What is the last love for a man. What is male love

February 24, 2015, at 20:09

No one will deny that men and women understand and regard emotions and feelings differently, because in this article we decided to talk about how men feel and not by the “mind” of a woman, but by himself.

So what does He feel? What does his soul conceal? What is his reaction to your actions? These and many other questions have always interested women, including you. We will try to see what is happening in the male soul in order to try to learn from this. For this, experience will be offered to men in counseling, the opinions they expressed, observation of the reaction in various situations, and we will try to draw conclusions that can help both sides find harmony in the relationship.

A man wants to live here and now

Now it becomes clear why most often the initiative to establish and / or develop relations comes from the weak half of humanity. After all, men usually treat these proposals with disdain, they say, why complicate everything, it’s not bad with her, but give her a husband on a plate.

The fact is that men don’t rush to evaluate their feelings for you, much less yours to themselves. They live by the principles of “Good now, and excellent. What to run ahead of the engine! ” And this means that developing their feelings, building relationships for them is not the main issue.

And at the same time, a man is to see you as often as possible, to communicate, to feel close, to make love. But thinking about the seriousness of the relationship, let alone extending them or some kind of legitimization, is of least interest to them, because men seek pleasure, not tomorrow, but today, now. The fact is that most often a man lives according to the principle: "We are healthy now, but love ... love is a gain."

Conclusion This feature of male life perception is worth learning. After all, women want to solve problems right now, and that’s all! therefore, at the reception you can often hear the phrase: “We have been dating for a long time, but I still can’t understand our relationship!” But in reality, is it so important if you feel good with a person now ?! After all, today no one knows what will happen tomorrow.

Daily meetings are not important for him

But he does not burn with the desire to see you every day, even when he is actually in love. This is how a man works.

And yet, there are two cases when he wants to see you daily:

When he is afraid of losing you, even if you are scolded, and he is offended or angry and blames you for all your sins. He still thinks that he does not want to lose you and is ready to do what you want from him.

The second point is that the woman "misses" herself to him. And this means that you don’t have to run headlong at his first click, leave him a little earlier than he expected or wanted. Occasionally be "busy" and refuse his invitations. For this case, the client’s expression fits perfectly: “I think I love Vera. I could not take my former girls out of the house, and Vera, leaving me on Sunday morning, leaves a void in my heart, and I do my best to keep it as long as possible. ”

Conclusion Make him dream of seeing you as often as possible. Do not run to the man at the first call. Indeed, on an empty stomach, any dish seems to be the most delicious.

What does love mean for a man?

It is important that when a man declares his love, it does not mean that he really experiences this feeling. Perhaps saying “I love you” is a manipulation used to achieve something specific: sex, forgiveness, etc.

In order to understand what makes up the sincerity of male feelings, you need to understand the foundation on which they arise:

Fear of loss

However, it is worth knowing that fear in itself does not appear, but is based on some feelings, but not love. Someone is afraid of loneliness, because they are unsure of themselves or of mercantile considerations. This means that fear develops into love, it needs to be fed by other emotions, described below.

Care

Complicity and some kind of care are the second component of love. The fact is that you will never hear a word of love from a man if he does not feel pity for you. And all because he closely connects love with the desire to experience, protect his love, taking care of it and making life easier. Thus, rejoicing that he has done something good for the woman, and, not expecting gratitude, the man shows and shows his love.

A great example is the words of a young man in love: “I love to do something pleasant for her that I have never done to anyone before. Her happy eyes fill my heart with joy. ” In the case when He perceives the situation like this, we can say that for himself he admits that he is in love.

Delight

Yes, admiration is the third fundamental feeling that underlies love. But, this emotion is most often manifested at the very beginning of falling in love or in the case when love is inseparable. However, if admiration is absent, then this does not mean that there is no more love. After all, maybe a man at the moment is depressed, in a bad mood, etc. But in this case, He does not admire other women, that is, no one.

And it’s hard to admire a person whom you know “as yourself” all the shortcomings and advantages. And it is at this stage that admiration is replaced by tenderness and affection, which in turn confirms that male love is based on three positions.

Conclusion Do not let a man feel that he absolutely conquered you. Also, if a woman is mega independent and strong, then there are times when you should not stick it out, but it’s better to pretend to be weak and defenseless. After all, men at all times positioned themselves as defenders, so do not stop him from embodying this desire to protect you in life. But the most important thing is that in reality, a loving woman knows what exactly admires her man, then she must “beat”.

Love is evil? The opinion of men!

Men are the eternal mystery of nature. Restrained, reserved, mysterious. Do they think of a loving principle? And if so, what exactly do they think? Interestingly, men's thoughts about such an exalted feeling like love are cynical or, on the contrary, romantic? The editors of WomanJournal.ru decided to arrange for men interrogation with a passion!

About love: the opinion of a male conservative

Vadim, 27 years old. Stupid, uncompromising, eloquent, conservative. I loved.

Tell me, Vadim, do men think about love?

By itself. We just don’t admit it. For some reason, it is believed that this is not courageous. But in fact, we guys sometimes just start to be plagued by “eternal questions” on the topic of what love is and what it is eaten with.

And what is love?

Extreme feeling. The attachment is so strong that in the literal sense of the word you begin to feel the person you love. You catch the slightest changes in his mood, unravel his innermost desires, feel that in a sense this person is an extension of you, that is, your second self.

Is love for men pleasure or punishment?

The punishment that you enjoy.

No, I would not be able to love a girl who is not decent enough, moral, and in general. For me, the first is spiritual beauty. If she is not there, then no matter what figure and face she possesses, I will not be able to take her seriously.

Do you believe in eternal love?

By itself! True love must be eternal. And if love passed, then it was not love, but love. In fact, love and love are one and the same process, but they have different results. True, only mutual love can claim to be eternal. Nonreciprocal, fortunately, most often passes.

Love: the opinion of a male cynic

Ivan, 21 years old. Charming, cynical, skeptic. Did not love.

Tell me, Ivan, do you believe in the love of men?

Why?

Because I do not want to believe in it. Too many problems from this feeling.

How do you know if you did not like?

I look at others, how they are tormented for nothing, and I see nothing good in it.

Love is blind?

Did you love a goat?

What about the goat?

Never mind. Let's say. But I repeat, this is not love. There is no love, there is an attraction that just had to be called beautifully somehow. So he was called love.

What does attraction mean?

Well, procreation, probably. How do animals act there, choose that female, which, in their opinion, can best continue the genus? So men unconsciously choose the girl who is best suited in this sense. But that is not love.

That is, attraction is purely physical?

Is not a fact. After all, animals also go through a period of flirting, courtship and all that.

Do you believe in eternal love?

Why?

I have not met such cases.

Are you ready for sacrifices in the name of love?

Well ... (this question puzzles him especially, he plunges into gloomy silence for a long time) Well, maybe. But from the tenth floor I would not jump, I would not give up my habits, I would not change my life ... In general, I would not do anything, I would not sacrifice anything. (Laughs) Probably, after this interview, no girl wants to mess with me ...

So you answered so only to shock?

No, I really think so.

And you can honestly answer that you told the truth, only the truth and nothing but the truth?

Well, nobody else will know this except me ...

Love: the opinion of a romantic man

Alexander, 24 years old. Kind, harmless, sincere, open. I loved.

Sasha, how many times have you loved?

Twice.

That is, do you believe in love from a man?

Is love for a man a pleasure or a punishment?

Both. Punishment is jealousy and restriction of freedom. When you walk, for example, along the street with her, there are a lot of beautiful girls around, and you are busy ... This is punishment, and everything else is a pleasure.

Love is blind?

No. If you fell in love with a girl, then she cannot be a “goat,” even if you are later disappointed in her. It was your choice anyway. No wonder you chose her. And everyone has their drawbacks. The girl I can choose should be like me. Should be my other half.

But you say you already loved twice. So, do you have many potential halves?

No, just the first girl was a bit of perfection, and when I lost her, for many years I was looking for something like her. And when I finally found it, this second girl eclipsed the first. She was even better ...

Do you believe in the eternal love of men?

Guys are capable of this, but girls are not. (Such an attack on the side of the fair sex for a moment deprives me of speechlessness - Approx. Author).

That is, how is it?

Well, I do not know. But for some reason you always leave us. What is it for?..

Why would you never forgive your girlfriend?

Cheating lies. I really appreciate honesty in a girl. If she can directly confess to me her mistakes, then this is a very big plus. This increases the chance that I will forgive her. Indeed, if she herself confessed everything to me, that means she understood her mistake, that means she will not repeat it again.

These are such different opinions. Some of the men think that love is strength, someone considers it a manifestation of weakness. Another thing is important: love is a feeling that touches absolutely everyone. In general, girls, relax, guys also think about it! So bold, love! Love is, of course, risk, danger, a walk along the razor's edge, tango on the edge of the abyss. But does life without love make sense?

Not everything is so simple in the world of men. They live with us, love us, but play according to their own rules. And we girls need to know these rules in order to understand which game to play and how to win. The more competently you show yourself in your relationship with your lover, the more points you will earn in the eyes of the chosen one as his girlfriend, wife and mother of future children.

Not one step back, or Rule One

All people are wrong, but men never. The statistics of the “Hunting School” (a sample of five thousand men) happily informs us that the probability of a man recognizing his mistake tends to zero. This is especially true if the woman turned out to be right. A man, of course, can apologize, but with what pleasure he will blame everything on circumstances. He will say that he was forced: "I did not want to, but it happened." The most amazing thing is that most likely he is telling the truth, and the most difficult thing is to look at this truth with male eyes. I warn you right away, the guilty of his story will be: colleagues, bosses, the situation, but not him.

The only intention that he is pursuing at this moment is a desperate desire to remain a good guy for you. After all, when a man did not live up to your expectations, he is most afraid of being bad. He himself perfectly understands that he is guilty. When a woman constantly points a man to his mistakes and recalls old sins, then sooner or later he will begin to meet your worst expectations.

As soon as a man made a mistake and you were right, you will inevitably have a choice: to be right and to defend your point of view further or to be happy and look at the situation through the eyes of a man. And you will choose the second, if you value your relationship. While you accept his truth, while you look at him with faith and admiration in his eyes, he will strive to match his reflection in the eyes of his beloved woman.

Step forward, two steps back, or Rule Two

Man with getting to know   not looking for a serious relationship. “Regular frivolous” is quite enough for him. Remember how often it sounds: “I want to get married!”, But you hardly hear about the fact that “I want to get married”.

Any attempt to enter the name of a young man in a marriage certificate is perceived by him as an aggressive encroachment on his freedom. And the man is very jealous of his personal space. Only after some time, becoming more aware of how good he is with this girl, a man begins to let her into his personal space.

But you need to "master" male territory as if you were a cat, slowly and carefully moving forward on soft paws. Should you show the claws or declare that you have the right to his space, the man will immediately take a step back or to the side, reminding you that you are only a guest in his house, even if it is desired.

If you want to marry a chosen one - act! Siege, ambush and caution - these are your trump cards on the way to female happiness. You can’t take this fortress by storm.

Dust in the eyes, or Rule Three

All men boast, but everyone does it his own way: someone is a beautiful wife, someone is a new machine, and someone is the number of books read.

When a woman admires a man, he feels special. And at this moment a miracle happens: a simple guy suddenly has wings growing behind him. Now he is a superman and is ready to kill the villain, in the sense, to cope with any problem.

Therefore, admiration is what unconsciously awaits and what each representative of the strong half of humanity dreams of. Thirst and need for admiration is manifested in rivalry with friends, in the desire to splurge women. He boasts of himself and subconsciously awaits approval from the outside. As in childhood. After all, if he is “wow,” what a wonderful thing it must be noticed.

When you hear any revelations from a man, do not stop him, do not try to dispel his illusion of omnipotence. Fantasy, even if it is far from reality, can become a reality, if you allow yourself to believe in it.

Brevity is the sister of talent, or the Fourth Rule

Communication plays a different role in the life of a man and a woman. For girls, the process of communication is a pleasure in itself. For guys, it's just a way to get information. And everything that they hear is perceived as is. Ornate phrases and indirect requests do not find a response in the male soul. The simpler the sentence is built, the greater the likelihood that you will be correctly understood.

The girl, who is in a relationship with a young man, sincerely believes that a loved one should read her thoughts or at least guess her desires. But the more veiled the request, the more hints, the more difficult it is for a man to guess what they want from him. In this misunderstanding lies the cause of female disappointment. And a man has a counter reaction - irritation. He feels that they are dissatisfied with him, but cannot understand what he is doing wrong and why not just say what is required of him?

It just so happened that a man is a logical and attractive creature, but he is used to speaking short and understandably, receiving concrete answers to his questions and simply does not know how to do it in another way. Explaining your needs as much as possible, you make it easier for him and get what you need: a new iPhone, a trip to the cinema or a gentle SMS for the night.

The Iron Mask, or Rule Five

In the harsh world of men, it is not customary to show emotions. A true hero is always masked: no one should see his face. The ability to "keep a brand" and hide experiences is a hallmark of the strongest half of humanity. A man who has trouble at work is the most closed, laconic and gloomy creature in the world. All that he wants, when he has a difficult period in his life, so that the household, together with his beloved woman, leave him alone.

At that moment, a woman gets into her head various bad thoughts, and she begins to think about them. After going through the worst options for the development of relations, the girl takes offense and goes into herself, and then the young man gets one more headache. Or begins with an addiction to interrogate a loved one about what plunged him into world sorrow. To cope with something - to survive betrayal, resentment or solve a difficult task - it is necessary to digest it in yourself.

But for us to be patient. After all, after a man solves his problems in his head, we will receive a well-deserved reward: he will return in a wonderful mood and ready for communication.

Herd instinct, or Sixth rule

Herd instinct is not a relic of the past, it still drives modern representatives of the strongest half of humanity and is manifested in the male desire to unite in a company. The signs by which men join in groups are three.

The first is by age. People of the same age have something to remember, because their childhood passed at the same time and the culture of this period will always be close to them.

The second is based on interests. The direction of male interests can lie in any field.

The third - according to the presence of a common enemy. These groups have the highest levels of adrenaline and testosterone and the most intolerant attitude towards life, often multiplied by a heightened sense of justice.

In each male group there are topics to which our boys show the most reverent interest. Sex, sports, and / or politics are what occupy heated male minds when we are not around.

If you are not satisfied that the young man spends too much time in the company, you can either enter his environment and become part of the group, or accept frequent absences with friends as personal space and calmly go about his business. You can enter the nearest environment of your beloved by accepting the following settings:

• First, your man has a cool company.
• Second, you like the place where they gather.
• Third - we talk about the desire to meet and chat with his friends. If we get a refusal, we return to point three in a couple of days or weeks.
• Fourth - his friends are your friends!

The "Dying Swan", or the Seventh Rule

There is no more defenseless and eager attention creature than a sick man. After all, even in conscious infancy (the age of three or more years), your boy was accustomed to the fact that if he is sick, he is the center of the universe. Now you don’t have to do much, everyone tiptoes and whispers. And it’s so nice when they take care of you, and the disease gives you a full carte blanche.

So at this moment you have the prospect of showing yourself in the best possible way. With their own hands, prepare chicken stock so useful in its “near-death” state, spoon-feed, straighten the blanket and put his favorite films on DVD. And if you want to breathe life into your “dying swan” to the maximum, then you can do all this in the robe of a nurse from a sex shop.

Men and women have a different psychology, and this can cause a disagreement in the relationship. But everything is in your hands: write the script of your life yourself, become a director and the main character of a story of your own happiness.

Most women do not really know how to determine if they are loved. Even sophisticated mademoiselle are barely familiar with the main qualities of male love. But what about young naive girls? They don’t understand at all how to distinguish a woman’s true love for a man from sweet joys. Let's try to figure it out.

Unfortunately, women and men see the love differently. At times, this becomes a serious cause for disagreement. However, do not forget, the feeling of falling in love is one for two. Just a man and a woman are two different galaxies. Nature conceived us as a mutually attractive plus and minus. One thing remains unchanged - we, no doubt, always need one another! Unfortunately, in love we express our emotions in completely different languages. That is why it is so hard at times to reach mutual understanding.

Diametrical opposites

A woman needs constant communication with a man. It is extremely important for her to arouse emotions in him, which is direct evidence of falling in love. No wonder they say: "If a woman stopped dripping on her brain, you already lost her." A man, on the contrary, keeps everything inside himself, trying to seem indifferent! He resolutely does not perceive constant conversations, declarations of love. In the formed pair, one always loves, and the other allows you to love. It is no wonder that feelings are mainly shown by a woman. Since ancient times, nature insidiously laid down this need for it. A couple who knows and accepts this fact can avoid unnecessary quarrels and insults in the future.

Recognition of one’s feelings arouses a genuine fear of responsibility among the stronger sex. For most, the response to this phrase is tantamount to an oath. A truly in love man will sincerely rejoice at the achievements of his beloved, will appreciate the aspirations, will take on the solution of any problems. A man’s love for a woman can be expressed in the time taken. As a rule, ladies rarely see this as a demonstration of feelings.

Expectations from a developing relationship are also different. For example, women want to feel the attention, care, tenderness and respect from their man. And the strong half of humanity wants to be perceived only as they are. Therefore, lovers try to provide each other with what they themselves want. Unfortunately, this is a false path to the opponent’s heart. Do not forget that, even being together, we are still completely different.

Keeping a relationship is hard work!

Naturally, in everyday relationships, there are also fights. For example, women, in the opinion of men, need attention over trifles. Owing to the hardness of their character, they are absolutely immune to such trifles. However, understanding this fact sometimes requires serious consideration. A woman suffering from a lack of attention, over time, becomes irritable, nervous. As a result of this, any communication with a man will suffer, or it will result in a search for attention on the side.

Still, the love of a woman and a man in what is expressed? A further difference is a consequence of the phrase "A man loves with his eyes, a woman with his ears." It is for this reason that the lady is easily captivated by sweet words, and the gentleman cannot fail to notice the harmony of long legs. Accordingly, in order for him to stop looking around, a sexy, exciting woman should be with him. Relationship psychologists have long confirmed that completely different parts of the brain correspond to male sex drive and a sense of love. Based on this man polygamy is inherent. He believes that his masculinity is expressed in the number of women.

In connection with the work of different parts of the brain, the attitude to physical closeness in women and men is also different. For the weaker sex, sex is a kind of process that requires a serious approach to choosing a partner. In the view of men, love and sex are not equal! At times, even the most faithful man seeks intimate feelings on the side. Unfortunately, physiology is to blame. There can be no talk of mutual understanding here!

Everyone knows that one hundred percent compatibility of men is a guarantee of a strong relationship. Moreover, the main role here is played not only by sexual, but also by natural as well as psychological compatibility. Over the years, sexual attraction no longer actually plays a special role. Unfortunately, love does not at all provide mutual understanding and support in everyday life. Misunderstanding can destroy any idyll in a relationship, fueling conflict. To at least a little closer to mutual understanding, you need to make a lot of effort.

Character

To identify compatibility, describe the two character traits in two columns. In the first, indicate all the positive qualities of the partner, in the second, fix what is annoying. Think about where you are ready to give in and what is completely unsatisfactory in the behavior of the partner. However, there is one condition. Evaluation should be impartial, and not be based solely on emotions alone. Psychologists advise to perform such a test together with a partner. Perhaps after comparing the overall results, you will be able to come to a mutual decision.

Psychology

It can be identified as follows. Write down a scale of your values \u200b\u200bon a piece of paper in descending order. In other words, the most significant indicators: family, friends, work, means. Further, each of the partners separately lists all the responsibilities with their own understanding of the situation. The test is formed in the similarity of its results, and not in the coincidence on all points. Well, if supported by women's views on love, a man’s relationship. It is then that a woman is ready to create real happy relationships. If one of the partners put the family in the first place, and the other - the career, then this is a serious reason for conflicts, contradictions.

Partnership

Partnership compatibility is the main indicator of the ability to maintain a common budget. The financial mismatch of partners will lead to significant discrepancies. Agree, if the budget of the chosen one consists solely of spending on yourself, you are unlikely to like this situation. In this case, psychologists also advise each of the partners to plan a budget on a piece of paper. Then compare the results of your lists, focusing not on contradictions, but on similarities. However, do not forget that full compatibility cannot be achieved without a common interest.

Temperament

Undoubtedly, romantic walks with a lover, his ability to provide you is wonderful. However, this is not enough! The guarantee of a happy, lasting relationship is the compatibility of sexual temperaments. In addition to pleasant sensations, as well as health benefits, sex can resolve almost any conflict. Also, a curious theory that depends on the zodiac horoscope enjoys a positive reputation. Perhaps you should pay attention to the date of birth of your partner?

The basic principles of temperament

Temperaments should be at least adjacent. For example, if a man has a high rate and a woman has a low rate, the relationship will be on the verge of failure. The same situation occurs when a man and a woman change roles. Partners will always feel uncomfortable. It will seem to them that something is wrong with them.

People with high temperament experience a constant desire. Usually their experimental sexual life begins at an early age, and the number of partners grows throughout life. Statistically, growth in a temperamental man is usually no more than average. It looks quite proportional. As for women, the owners of wide hips or curvaceous are also often very temperamental women. Ladies of short stature and short legs are also not bad in bed.

Researchers say that close temperaments are characteristic of people with similar growth. So miniature girls should not look for a partner among tall men. Such couples often face a variety of difficulties in sex.

For owners of a low type of temperament, intimate life always takes an insignificant place. The process of puberty in such people is usually late. They easily tolerate significant pauses in sex. Moreover, if once they chose a partner, then this is for life.

According to statistics, about 80% of humanity belongs only to the middle group. For example, high growth clearly indicates an insufficiently bright temperament.

What is absolute love?

The feeling of love is not limited only to the relationship of man and woman. It can be much wider. This is exactly how esotericism presents the love of a woman and a man. Most world religions are built on absolute love. Take, for example, Christianity in the image of Jesus Christ, where Love is one of the three virtues along with Faith and Hope. It can be called Agape, which in translation from the ancient Greek language means "gratuitous, selfless love." It does not manifest itself as a physical passion, but is based on a spiritual connection that lasts for years, or even to the death bed.

Mistakes of our time

In today's women, there is too much masculine energy. They forgot how to love! Through the fault of the weakened energy necessary for procreation, the fair sex did not inspire, but give. They forgot women and men! If a man wants to win the love of a woman, he must win the battle in her eyes. And a woman, in order to take possession of a man’s heart, needs to lose this battle.

For example, a woman’s destructive love for a man can be manifested in excessive care for her son. In this case, the mother interferes with the proper development of the male principle. Or a wife, confusing her relationship with her husband, turns into a compulsory “mommy”. This manifestation of energy is a masculine version of creation. A woman should be a faithful wife, a helper for her husband. Undoubtedly, the distortion of energies entails a violation of the correct interchange. Actually, therefore, there is so much disagreement between a woman and a man.

Energy interchange

If a woman accepts her lover without further reasoning, she awakens in him the desire to give the strength of her feelings. A woman’s love for a man is based on 4 energies: this is respect, patience, humility, tenderness. When a woman radiates appropriate energies, she inspires her man for generosity. In addition, an invisible energy-protective field literally forms around him, fueling forces. Such a field is able to protect the success of a man, his emotional balance.

Men to women manifest in bestowal. He is obliged to give his beloved his care, means and shelter. However, when a man does not meet bestowal, he stops giving, starting to accumulate. A strong half of humanity urgently needs a woman not to educate, but to love and accept the chosen one as they are.

Man and woman are a reflection of each other. Such a crooked mirror reflects everything that no one wants to know about themselves.

Natural needs

A woman expects to see a man as a breadwinner, a defender, support. He, in turn, expects tenderness and care from her. In order to complement each other, each partner is looking for those qualities that he himself does not have. As the representatives of the fair sex do not recognize weak men, also the powerful do not perceive this world. So in what, in fact, is the true love of a woman and a man expressed? She needs protection, and he needs faith in him, only in this case we can feel loved.

The idea of \u200b\u200bnature is such that a man and a woman understand love in different ways, striving for a common goal. That is why it is extremely important to take into account our dissimilarity. Unfortunately, we rarely have the prudence to understand that we are two diametrical opposites. Therefore, we do not stop waiting for one from another mirror analogy in the opinions, assessments and explanations of everything that happens. So what to do? How to understand what a woman’s true love for a man is? You just need to notice extremely good qualities in the chosen one, paying less attention to the shortcomings. Be patient, do not break, but accept in your partner that essence that is inherent in nature. Love and be happy!