What women should not do in a relationship with a man. What absolutely should not be done in a relationship with a man What should not be done in a relationship

We all know that true and true love must be protected, that relationships must be worked on and built, that one must treat a loved one carefully and with soul. However, there are things that you don’t need to do, even if you are a very kind woman and love your man very much.

Sometimes excessive love and guardianship can spoil a man and even, in some especially neglected cases, put him on his neck. Therefore, in order for your relationship to be happy, and your man to value you, protect and love you, do not do the following things for him.

What not to do in a relationship with a man

1. Don't help him financially

Quite a few women have already suffered because of the desire to solve the financial problems of men. Remember once and for all - you should not help him with money, even if he complains to you about financial difficulties. He is a grown man and can solve his own problems on his own. Yes, and an adequate independent man is unlikely to devote a woman to his problems, and even more so ask her for money. I knew a woman who constantly solved the financial problems of her man (who was an ordinary parasite) by working two jobs. In the end, when she looked like a driven horse, the man left for another woman.

Also, do not give him too expensive gifts. Instead of luxurious gifts, give him your love, your warmth, admire him and believe in him.

2. Don't feel sorry for him by listening to his problems.

A man should be respected, not pitied. Our Russian women really love to feel sorry for all sorts of losers and alcoholics. And at the same time, they also declare that since she pities him, it means she loves, that is, love and pity in their understanding are one and the same. But, how can a woman feel a strong male shoulder, pitying a man as some kind of weak individual? How can she feel like behind a stone wall behind a weakling who needs to be pitied and always listen to about his problems? Hardly... And there are quite a few of these men who love to complain about life. And there are women who believe that if they listen to a man, agree and sympathize with him, then their relationship will become deeper.

But do not confuse female psychology with male. Yes, women in difficult situations need to talk about their problems, speak them out loud, discuss with someone, and then it becomes easier for them. But it doesn't work with men. Most often, when a man has problems, he withdraws into himself to think about the situation. And if he wants to discuss it, which happens quite rarely, then most likely he will do it with friends. And if he really needs to get some advice from a woman, which happens even less often than discussing the situation with friends, then he will simply briefly outline the situation and ask for advice. However, in this case, it is still advisable not to give advice, but simply to support him by asking leading questions. Just don’t make a smart face and pretend to be Miss Marple or a smart connoisseur from the program “What? Where? When?" or pretend to be a professional psychologist.

In a word, stand in a position from above, considering yourself the smartest. Ask questions from the position of a curious girl, turning them to his strength, intelligence and will (for example, “what can be done in this case, what do you think?” Or “what options do you see out of this situation?”, And so on) . In this way, you will show him that you are together and that you believe in him and help him make a decision or find a way out of the situation. Men need to solve problems on their own, they need difficulties and lessons - this is the key to their development both as individuals and as men. By making decisions on their own, men become more responsible. And if you give advice and recommendations, then you take on some of the responsibility. Leave it to the man, responsibility is their quality, they need it more.

A man who constantly complains about life simply uses a woman as a vest. He will come to her and merge his life problems into her, but he will meet and go on dates with other women. And the woman into whom he merges all this negativity will consider, out of her kindness of soul, that since he trusts her, and she encourages him and sympathizes with him, then their relationship is deep and strong. If you come across such a man, then just remind him that he is already a "big boy" and can easily cope with all his problems. If you have a normal, and not always crying man, then do not climb into his soul with your conversations and “sorry” at the wrong time. If you see that your man is not in the mood or in a depressed state, you should not try to pull the reason out of him with ticks, you should not bring him out to talk and feel sorry. Remember, the pity of a real man humiliates. Respect a man, love, but just do not regret! Just give it time and leave it alone. He will decide everything himself and become a stronger and more self-confident person.

3. Do not try to develop him spiritually

Some women try to spiritualize their own by persuading him to listen to some lectures, go to a seminar with her, or slip him various books and videos. Most often in men, this causes only rejection and rejection. Therefore, such things should not be done. Develop and educate yourself, improve and work on yourself, grow spiritually and intellectually. Become joyful and happy, learn to communicate with people, be a "firefly".

In general, take care of yourself without trying to cram everything that you know and study into your man. Of course, if he does not show any interest in this. And if it does, it does not mean that you need to take on the role of the Guru and start telling him, the unreasonable, reasonable things. Maybe he respects you as a teacher, but at the same time he can completely forget that you are a woman, moreover, his woman, and even his beloved. Therefore, you just make a nice face and say something like: “Darling, I myself have not understood everything yet, so I can hardly explain anything to you. I listened to this and this lecture. If you're interested, then listen for yourself." Thus, you will not crush the man with your intellect and take a position from above. I read somewhere that a man a priori considers himself smarter than his woman simply because he is a man. Even if his wife completely suppressed him and commands him, deep down, he still considers himself smarter.

Now I still quite often hear such a version that a woman is a source of energy for a man and that without her a man is simply no good for anything and cannot do anything. And that an energetically filled woman can make a president out of even the most worthless man. I do not entirely agree with this version, although I do not rule it out completely. It just turns out that a man, as it were, works on some kind of low-power battery (well, they didn’t give him more at birth), and a woman has, for example, five powerful Duracell batteries. And a man must constantly connect to a woman in order to somehow recharge. So what?

I believe that a man also has a powerful energy, it is not for nothing that many ancient teachings say that a man is the Sun, this is a source of energy. And that, on the contrary, a woman takes energy from him and distributes it correctly. In general, there are different versions. Therefore, you should not take responsibility for the development of a man and take on a weak man, trying to nourish and warm him in every possible way. A normal man has enough energy of his own, just like a normal woman. And when both are filled, they have a beneficial interchange of energies, and in a pair such people can do and achieve more than alone. This, in my opinion, is the most correct and excellent union. And no one should feed and charge anyone. This is already some kind of vampirism, but there should be an equivalent energy exchange.

Yes, they say that behind every great man there is an equally great woman, but I will never believe that a man did not have his potential at all, and only thanks to the strength and energy of a woman he rose to the top. I just think that they had approximately the same potentials that both of them could develop and increase. If a woman invests all her potential in a man, then the result can be sad. A sea of ​​stories about how a man, having become rich and famous, left his aging wife and married a young one. And the woman remained with nothing, telling everyone that she put all her youth, all her life on him, that she helped him in everything, and in return she received such ingratitude and meanness. Therefore, again, I repeat, do not take responsibility for the development of a man, take care of yourself, develop yourself. There is no need to lie down on the sacrificial altar, dedicating yourself to a man and trying with all your might to advance him in life. For your man to start moving, you just need to love him, admire him and believe in him.

Be wiser by following the above tips and remain just beloved women, and not waistcoats, saviors, caring mothers or spiritual teachers.

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Knowing when to quit and when to move on is the key to emotional survival.

Until we are 200% sure that the relationship is over, we continue to believe in it. This is understandable, because in a few years (or months) we become so attached to a person, we can say “grow into” him, that it is very painful to part. It is clear that you are trying to save the relationship: there is always hope that they will change for the better.

Not everyone has the guts to end a relationship the moment it really ended. Here are 21 signs that "finita la comedy" if it has not yet arrived, then it is already very, very close. If at least four points out of all you say: “This is about us,” think about parting more seriously than usual.

1. Resentment

You are constantly offended by your partner, but do not say anything. You think that this is how you save your relationship, but in fact you only delay that unpleasant moment when all the accumulated negativity breaks out and your relationship ends in a painful break.

Resentment does not go anywhere, especially if the factors that cause it do not disappear. If it does not splash out, then it accumulates inside, and this causes stress and illness. And, of course, destroys relationships - slowly but surely.

2. Disrespect

If you and your partner have reached the point where you show mutual disrespect, it's time to destroy your illusions. There is nothing easier than to stop being attached to someone who shows you disrespect.

People can continue to live together without respect and awareness of the value of each other, which leads to absolute indifference about the needs and desires of a partner. Well, what kind of continuation can we talk about?

3. Contempt

It doesn’t matter what motives caused contempt, whether it was a failed one, a change in appearance or something else. Partners should support each other in any situation, because isn't this warmth we need so much under any circumstances, and especially during some personal problems.

If you started to treat each other with contempt, you no longer get warmth from relationships and you live not with a friend who understands, but with a cold creature who condemns you, why continue this?

4. Lies

I'm talking about that lie when you tell a person, "I love you," without experiencing any feelings. You are afraid of hurting him, but you are not really protecting him, but only making it worse. The truth will come out: you cannot lie all your life and at the same time not spoil it for yourself and your partner.

Well, if you say to yourself: “We are happy, I am happy, everything is fine with us”, when you feel that everything has already ended for you, this is also an escape from reality.

5. Distrust

If you do not trust your partner, then there are reasons for this. If they are so serious that trust cannot be restored, why stay with this person? All my life to check, worry and waste my nerves?

6. Swearing in public

Everything good that you can say about your partner can be said in public. And all the bad things are better left for personal conversations. To scold a person in public means to achieve only a negative response or a hidden resentment.

In addition, if you scold your partner in public or even just allow yourself unpleasant jokes about him, it means that dissatisfaction is growing inside, which has already begun to spill out.

7. Distance

You have already severed the emotional connection with your partner and thus gently let him know that it's over. Maybe it's better to do it right away, and not to produce suffering and doubts?

8. Demanding evidence of love

“If you love me, you…” It is very tempting to manage a person’s life in this way, and if you periodically hear this phrase, then something has gone wrong.

The only person who can change his feelings is himself, and some of your actions have nothing to do with it.

Well, if you yourself say so, think about whether you really need this person, will he become loved if he does something? And is it possible to manipulate those who really?

9. Public humiliation

If your partner has humiliated you in society once, he will most likely do it again and again. And it does not matter that he drank a lot that evening or he was in a bad mood.

Public humiliation of a partner only speaks of deep self-hatred, and no matter how much love you give to this person, it will not fix the situation without his firm desire to change and work with his self-esteem. And this is difficult not only to correct, but even to admit.

10. Obsession with another person

If your partner is obsessed with another person - whether he is friends with him or hopes for a closer relationship - sooner or later this will lead to a break.

Of course, this does not mean that partners should completely immerse themselves in each other and give all their energy to only one person, but obsession with someone else is fraught with suspicion, jealousy and resentment.

Yes, the partner is clearly missing something in your relationship if he is so drawn to another person, but you can hardly give him this. And certainly you should not change yourself for the sake of another person.

11. Obsession with pornography

There is nothing weird or wrong with partners watching porn together. Some kind of voyeurism helps to get turned on and find something new to try later in bed with a partner.

But if one of the partners is obsessed with pornography, complete satisfaction will always elude him: in pursuit of the Grail of the multiple, he may end up on the path of sexual perversion.

So, if you are not satisfied with such alignments, think about the root cause of this obsession, and about the possible consequences.

12. Emotional infidelity

Some people believe that monogamy is the only possible relationship option, for others it is difficult and almost impossible.

If you cheated for the sake of a variety of sexual experiences, the relationship can still be saved, but if there is an emotional attachment to the person with whom you had an intimate relationship, it is time to end the relationship.

The first question people ask when they find out about their partner's infidelity is: "Do you love him/her?" Because it is the emotional, and not the physical connection, that is the core of the relationship, and if it is gone, then you have nothing more to do here.

13. Inability to end the conflict

It starts as an endless struggle without reaching a consensus, which gradually develops into "as you wish", when the partners no longer care about the results of their struggle.

There is a rule: never go to bed offended by each other. And there is definitely something in it.

If none of the partners can pacify their pride and desire to always be the winner in the dispute, cannot agree to a truce without achieving their goal, these relations have no continuation.

14. Subconscious

If you unconsciously do things that harm your relationship, it is your psyche that tells you what you really need.

You can think whatever you want, but your actions speak of real desires better than all your assurances and hopes.

15. Obsession

If your partner has an obsession with, for example, alcohol or substances, he/she is a shopaholic, gambler, workaholic, or obsessed with sex, you will always end up in second or even fifth place and not get the emotional connection you want.

If you don't have an obsession with something, your partner's addiction can ruin not only his life, but yours as well. Not a very pleasant prospect.

16. Painful attachment to an ex

If your partner is still more than close with an ex-passionate or husband/wife, it's ruining the relationship.

Former partners need to be respected, especially if you have common children, but the first role is still assigned to the current partner. If this does not happen, it is easy to feel secondary and unnecessary, and this is a direct path to a breakup.

17. Threats and emotional blackmail

This is a clear sign. Emotional blackmail is often presented as intense love, but it is actually control. And control, in turn, is an abuse of feelings. You have to run as far away from it as you can see.

18. Constant comparison and ratings

Does your partner compare you to others who are prettier, earn more, smarter, and more interesting than you? This is one form of humiliation. If someone thinks that the grass is greener in someone else's yard, let him go there.

Humans are unique creatures, although they are similar in many ways. You shouldn't compare yourself, let alone listen to it from your partner.

19. Indifference

Why stay together if you don't care about each other?

20. Disappearance of attachment

There's nothing wrong with wanting a roommate, but if you want more from a relationship, don't stay with a partner who isn't your one and only. Don't just stay because it's convenient for you.

21. Physical abuse

There are no excuses, no explanations, circumstances and promises do not matter. You just have to leave.

In general, conflicts in a relationship are a way to get rid of pain, but their causes may vary. It can be a way to open the boil of dissatisfaction and resentment that has arisen in a relationship in order to clean out the wound, remove what is in the way, and save the relationship.

But it also happens differently, when conflicts are a way to break off relationships, to inform the other person that they are over, that it is no longer worth tormenting each other.

And it is better to learn to distinguish one conflict from another, otherwise it will be painful and bad for both partners.

Some women feel that the "real man" doesn't exist - he can't be found. Others don't want someone like him. On the other hand, some guys are sure that they are the ones who fit the definition of a “real man”. Others think it's not about them. The truth is that those men who think they are "real" and those who do not think so are most often mistaken.

To understand whether a man is “real”, you need to watch his actions. The behavior of a real man is very different from a narcissistic boy, and the difference is hard to miss. He must be a gentleman - and not just for the first few months. A real man behaves in such a way that it's hard not to fall in love with him.

1. A real man loves and respects his woman for who she is.

He may not love her all the time, but he loves her. Not only her body, possessions or status, but everything about her. He knows that physical beauty fades with time. Therefore, he focuses his love and attention on the true beauty that is in her feelings and personality. He treats her like a lady, with dignity and respect. He does not mind cooking her favorite dish, inviting her to dinner and paying the bill. But he expects the same love and respect from her.

2. He focuses entirely on relationships.

A real man doesn't cheat. He is faithful to his partner and knows that it takes constant work to keep the relationship strong and healthy. He never forgets about his woman. He nurtures and strengthens relationships through constant communication and teamwork. If you are with a real man, then you know that you can trust him. He will remain faithful no matter the circumstances and expects the same from his partner.

3. A real man protects his partner physically and emotionally.

This does not mean that a woman cannot stand up for herself, but he is there anyway. He protects her in many ways, including providing financial security, comforting her, and making her feel like everything is going to be okay. He is willing to fight if necessary to protect her from physical danger. However, he thinks before he acts. He will never make a move unless he is sure all the details are in order. All his actions are calculated, thoughtful and confident. Abuse is not a problem when you are with it. He surrounds you with care and attention.

4. He satisfies his partner mentally and sexually.

A real man knows that most of the time in a relationship you have to do something that is not at all sexual. He not only reminds his beloved how beautiful she is and how he wants to be alone with her when he returns home, but also discusses plans for life and does everything to revive the joint moments. He uses his intelligence and sensitivity to be not only timely but also charming.

5. A real man takes the lead

This is because he "wears pants" in the relationship. Of course, a woman chose them for him, but he is still the leader in the relationship. He takes a step forward and boldly considers all issues in the relationship. He does not wait for a woman to solve all problems. If he is not sure how to do this, he will seek help or advice. Some men avoid first roles because they don't want to be criticized. But not a real man. He takes the initiative to resolve all issues that come his way.

6. A real man takes steps and makes tough decisions.

It is he who makes decisions in a relationship, since his opinion is decisive. He does not shift all the problems to his partner. But when making a decision, he seeks to understand her views and takes them into account in his decision. He does not seek to control people to improve his situation. If you are reluctant to make decisions, then you are most likely shy and afraid of making a mistake. Women do not like indecisive cowardly people.

7. He takes responsibility for his actions and decisions.

A real man does not shift his blame to others (especially his partner), and does not try to justify his mistakes. He simply admits that he made a mistake and apologizes for it, remembers this lesson and tries to fix everything. Saying "I'm sorry" is easy for him. He knows it won't affect him as a man. In fact, when a man says he's sorry, he's showing his confidence, courage, and honesty to admit his mistakes and correct them.

8. He always says what he thinks

He is not afraid to be timid to say what he thinks. He will say “no” and at the same time will not be afraid that he disagrees with someone. He will discuss with you even those topics that he considers uncomfortable, and at the same time he will not lose his composure. He will simply talk to you on an equal footing, and after that he will allow you to draw your own conclusions and do what you want. This does not mean that he treats you badly, or that you are indifferent to him. He just disagrees with you. He knows that a person who constantly says "yes" cannot be called a real man.

9. A real man stands up for his relationship.

Sometimes friends, family, or even strangers may ask uncomfortable questions about your relationship and tell you that you're not right for each other. In such cases, a real man will defend his relationship. This means that he can express himself in front of others, protect his woman and act like an adult.

10. He has hobbies that are not related to a partner.

The life of a real man is quite eventful. This means that in addition to relationships, he has at least one other hobby. He will give you free space and you should do the same. He is confident and ambitious. He is a real man!

Loving someone, giving them your life, and still getting something in return is incredibly difficult. Not every couple manages to keep their feelings for many years, although everyone dreams of this. To understand that the main thing in a relationship is possible only after a person enters into them, feels all the difficulties and problems in his own skin. And yet there are a few nuances here that are important for everyone to know.

Respect as the key to the longevity of love

Each couple independently decides what is important for them in a relationship, and what is secondary. Someone brings to the fore compatibility in bed, and it is important for someone to have common interests.

However, family psychologists easily name the very secret that helps people to be together for many years. And his name is "Respect".

Passion decreases over time, the fire of love dies out, but this is not at all a reason for parting. What gives mutual respect to partners who have been in a relationship for a long time?

Thus, by treating a partner as an equal, a person will be able to reduce the number of quarrels and minimize the risk of separation. However, it is very important that a respectful attitude arises from both sides. If only one person works on solving problems, and the second one shows indifference, this will not turn out to be good for lovers.

Important Factors Affecting the Longevity of a Novel

It is extremely difficult to answer unequivocally that the most important thing in a love relationship is extremely difficult. Both psychologists and lovers themselves call several nuances at once. Here are just the most popular answers to a difficult question:

Of course, the most important thing in a relationship is the presence of feelings, because without them, partners are unlikely to want to work on a joint future. It is difficult to tolerate the shortcomings of a spouse if he does not cause any positive emotions.

However, psychologists emphasize that one should not overemphasize elementary love chemistry. That same notorious passion, uncontrolled sexual attraction sooner or later passes. And if the lovers put sex at the forefront, they will certainly part, rushing headlong in search of new thrills.

It is also impossible to rely only on similar views or the same social status. The fact is that under the influence of a partner, aspirations, like views, can be transformed. And now the man who spoke yesterday about his love of freedom, today insists on the appearance of a baby. Similar aspirations and views that appear immediately are excellent, but thanks to the boundless desire for happiness, they can be changed by adjusting to your soulmate.

The family is always built on three pillars: respect, trust and feelings. If at least one component is missing, the couple is most likely doomed to parting. However, life is unpredictable, and sometimes feelings or trust do not arise immediately. Lovers have to work again and again to achieve perfection in love.

Daily work on feelings

What to do if you managed to meet a person who fully shares your views on life and aspirations? Most people think that in such a situation, you just need to enjoy what is happening without making any effort. However, this position is fundamentally wrong. Husband and wife must work on their relationship on a daily basis, talk and resolve conflict situations in order to ultimately save the marriage from collapse.

How should lovers act if they are driven by the desire to work on relationships?

A relationship is never too strong. Random betrayal, one petty quarrel can destroy them. That is why even couples who have been living together for several decades need to work on a joint future.

Many psychologists note that it is precisely because of the lack of dialogue between partners that they gradually move away from each other. The main principle here is simple: sometimes forgetting about your own interests, go towards your beloved, forgive him and make a contribution to a common happy future.

What not to do in a relationship

• offended by a partner, a person tries to do something out of spite;
• one should never perceive the loved one as something going or coming. The second half should be one and for life, the only and irreplaceable;
• it is necessary to avoid cheating by all means, while not trying to arouse the interest of a partner with the help of jealousy;
• even if a career starts to go uphill, you can’t push your soulmate into the background, atoning for your guilt with the help of gifts;
• it is also not recommended to show excessive expression during quarrels, wanting to awaken former passion.

Another mistake often cited by psychologists is the desire to compare their relationships with others. A guy and a girl can be extremely experienced, but this does not mean that they need to compare past feelings with their current ones. Also, you should not adopt a model of behavior from friends or relatives. Each couple is unique, and therefore it is so important for lovers to develop an individual model for the development of feelings.

Many girls make another mistake - they bow too much to their beloved. Feelings are so strong that the fair sex simply cannot cope with them. They forget about pride, about their own "I", completely dissolving in a partner. Usually such ladies forgive their soulmate any offenses, but without ending with anything good.

Understanding the dependence of a woman, a man pushes her around, and sometimes it comes to terrible humiliation. Both partners must be equal, both must go towards each other, sometimes stepping over pride.

To feel each other every minute, to understand and share the views of a partner - these are the main secrets of a successful relationship. By showing respect, boundless trust and love for a partner, while receiving the same in return, a partner will be able to find the very long-term happiness in the family that everyone dreams of.

Oksana, Snezhinsk

As you know, young people are reluctant to take advice in a relationship with a loved one. But, as you know, it is the human advice acquired over the years that can help in a relationship.

Sooner or later, but there comes a moment when two people of the opposite sex notice a change in feelings in themselves. In the end, one way or another, it leads to some kind of certain relationship.

Initially, it all starts with youthful love, and then after a while they begin to notice that true love has overtaken them. Then during this period for most people the question arises of how to maintain feelings and respect with your soulmate for a long time?

The most interesting thing is that this question is of interest not only to girls, but also to boys, who, as a rule, are also very worried about how relationships will develop. After all, there are two people who are completely different in character. Therefore, in order to make as few mistakes as possible, such advice in relations between young people will be very useful.

The first, and probably the most important advice, is that no matter what the chosen one or chosen one is, he is a person who must always be respected and accepted as such a person as he is. In the initial stage, when relationships are just beginning to develop, many young people make mistakes. And how without them, because experience and wisdom comes with age.

Of course, it will not work to prevent all failures and disappointments, but still, if you listen to your parents and try to take their advice, then this will be the best option. Since every parent tries to protect his child from adversity and love failures until the end of his days.

If we do not consider each person individually, then psychologists have made some general conclusions and conclusions.

So, how should a young girl or woman behave with her chosen one and what should she not do? According to statistics, every second girl tries to immediately control her young man. To do this, she begins to use her tricks, which are given to her by nature itself. However, at a young age, she does not know how to manage her emotions and may misuse her abilities.

It is worth considering one fact, this is that men absolutely do not like when they are trying to lead or manage. This behavior is connected with the fact that a man, as a rule, was brought up in such a way that he must always make responsible decisions and take care of a woman. A woman is a weak creature and she always needs protection!

This concept in young guys is very well developed since childhood. Therefore, if a girl wants to stay with her beloved and marry him, then she should not immediately take him into circulation. But when she already has a stamp in her passport, only then it will be possible to apply her charm, and in practice "sculpt" her happiness.

Of course, there can be no talk of any betrayal. Since a man is extremely hard going through such events. After all, many couples break up even from where there was no place for treason at all. But only because the woman simply decided to “tease” her lover a little. Such things are strictly prohibited. Since, if you give a man at least one slightest reason to think that his beloved was close to another, then jealousy and doubts will settle in his head for a long time. And getting rid of them is not so easy, thus you can forever impose a taboo in a relationship.

Quite often, in the relationship between a man and a woman there is distrust and moralizing. This is one of the most common mistakes young people make at a very early stage in a relationship. It often happens that a woman constantly sees in her partner a certain person who is deceiving her.

Although at this moment the man is trying to explain everything to her, while citing his reliable facts confirming his words, she still does not let up and remains with her own opinion. Thus, a man is very tired of constant tantrums and reproaches, and, of course, cannot stand it. Then the young people part. Therefore, in order to avoid such an incident, a woman should initially check all the information available several times, only after that talk in a calm atmosphere with a man.

The main tool of a woman is that if she speaks in calm, peaceful tones, then she is much more likely to find out the whole truth. If she begins to iterate and scatter accusations, then nothing good will come of the conversation.

Another good and practical advice is that a girl or woman who wants to maintain a relationship with her beloved for a long time, she should take into account the fact that from the very beginning she should not only become a lover in sexual pleasures, but also try to be a friend and mother to her beloved. In no case can one say something bad about the mother of a young man, since the mother will always remain for him the standard of perfection.

You need to be a friend or girlfriend in any situation, only then will she have full access to his innermost desires. It often happens that if lovers meet at work and have common interests, then they most often come to marriage or marriage. Since they spend a lot of time together, and they are connected by one common cause.

Therefore, based on the foregoing, you can apply the following tips in relationships with your loved one:

One truth must be remembered that it is worth behaving with a man the way she herself wants him to behave with her. Therefore, before you say something offensive or reproach, it is worth remembering that he is also a person and he has his own point of view and pride.

Regardless of how long the relationship between lovers lasts, a girl or woman should always look well-groomed. After all, if she wants it, she can even look perfect, feminine and sexy at home. The best advice is that if a woman from the very beginning of a relationship accustoms her partner to the fact that she will look like a mystery to him every time. This type of women is not threatened with divorce, because men simply adore women of mystery.

Do not talk negatively about your man's close relatives. Because they don't like it very much. Especially if you have to choose between a mother and a girl, then he does not need such an ultimatum. For a woman, the best option would be if she manages to make friends with the mother of a young man. One way or another, but from friendship with the future mother-in-law, you can learn a lot of useful things.

Do not refuse to visit friends or relatives. If a young man has planned a visit to his relatives or simply invited him to visit friends, then in this case it is best to support him in this, and it is even better to throw such a phrase like “I myself wanted to offer you ...”

In no case should you put your beloved in an awkward position, especially insult and humiliate in front of other people. Firstly, such a method is simply inappropriate and a person does not have the right to insult or humiliate another in public, and secondly, if such actions occur in the presence of a mother or any other relative, then the risk of acquiring not accomplices will increase, but on the contrary, it is possible make enemies for yourself.

You should not compare your young man with someone else, and even worse if you compare him in public with an ex-boyfriend. Such an attitude can develop an inferiority complex on the part of a man, which will eventually lead to a break in relations.

It is impossible from the first days to put pressure on a man and oblige him to make expensive gifts. Since this can serve the fact that he will perceive that the girl does not love him, but his big wallet. So do not rush things, everything has its time. If a woman presents herself correctly, then she will receive appropriate gifts.

Well, of course, the most poignant and tangible advice is intimate life. First of all, you need to remember that sexual and love affairs are called intimate because they are only personal relationships that concern only two people. Therefore, in no case should you discuss the bed with anyone.

And also talk about unsuccessful attempts or, in the presence of your young man, discuss your past novels. After all, as a rule, no matter what a man is, it will be unpleasant for him to realize that his treasure belonged to someone else. Even if a woman had a turbulent past, then she should be silent about it and close these secrets in the closet.

Of course, these tips are not enough, but nevertheless, in conclusion, I would like to note that if a young girl knows and follows them, she will have many chances to maintain relations with a close and beloved person for a long time.