and dad, but there are several rules of upbringing that will help with this:

• support manifestations of independence, activity and other male character traits;
• be an example for your son always and in everything;
• teach your son to work from an early age;
• treat it with reasonable demands.

How to raise a boy correctly

When deciding how to raise a boy, it is important to take into account the characteristics of the child’s age. You need to start from birth, and as the baby grows up, you will have to make more and more efforts. With the right approach, your efforts will be rewarded with good results. At certain stages, the role of the mother or father becomes more significant, but both parents must equally make efforts to educate.

Raising a boy from birth

In raising a child under 3 years old, gender does not matter. A child at this age spends most of his time with his mother, with whom the connection is very strong. The father plays a secondary role during this period. Parents should behave in such a way that the baby feels safe. A baby, surrounded by the love and care of his mother, grows up confident in himself and his abilities. Experts recommend not attending kindergarten until the age of 3. Children who feel abandoned often show aggression and anxiety. To raise self-esteem, it is important to hug your child more often and punish less often.

At 3-4 years old

After 3 years, children begin to distinguish people by gender. Raising a son at this stage should take place with an emphasis on his masculine qualities - strength, dexterity, courage. Boys need to make more effort to develop speech. To improve communication skills, parents should talk and play more with their baby. For the comprehensive development of the baby, do not limit him when choosing games and toys. If a boy wants to play with dolls, this will not affect his social role in any way.

At 5-7 years old

At this age, raising boys differs little from the previous period. Surround your child with affection and care, give him confidence and awareness of his own strengths. Let your baby feel safe. Remind him of important masculine qualities, allow him to show tenderness and his own emotions. Towards the end of this period, the boys move a little away from their mother and begin to get closer to their father.

At 8-10 years old

In order to raise his son correctly, at the stage from 8 to 10 years old, it is important for the father to actively participate in his son’s life. It is important to form trusting relationships that will clearly manifest themselves in adolescence and adulthood. Dad should not be too strict, as the child may withdraw into himself and begin to be afraid of his father. Boys are interested in men's affairs, activities and actions of their father. Even during this period, the son may begin to defend his opinion or territory by force. Do not discourage the expression of negative emotions. Explain that you can achieve what you want using other methods.

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Raising a son who has entered adolescence means instilling in him responsibility, teaching him to see the consequences of his actions, and relating desires to reality. These are the main goals that parents of a teenager should set for themselves. The role of the father is still high, but the matured child needs communication with school friends and peers. You can also receive masculine energy and become familiar with behavioral characteristics by communicating with older men close to the teenager’s family.

How to raise a hyperactive boy

When a child finds it difficult to sit in one place, he is constantly distracted, acts quickly and impulsively, and there is a high likelihood of hyperactivity. Seek advice from a child psychologist and engage in independent study of the issue in order to properly raise such a special child. When raising a son with hyperactivity, pay attention to organizing the daily routine, find a hobby he likes, support and praise your child. It is important to show tenderness, affection and care to sons with such a problem.

How to raise a boy without a father

Single-parent families are a common phenomenon in modern society. Mom should not feel guilty about the current circumstances. To raise a boy to be a real man without a father, try to compensate for the absence of a second parent in life with the attention of close relatives - an uncle or grandfather. Time spent in male society will allow the child to self-identify, promote personal development, and strengthen self-confidence and his own capabilities.

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The age of 3-4 years for a child becomes a turning point for many parents. Difficulties may be associated with the peculiarities of the formation and development of the baby as an individual. Learn about all the features of child psychology at 3-4 years old and raising children at this age.

How to raise a 3-4 year old child?

The third year of life is a turning point for every child. At this time, the baby begins to realize his “I” and show independence. Such changes in the worldview are reflected in the character and behavior of the child. Many psychologists call this period a crisis in the child’s development and personality formation.

The child is trying to show you and others that he is already an adult. He often wants to do everyday tasks without assistance. Any attempts to help are met with shouts and discontent. In such situations, the correct reaction on the part of parents is very important.

The behavior and character of the youngest member of your family in the future largely depends on how you raise your child at 3 years old. It is very important to show the child the right guidelines, lay down important moral principles and the foundations of good behavior. However, parents need to do this extremely carefully. After all, each child requires an individual approach to education.

The psychology of raising a child aged 3-4 years requires seriousness and responsibility from mom and dad, and some useful tips will help you resolve important issues:

• welcome and encourage the baby’s desire to perform familiar actions on his own;
• take into account the child’s opinion, demonstrate to him the importance of his reasoning for you;
• give your child a lot of attention, spend time playing and relaxing together;
• try not to show your authority when communicating with your child;
• do not shout or condemn the child if he does something wrong: point out that the action is bad, but it does not make the child himself bad.

When conflict situations arise, you must not humiliate or offend the child. He needs to know that you love him under any circumstances.

At the age of 4-5 years, the child’s behavior and thinking changes slightly. In his understanding, the idea of ​​“good” and “bad” is formed. Stable emotions arise - like and dislike for something.

Raising a 4-5 year old child requires parents to be tolerant and attentive to the life and interests of the child. During this period, he actively explores the world around him. And the first teachers for a child are his parents.

Some tips for parents will help parents understand and understand the psychology of a 4-5 year old child:

• do not ignore your child’s questions about the world around him;
• keep your child thinking positively;
• lay the foundations of decent behavior in society (the best way to do this is by personal example);
• When conflicts arise, try to find a compromise.

Never compare your child with other children. This attitude creates complexes and causes self-doubt.

Transitional and crisis situations in raising a child can be easily overcome if you pay enough attention to the baby and demonstrate your love for him in every possible way.