Some women suggest that their men take turns cooking, as well as washing the dishes. I wouldn't want to live with a man who would tell me to take turns nailing the shelves or cleaning the sink if it gets clogged.

Relationships, family are, first of all, an exchange of energy.

And if you get tired at work, and the best thing you can do is fry eggs or buy salad in the supermarket, then this should also be a signal.

Yes, this can be and you can always agree with a man that there will be no dinner today, we will order something or cook it quickly. But if you only have the strength to cook something quickly, then you don’t have the strength to communicate, to interact with a man either. And this can definitely become a problem sooner or later.

It turns out that our desire or unwillingness to cook is always an indicator of our workload and fatigue, which means a lack of energy in a relationship.

And one more thing, which also concerns food in the family.

I believe that a woman is responsible for the diet, and therefore, for the health and weight of the household.

It depends on the woman what the family will eat, and at what weight all family members will stay.

When I see a slender woman, and next to her a fat and flabby man, I conclude that a woman, in fact, does not care about her husband.

For example, I don’t have sweets, cookies, gingerbread in the public domain, which can be consumed in unlimited quantities. I don't have any of these at home. From the "delicious", as a rule, apples or seasonal fruits.

Neither rolls, nor pies, I do not buy home. If such purchases happen, it is very rare and in limited quantities. Ketchups and mayonnaises do not live in the refrigerator at all.

Fried potatoes are a rarity, and there is no fried chicken or meat at all, as it is now fashionable to say: - from the word "completely." All vegetables, as well as chicken or fish, are either baked or stewed.

Once I was asked in a comment to an article that: It is clear that you eat like this, but what about men, they won’t eat one salad?

Men also like to have a toned, rather than sprawling body, and they can sacrifice fried and high-calorie foods for this.

Therefore, I believe that the family should have a special nutrition system, thanks to which we can control and maintain weight. Moreover, today, when there are so many temptations and so much food around, this is a big problem.

Even if a woman cooks in a hurry, but at the same time with meaning and desire, loved ones feel warmth, care, and her energy. A man feels that a woman is nearby, she cares about what happens to him, to his family, this is the most important thing, this is what is valued.

This is the way to a man's heart!

And a few words about the master class that took place October 7 in Moscow, I know that many are waiting for news.

I was a little worried, because it was the first live training within the framework, I prepared a lot, repeated the text of the master class both on the train and in the hotel.

Everything went like clockwork, at the same time at a pace, no unnecessary words, digressions from the topic. At the end, there was a feeling that I was ready to conduct two more master classes. Such was the response and energy from the participants! I really liked everything.

Thanks to everyone who participated! (not all fit in the photo).

The only thing, I would add an hour of time for communication and tea drinking, next time I will take this into account :))

That's all for me. Write in the comments if you like to cook, whether you cook, and what you cook when there is no time.

And write if you agree that

The way to a man's heart is through his stomach?

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Tatyana Dzutseva

The fact that the way to a man's heart lies through his stomach has been known since very ancient times. In fact, this saying has been spread since the time of Napoleon, who says that the way to the heart of a soldier lies through the stomach, since it was the military who were always so hungry that any girl who was able to feed them instantly conquered hearts.

This saying, with a little interpretation, instantly spread throughout the world. Its essence lies precisely in the fact that not only the military of Napoleon, but basically all men are lovers of delicious food. That is why the best chefs and gourmets around the world are the representatives of the stronger sex. This, of course, does not mean that a woman can starve and should not be fed, definitely not, but since it is she who prepares the food for the most part, only a man is a connoisseur of this art.

Before you win a man's heart with food, you need to reasonably assess the situation. It would be very funny if a woman who liked this or that young man would immediately prepare her signature dish for him and be sure that he fell into her “network”. A man needs to cook only at a certain stage of the relationship. First of all, a man loves with his eyes, so a woman should not only cook well, but also look great. That is why in an ideal companion everything should be in harmony and idyll.

The male body spends much more energy than the female body, and naturally, it must return the spent forces. If you ask any man, none of them will answer that food is the meaning of life for him. But at the same time, any representative of the stronger sex is drawn to exactly where he can be deliciously fed. It cannot be unequivocally said that marriages break up because the wife did not cook well or the guy did not meet with his girlfriend after he found out about her inability to cook.

But, whatever one may say, this factor significantly affects relationships, so absolutely every woman should be able to cook. Any man should receive absolutely everything from his soul mate: this is love, and attention, and sex, and food, and care - in a word, the woman he chooses as his companion must be ideal. It is very rare to meet such a man who would have it all and cheat on his wife. It is foolish to say that treason is in their blood and the like.

In fact, if a loved one cheats or simply decides to end the relationship, it only says that he is not getting what he needs in his family or relationship. Love, sympathy, affection over time develop into completely different feelings. If at the beginning of a relationship a man, having learned about the inability to cook, can take it with laughter and even find a zest in it, then after he systematically comes home and remains hungry, he will simply start looking for a place where he can be fed, therefore, this may be the cause of controversy.

A man very often tries to come home quickly only because normal, delicious homemade food is waiting for him at home. If he already knows in advance that nothing good awaits him at home, he will have to go to a store, restaurant, cafe, cook on his own, then it is best to go, for example, to his mother, eat enough from her and come home. Only then can a woman make scandals, herself not realizing her guilt.

A woman does not have to be a chef or cook the most delicious dishes. The most important thing is that any lunch should be on time and tasty, only then the hearth will attract any man, even if he is not at all hungry. Even in ancient Egypt, women knew how to woo a man by preparing delicious dishes.

They prepared not only delicious dinners for their husbands, but also added ginger, garlic, cloves, and basil to them. It was believed that these seasonings give any dish originality and a unique unique taste. In this regard, modern women are very lucky. In order to learn how to cook, it is not necessary to attend cooking classes or go into the secrets of cooking.

Of course, from the very beginning, this process will not be easy. You can choose the simplest recipes and experiment with their preparation. In any kiosk or on a culinary site you can find a huge number of recipes with a very detailed, step-by-step description. Today, there is no need to look for and extract all kinds of spices that will give the dish an exquisite taste: they can be easily bought at any store.

The most important thing when preparing any dish is to put your love into it. It is impossible that this lunch or dinner did not turn out delicious. A beloved man will always appreciate the efforts of his beloved. In this case, even if the dinner is not as tasty as he would like, he will patiently wait until his companion gets the hang of it and makes it better.

The main thing is not to stop in place, always move forward and improve yourself. In any case, it is really believed that products such as honey, nuts, eggs, fish, tomatoes, sour cream increase male erection, at one time they were used as Viagra. To date, it is not necessary to cook from these ingredients all the time, but this information is worth taking into account. Moreover, erotic food will expand the range of any skilled hostess.

You can also notice that each particular dish affects the human body. By adding some specific ingredients, you can not only win the heart of your soul mate, but also contribute to the awakening of his body. So, for example, concubines in the East, who lived in harems, specially prepared a dinner for their husband from nuts, honey and sour cream.

Such a dish increased the potency of a man, thus, the woman who prepared this dinner for a man deserved his love and a stormy night. Thus, each nation has its own recipe for a man's heart, but only one thing is clear that it is based on food. The most important thing is that the food is varied, even delicious borscht and dumplings can be tiring and annoying.

A smart woman, even one who has already conquered a man, should always win his heart not only with food. Otherwise, this folk wisdom simply would not make sense and would not have survived to this day. Loving on a full stomach is much easier. If a woman follows all these rules, then, definitely, the union will be strong, and a man, without realizing it, will always be delighted with his companion.

"Sunny, I'm hungry as hell! What do we have for supper today?" - Barely saying hello and not having time to undress, Alexei asked as soon as he crossed the threshold of the apartment of his girlfriend Tamara. “Kitty, I don’t even know ... Maybe you can boil dumplings? They are in the freezer,” the girl answered in an uncertain voice. "Dumplings? When did you, my love, manage to cook homemade dumplings ?! - the unlucky gentleman did not hide his surprise.

When Alexei heard that Tamara did not make dumplings herself, but bought them in a nearby store, his mood deteriorated sharply. “You know very well that I am not going to eat processed foods. I had a hard day, I didn't even have time to have lunch! I need a full dinner, ”the man began to“ sort things out ”in a raised voice.

The girl invited her companion to go to dinner together in a restaurant. But this idea did not arouse enthusiasm in Alexei. “I will have dinner alone at the restaurant tonight! And you will stay at home and learn how to cook!” - the young man said in a thunderous voice and left Tamara's apartment.

After a quarrel, the relationship of the couple came to naught. For a month, Alexei did not make himself felt. The offended girl also did not want to be the first to go to reconciliation. A month later, the guy still decided to call ... He wanted to pick up his personal belongings. As a farewell gift, Tamara was presented with a luxurious edition of the book “On Tasty and Healthy Food”.

You have to be more delicate!

Not all relatives and friends of Alexei supported his position. The grandmother of the 29-year-old power engineer recalled that his ex-girlfriend was nine years younger than himself: “Tomochka is only twenty. She is still a student, only recently began to live on her own. It is quite natural that a girl who is accustomed to parental care cannot immediately become an exemplary housewife.

Alexei’s father, Stepan Serafimovich, also did not share his son’s position: “Everyone enjoys a delicious dinner after a hard day ... But in such matters, a man needs to act more delicately, not to issue ultimatums, but kindly ask, negotiate ...” The father noticed that Alexei and Tamara is not married. Young people only met, and did not live under the same roof. And so Tamara was not at all obliged to behave like a caring wife ...

All these arguments did not enlighten our hero: “I would not find fault if she had not cooked dinner once, twice, three times ... But she never cooked for me! This girl, with all her positive qualities, is simply not ready for family life.

Honduran policy on an empty stomach

Pastry chef Yulia fully supports Alexei: “Many modern girls have read glamorous magazines and cannot understand that men for family life are primarily looking for housekeeping young ladies ... The charm of external beauty passes quickly, but you always want to eat! When a man comes home from work, he will not discuss the politics of Honduras or quantum physics on an empty stomach ... A delicious dinner should be waiting on the table in any case!

Design engineer Zoya agrees that culinary skills play a big role in arranging personal life, but she urges not to exaggerate the importance of this factor: “If cooking really was of decisive importance, then female chefs would not know any betrayals or divorces. They would be doomed to eternal happiness… But it’s not like that!”

proof of love

“For a man, homemade pie, rich borscht, fragrant pilaf are proof of the love and care of his wife or girlfriend. With culinary art, the girl shows that she appreciates the chosen one and wants to create comfort for him in the house, ”says master cabinetmaker Sergey.

His wife Oksana adds: “I always enjoy cooking for my family. And I am glad when my relatives wrap my cooking on both cheeks. But on the other hand, it is very important that the worries of the wife are taken with gratitude, and not as something taken for granted.

The way to a man's heart...
... as you know, lies through the stomach. What is less known is that a simple and affordable diet can keep a man's heart healthy. In order to prevent the development of cardiovascular diseases, it is necessary to include four fruits a day in the diet of your lover. The sooner you do this, the more you will be doing him a favor. However, if the father of your children is already thirty-five, review his diet and start feeding fruit heavily.

Do not forget that ice-cold - from the refrigerator - fruits can do more harm than good. Make sure they are at room temperature, take them out ahead of time. At the hour that Chinese medicine calls the hour of the heart - between eleven in the morning and one in the afternoon - it is best to consume an orange or other fruit rich in vitamin C.

When choosing fruits, pay attention to quality, and then to price. Remember that even a small area of ​​​​rotting makes the fruit unfit for human consumption. Trimming the rotten edge will not remove the toxins released by the bacteria. Thermal processing also cannot remove already released toxins from the product.

When choosing, carefully inspect each fruit. You need to understand that now small shops, large supermarkets, and the market receive fruits from one wholesale warehouse. Buy fruits where you are allowed to choose and where storage rules are best observed. Ideally, in places of storage and trade in vegetables and fruits, cellar conditions should be imitated: high humidity, coolness, lamps of a special spectrum.

Along with the diet, help your man take other preventive measures: a healthy and active lifestyle, stress reduction, positive thinking. Start practicing all this yourself. Beloved will definitely reach for you :) and probably the way to a man's heart lies through his stomach!))))))

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Discussions do not subside in the top about whether men need cutlets and borscht from their wives, or do they need something completely, completely different, and you can’t pave the way to your heart with any cutlets?

Although these discussions began with my post, I was not the author there, I cited the opinion of one "experienced woman", with whom I largely agree, but I have something else to say.

Let's start with the fact that there is no man, and in general a person who, having eaten borscht or a cutlet, would immediately fall in love with a cook, if this is not a cook from Gauf's fairy tales. Borsch, even the most delicious, is not a drug and is not capable of causing an addiction effect, and, most importantly, the digestive tract is not connected with love.

It is this moment that most of all outrages women who want to be persuaded to make cutlets and borscht in order to attract a life partner. Especially outraged are women who eat mainly "kurubuckhe" and raw green vegetables, and not boiled potatoes in a fatty broth with cracklings and tomato paste. That is, they not only don’t know how to cook borscht, but they don’t want to, and most importantly, they don’t want to have such a satellite in their orbit for which borscht is a priority in family life and who needs exactly this from a woman. If you think about it, this is actually pretty stupid. All people are adults, everyone can cook their own food, the possibilities for this now are the sea, as well as a huge number of restaurants and cafes where high-class professionals will cook any food for you.

But what is the opposite of this? The path to the heart through the stomach is opposed to the path to the heart through sex. At the same time, none of the supporters of the second path (and these are usually supporters, that is, women, and men, basically, approve of the path through the stomach) do not think that, like borscht, you can get it from a professional chef in a restaurant or make it yourself, so and sex can be obtained from professional priestesses of love or just watch porn. Yes, somewhat marginal, but it's still a question of whether there is some marginality for sex, and where sex is better - in a monotonous matrimonial bedroom under a ceiling that needs to be repaired, or in the back seat of a car with a stranger. Just like borscht, it’s more interesting to eat in a beautiful restaurant with candelabra, and not in your own kitchen from a saucepan.

In a word, neither borscht nor sex in themselves provide any attraction and are not a reason for family life. Moreover, just as sex becomes bad if there are no other components, so you don’t want to cook or eat borscht if everything is bad in a relationship. That is, the reason for marriage is something third, relatively speaking - love, and everyone understands this well. In general, there are disputes about what this third is closer to, to comfort in everyday life or to sex. Men, in general, say that it is closer to comfort, and women believe that it is closer to sex. That is, men believe that it is easier to fall in love with a woman who can make life together comfortable, while women think not, they fall in love with those with whom it is good in bed. Not all women and not all men, of course, think so, but, in general, such a division.

The reason for this division is this.

Due to different genders and different physiologies, the sexuality of men and women is different. Men, on average, are less selective, sex is more impersonal for them, and women, on average, are again more selective, and sex is personally oriented for them. That is, for a woman, the concept of "good sex" already includes personal factors (love, understanding, trust), but not always for a man.

That is, of the two factors “sex and life” that are important for family life, a man is more likely to single out the second factor, for him it is more connected with the personality of a particular woman, with her love for him and with his love for her. None of the men imagines borscht as an abstract dish; such borscht can be bought in a store in a frozen tray and heated in a microwave. It's not about that. Men who cling to borscht imagine women's care and home comfort, that is, they see in this a woman's readiness to build a family, a desire to surround this man with love. Borscht and meatballs are not pleasant in a utilitarian way, they are an expression of the fact that a woman is ready to invest in a relationship. And sex is an area of ​​male investment. This is from a man, to a greater extent, as it seems to him, sex depends. Whether sex is rare or frequent, boring or enchanting, depends on whether the man has enough motivation for sex. And if he is constantly offended, dissatisfied, annoyed, and even more so humiliated and depressed, there will be no sex.

A woman can understand this point of view if she replaces the word "borscht" with the word "man's salary" or "apartment". In this case, it will become a little clearer to her that sex and passion are, of course, very valuable, but still, if a man does not work anywhere or his salary is very small and does not threaten to grow, he has nowhere to live and he dreams of moving to her and to her mother, the question of marrying him, at best, is postponed. Sex can be good, and even cool, but most likely it will get worse. Because sex is not a thing in itself, it depends on the contact of the parties and on their mood. If the mood is dull and there are many claims to the other side, there may be nothing left of sex in a couple.

Many modern men who love emancipated women do not consider "borscht" a symbol of a comfortable life together. Such couples cook in turn, or who loves it more, solve everyday problems together, but such men, if it is about marriage, and not about dating, also expect women not so much sex as comfort in everyday life: understanding, care, readiness to invest on an equal footing, the desire to love not only in words, but also in deeds, that is, to do something. Such men expect that a woman will earn no less than they do, and will not consider that a man should earn for two, and a woman can spend her entire salary only on herself. No! If a man does not expect any "borscht" from a woman, he expects from her equal participation in the affairs of the family budget. Or or.

And most men still consider the material support of the family to be their task, at least 70 to 30, judging by the polls of men (Russian), and many call the ideal (desired) figure 90 to 10 or even 100 to 0, that is, they dream of supporting themselves wife, but mortgage, car, etc. cannot afford it yet. It goes without saying that a man who supports his wife, or is sure that he must support her, expects his wife to take over the household chores. Let's not talk about the fact that in life women often earn more and take care of everyday life: in such cases there are almost always conflicts, violent conflicts, and we are talking about a model that men and women see as desirable (!). About the model that attracts when entering into marriage.

So, the desired model is marriage to a person who loves you NOT LESS and is ready to take care of you in all ways available to him. But passion, especially destructive, blind, when a person does not love you, does not care, does not care for you, a man does not give gifts or does not want to work at all, a woman does not cook borscht and does not want to invest in any way, that is, her lover does not love, uses , lowers or rejects, but still madly wants to be with him and marry him - it also happens. But this is a blind, unstable, usually temporary condition (although for some it lasts a long time, but most recover quickly). In this state there is love or sexual obsession and almost no self-preservation instinct. That is, a man and a woman in such a passion do not remember themselves, do not think from themselves, they spit on their comfort.

But here is an ambush. Marriage in this state is very rare. This is the state of the chase, this is the state of excitement. As soon as the other side turned around and agreed to everything, the chase stops, the excitement decreases, and then the mind quietly asks "what will you live on and where?" if we are talking about a man, or "and she is a good housewife, will it be comfortable to live with her?" when it comes to a woman. Yes, for emancipated couples (which, of course, are more attractive to me), the questions may sound different, there will be a mixture of both, that is, both a man and a woman will ask themselves "whether our common budget will be joint or everything - at my expense, and What is this person like in everyday life, is it comfortable with him, both emotionally and physically, or is he conflicting, sloppy, uneconomical, and I will constantly drag everything on myself?

And from here the decision about marriage is already made.