"Go away and close the door!" Is it worth it to forgive a man if he offended you? To love does not mean to forgive everything. What can't men forgive? List of unforgivable mistakes

You quarreled. You have already cooled down and are ready to go to reconciliation, and he harbored a grudge. What to do when a guy does not want to forgive, and who is to blame for the conflict? TOPBEAUTY will try to figure out the situation with you.

When two people communicate, there are always some difficulties. You are not the same, so in any case there will be contradictions. And be prepared that most likely you can not avoid. One of them is to say or do without thinking. You can later regret a thousand times what happened, but you can’t turn back time. What is done is done. What happened can give rise to resentment in the heart of a loved one. What's the best thing to do when a guy doesn't want to forgive?

It all depends on what you did. Words and deeds are still divided according to the degree of severity - you can really be offended by something, but something is not worth a damn.

Camila, 27 years old:

My boyfriend was very much like a morbidly jealous man. I was not allowed to look at the men, nor for them to look at me. And God forbid to answer the former SMS - a scandal! He was offended by literally everything: a friend came to visit, I sit talking to her, but he lacks attention. Or, for example, he wanted to meet me after work, but I forgot to write that I had already left and would be home soon. He sulked at me the whole next day. And in each such situation, I had to run after him, explain himself, sort things out. It is tiring when a guy does not want to forgive and is constantly offended. Now we are not together and I am deeply convinced that such people are simply looking for a reason to part.

Specialist comments:

This behavior is not like a man, but like a boy. Only children are offended and do not want to conduct a constructive dialogue (and they do not know how). In such cases, it is ineffective to try to sort things out right away. Camila had to give her man time to cool down a bit and only after that, realizing that he was ready for a conversation, put him at the round table.

And everything would be fine if it were not for unbridled jealousy, which, of course, aggravated the matter. It is very difficult to live with such a person. By his behavior, he seems to be specifically pushing a woman to the very betrayal that he is so afraid of. His goal is to finally convict her of this or find other evidence that she is bad and does not suit him. So for Camila, it’s even good that such a difficult relationship ended.

Maria, 24 years old:

I once had a man with whom I did not do very well. Now I'm a little ashamed of it. Then I did not fully realize why the guy did not want to forgive me. And now I think he did everything right. No, I did not cheat on him, everything is much more banal. The reason for the gap was my lies.

One day I wanted to go for a walk with my friends. She didn't speak to her boyfriend. Then all these questions, control, and what if he also comes and it’s not possible to talk with the girls in spirit ... In general, I lied to him that I was going to sleep (we did not live together). We went with the girls to the bar, went on a spree a bit. Somehow inadvertently it so happened that they drank a lot. And my how knew that I was not at home. At his own risk, he came to our favorite place in the area where we usually go to relax, and caught me, and even drunk. He tried to talk to me, I didn’t want to, the place was also noisy. He told me to go outside with him and explain my behavior. He went outside, but I didn’t follow him, I continued to have fun.

Then, of course, I asked for forgiveness, he did not talk to me for two weeks. It was clear that the guy did not want to forgive, that I hurt him a lot. After three weeks, he nevertheless changed his anger to mercy, but after that we were together only for two months. And then all this time he constantly reminded me of this case with lies. As a result, they broke up.

You made a stupid mistake in your life and now you are extremely guilty before the guy. Yes - you realized the depth of your guilt, yes - you apologized, yes - you burst into tears, and yes - you wrote him a hundred SMS messages. But he does not respond to your pleas for forgiveness. Really, wherever you kiss him, there will be a “fifth point” everywhere?

Or maybe you're doing something wrong? Or have you so spoiled a man in the soul that he does not want to know you? Or are you just rushing things?

Let's try to understand his psychology, find out the depth of your guilt and clarify - how much you realized it. And only then we will find out - what can be done so that the guy still forgives you.

Maybe it's not about you, but about his character?

There are such capricious men who behave worse than whiny women - they make a tragedy out of everything and after that they are offended for a very long time. If you don't know your boyfriend very well, and he bucked up for the first time because of resentment against you without the desire for further communication, then be careful! Especially if the quarrel was very trifling.

Well, here's a sample scenario: you were late for a date and didn't warn him about it. Of course, he did not wait for you and left. You call - ignore, write - ignore. On the tenth call, he nevertheless deigned to answer and said that he did not like your carelessness and lack of punctuality, and you would go away.

No, a little later he found the strength to forgive you, but he did it with such a sour look, as if he had swallowed a lemon. But your next blunder brought his quirk back. And again you call, ask for forgiveness and cry.

If you constantly show such weakness for every little thing, then this is what awaits you in the future:

You will cover yourself with complexes and start to be afraid of everything. You will check a hundred times whether the phone is connected - what if it rings, and the battery is dead! Will you control your every word - what if he finds a hint of negativity in some spoken phrase? You will even be frightened by your own behavior - after all, a step to the right, a step to the left will be punished by a moral execution.

He will act like a usurper. Yes, he will find a half-hint in your phrase, consider any of your behavior immoral, and for turning off the phone he will generally make a huge scandal. His goal is to train an obedient Bug out of you in order to easily manipulate you. And he is flattered by your running after him.

You will always be an outsider, and he is "with a crown on the throne." He will be allowed everything, but you will not. He will find a logical explanation for his sins and mistakes, and he will also weave your guilt into them. Such men are dangerous because they flirt and become tyrants who can easily beat their wife.

If you still do not know this person very well, and he is already showing his obstinate character, bordering on stupidity, then stop begging him for forgiveness. If you are dear to him, he will change tactics, and if not, then you are doomed to be his slave. Therefore, run away from him until you get a crush on your ears.

If a guy can't forgive cheating

You seem to be in hot pursuit of forgiveness. Love does not tolerate betrayal, even accidental. And when the betrayal is still fresh, “bleeding”, then you don’t have to beg for forgiveness momentarily, arranging a tantrum with a showdown, it infuriates rather than makes you think.

Pride, insincerity, an attempt to "crush" a partner under himself, making him guilty, will not lead to anything. And if you also shun the help of relatives and friends who are trying to reconcile you, then what do you want?

A person offended by you wants to see your sincere feelings and awareness of how you were wrong. A normal guy, not a monster, will not rot you with your "jamb", on the contrary, his heart will melt if repentance was from the heart.

But if you were forgiven once, but you still didn’t understand anything and step on the same rake, hoping that your “jamb” will slip a second time, then don’t blame me! They really don't want to deal with you anymore.

Finally, an unusual technique

Let's do a thought experiment.

Imagine that you have the superpower to "read" men. Like Sherlock Holmes: you look at a man - and you immediately know everything about him and understand what is on his mind. You would hardly be reading this article now in search of a solution to your problem - you would not have any relationship problems at all.

Who said it's impossible? Of course, you won’t read other people’s thoughts, but otherwise there is no magic here - only psychology.

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Incredible Facts

If you think that cheating is the worst thing that can happen in a couple, then you are wrong.

There are terrible things that men do in relationships thatcapable of destroying everything. And it's not about cheating.

These acts are worse than betrayal, and a woman simply does not have the right to forgive them to her man.

What can not forgive a man?

1. When he texts or chats with other women behind your back, then denies his guilt when you expose him.

Such behavior borders on deceit and treason. Flirting is a mild degree of betrayal.

And if your man succumbs to provocative responses to messages from other girls, it can slowly destroy a "perfect" relationship.

If a man is in a serious relationship, there is no need to text and flirt with other women behind your back.

2. When he doesn't respect your job/career/hobby

If your man makes snarky jokes or nasty comments, implying that your work or hobbies don't really matter, that's a bad sign.

Not respecting your interests, he is disrespectful to you. He just doesn't take you seriously.

It also means that your man sees you as a person who is unable to take care of himself, and he definitely will not be the one for you to talk about your problems and discuss your troubles.

3. When he blames you for his defeats and failures.

He is an adult, and no one is to blame for his failures, except himself.

If a man takes it out on you and blames you for his mistakes, this means that he is absolutely not a mature person and shifts the responsibility for his actions to someone else.

Such things cannot be forgiven.

4. When he is disrespectful and rude to your family members or your friends/girlfriends

He obviously never learned one of the most important lessons in life, which says: the way to the heart of a loved one is through her family!

So you need to learn how to get along with the family of your beloved.

If he didn't, you will feel tension throughout your life together. Joint dinners, trips to a restaurant and other events will turn into sheer torment.

5. When he shares your candid shots with friends or acquaintances

A person does not respect you and does not appreciate if he allows himself this. Your intimate photos are something that should only remain between the two of you.

And if it was his privilege to see you naked in photographs, this does not mean at all that someone else can see you in this form.

That which cannot be forgiven

6. When he pushes you to do something you don't like.

He does not see and does not understand the very line and border that should not be crossed.

If he does not respect your desires, forcing you to do what you do not want, run away from such a man.

7. When he uses you for his own purposes

You are two equal members in your relationship.

Remember: you are not his personal ATM, you are not his chauffeur, and you should not babysit him like a child.

He is an adult and is quite capable of dealing with his own problems. Supporting a loved one is one thing. But, when you feel that he is openly using you for his own selfish purposes, run away from him.

What's worse than cheating?

8. When he hurts you, another person, a defenseless animal, a child, etc.

If a man raises his hand to you, or hurts someone else, this is a serious reason to sound the alarm.

If you saw that he kicked a defenseless animal on the street or threw a stone at him for no reason, this means that he is a cruel person. Thus, he takes revenge on the weak, on those who cannot answer him.

A man who is not remorseful is not worth your love. Get away from this before it's too late, and even better, initially avoid relationships with such a person.

Remember, if a person is able to cause physical pain to the weak, at any moment he can also break out on you or your children.

9. When he abuses alcohol or other illegal drugs

If a person has a problem with alcohol or substance abuse and is not going to fight the addiction, stop trying to help them.

Remember: you are not Mother Teresa, and if he does not understand that he is ruining his own life, you do not have to do the same with yours.

10. When he lies to you even in small things

Men usually lie to avoid punishment. However, if he lies to you often and even in minor details and for no reason, then what can we say about more serious things?

11. When he doesn't respect your personal space.

If a man controls your calls, delves into the history of correspondence with girlfriends, this means that he does not trust you.

Sometimes mistrust goes beyond what is permitted and takes on a paranoid character.

unforgivable

12. When he yells at you and publicly humiliates you

You should never humiliate each other even in private. And if he humiliates you preludely, raises his voice or makes sharp and unpleasant jokes in your direction, then this is doubly unpleasant.

Don't forgive your partner for insults or humiliation, either in private or in public.

13. When he compares you to his exes

A woman should not care how many girls her man had before her. It's all happened before, period!

But if your man constantly compares you to his exes, constantly reminding you of them, this is a huge disrespect on his part.

No woman will enjoy constant competition, even when it comes to former lovers.

So there is no need for him to compare you to any of his exes.

14. When he doesn't pay attention to your problems or underestimates the things that bother you.

If he is not able to help you solve the problems that worry you, or reassure you with advice, take care of you, then he will not be able to become that reliable support in life that all women dream of.

And when hard times come, you will have to deal with the problems that have arisen on your own.

15. When you are not particularly important to him

When a person loves someone, it is normal to put the loved one above everything and everyone.

You should be your partner's priority. If you are in his tenth roles, after hobbies, friends and parties, this means that he does not value you.

You should not be jealous of a man for work, but if it's not about making money, but about less significant things, this is an occasion to think about whether you need a relationship in which you are not appreciated.

16. When he constantly reminds you of the past

If there were negative moments in your past, and you shared them with your lover, this is not at all a reason to remind you of this at every opportunity and inconvenience.

A man does not paint if he negatively reminds you of moments that you would like to forget.

Thus, he makes you hurt and unpleasant, which means he simply does not respect your feelings and desires.

It is necessary to be able to concentrate only on the present and on the joint future. Leave the past in the past, and if anything happened before, it happened before you even started dating.

17. When he doesn't support you

Being next to a man, a woman should feel support and support.

If you feel bad, he should not make you feel worse. He should be a reliable and stone wall, and not someone who will finish off morally.

If your man is making you feel worse, he may be manipulating you. This makes it easier for him to control the situation and subdue you.

18. When he doesn't show you that he loves and appreciates you.

If your man does not show you that he loves and appreciates you, then why are you even together?

He may not express his love in words, but his actions should speak for themselves. If this does not happen, then there is no point in wasting time on a person who does not deserve it.

Unfortunately, as soon as the candy-bouquet period or honeymoon comes to an end, the newlyweds become just two ordinary people who face a number of problems.

These ups and downs must be overcome together.

It is important to be able to find a compromise and forgive each other. But there are things that, indeed, cannot and should not be forgiven by a man.

Question to the psychologist:

We've been dating for a year now. Everything is great, happy. My boyfriend has a tough character, he is quite calm, but at the same time he can dictate his own rules. I was often afraid to tell him that I had some problems, so as not to be a burden. Another detail that played a cruel joke is that my boyfriend is from a richer family, a large private house in the city. But I found out about this only after half a year of relationship. Just the day before yesterday, he took me to his house. After a romantic evening, at night he woke me up with clarifications. He was holding in his hands a correspondence, also of a somewhat intimate nature, with another young man. At first he wanted to drive me away, but then he wanted arguments. He did not believe me, shouted, was very nervous, said that I did not need him, but rather his money. I couldn't even hug him. He took me home himself. He said not to write, because he would block. I replied that he could just block it, and that’s all, if he wants to completely break everything, I said that I don’t even cry, because I know that I didn’t cheat on him. More than a day has passed, I can not find a place for myself. I'm crying. From time to time I write to him that I am faithful, that only I need him, that I am sorry and ready for anything. But I only hear in response: I decided everything, we will no longer be together. In that correspondence there was horror in fact. This guy wanted to have an intimate relationship with me. He had my personal thing, which is dear to me and which he did not agree to give away without intimacy. I flirted with him, very strongly, mentioned that let's give the ring back today, he agreed only if I came to his house and stayed there. I have never met him. I did not want change, even moral. Now my love knows about it, does not want to believe, says that since she wrote this, she changed it with him. At the same time, my beloved does not delete me to everyone, reads, unsubscribes, but does not block, visits the page on Instagram. Can I be forgiven? How can I prove my loyalty?

The psychologist Negodaeva Nadezhda Alexandrovna answers the question.

Hello, Elena! If your boyfriend hasn't blocked you and reads your messages, it means that he thinks about you and still hopes that he will be with you. Now the most important thing is not to make new mistakes... Elena, men are created in such a way that it is they who have to win, to achieve their women. And they really don’t like it when women impose themselves too much, call a lot, etc. Such female behavior repels them. I suggest taking a break from the relationship. You can write to the guy, as if "the last letter." Approximately the following content: “Hello, darling! I know that you are angry with me, but I am clean in front of you. And this is my last letter. Now, only your word will be decisive. to others, but there was no betrayal, not in reality, not in thoughts. Because you are very dear to me. If you forgive me this mistake, then I promise you not to do this again. I will wait for an answer to this letter for 3 weeks. I will accept any your decision. If there is no answer, then I will consider that we have parted. With love, Elena.". Send it and do not write anything else to him, wait for a response. You have to wait for the promised time... But I'm sure he will answer sooner. A guy can arrange surveillance for you to understand that you are the only one with him and are not dating anyone else. Until he gives an answer, try not to flirt with anyone, forget that guy with your ring. It is clear what he was trying to achieve... Relationships with loved ones are more precious than rings, remember that. And when, the young man, forgives you (and it certainly will), do not forget to delete unnecessary correspondence and blacklist unwanted contacts so as not to step on the same rake again. Elena, if you have any questions, please contact. I wish you good luck and female wisdom!

It would seem that if two hearts in love are destined to be together, then nothing will interfere with them. They will overcome any difficulty and forgive each other everything. But as reality shows, this is not always the case.

There are things that neither a woman nor a man can ever forgive each other. It may seem that the conflict is settled and its parties have forgotten about it, but doubts and resentment always gnaw at one side. The thing is that she could not forgive the perfect and forget the offense.

It's no secret that men and women are built differently. They have different thinking and reactions to the same event. So, what cannot be forgiven to a man is sometimes forgiven to a woman. It is necessary to understand this in detail in order not to make mistakes for which one would have to ask for forgiveness.

What men do not forgive women

Men are quite patient creatures. They are less emotional, but more categorical. For them, "lisping" and "music" are not characteristic. If something does not suit them, then for the most part, they chop off the shoulder. Of course, everything is individual, and what one man does not forgive, another can forgive. But for the most part, the situation is as follows. So, what men do not forgive their women.

1. Treason

The vast majority of the male population is not inclined to forgive betrayal of their girlfriends and wives. And the point here is not at all jealousy, but self-esteem, which was dealt a crushing blow. He, the best, successful, charming and attractive, was compared with someone else. It just can't be!

Change also has a scale: from emotional betrayal, before physical. For some, one comparison with the EX is enough, and that's it - chips flew. Many women do not let up and call their first child the name of their ex, which also deals an unthinkable blow to a man's pride.

For a man, female infidelity is not easy betrayal, but an insult. He immediately begins to doubt his uniqueness and, in order to protect himself from such a thing in the future, breaks off relations once and for all. Men do not forgive physical betrayal, no matter how much a woman apologizes and no matter how she swears allegiance. Most often, the thought that “changed once, will be and twice” does not leave consciousness. And such a woman ceases to exist forever for a man, even if it is very painful.

2. Men never forgive insults against them.

A famous proverb says "my tongue is my enemy". And this applies a lot to women. In a fit of quarrel or resentment, she tends to express everything that she thinks. Very often she will regret it and apologize, but, unfortunately, "the word is not a sparrow ...".

Men rarely pay attention to offensive words addressed to them. Well, they called them a scoundrel or a scoundrel. Think about it. In a few hours, this quarrel will be forgotten, and offensive words will be erased from memory.

But another thing is when pride is hurt, when, in a fit of anger, a friend called him a loser in life, an unmanly and incapable man.

Men are especially offended by remarks addressed to them as an unsatisfactory sexual partner. Here she will never ask for forgiveness. These words will not be forgotten, and even if a man pretends to forgive, but in fact, he will remember them all his life.

3. Men never forgive sexual neglect.

Any man gives joy and pleasure when his partner considers him the best in sex. But when it turns into an ordinary marital debt, then trouble is possible.

If a woman avoids intimacy, citing busyness, fatigue or a migraine, this is a reason for a man to think. Firstly, he is visited by the thought that he no longer satisfies his partner, as before, and secondly, that she may have taken a lover.

These thoughts haunt him, he can even seek self-affirmation with another woman. Well, this is a betrayal that women do not forgive, a break in relationships and a divorce.

4. It’s hard for men to forgive the superiority of a woman.

A man is used to being the head of the family, the breadwinner, the conqueror. This has been the case for many centuries. He believes in it and considers it right. But then a woman appears in his life who takes on the role of head. Only some representatives of the stronger sex will come to terms with this.

Absolutely indifferent to this state of affairs will be treated by those who are unsure of themselves, or as they are also called “sissy”. For them, the supremacy of women will even be a joy. They will shift to her the solution of all problems and worries. But be prepared that in all failures, they will also blame their partner.

But in most cases, the supremacy of a woman is an unacceptable situation in the family for a man. He will never come to terms with it and never forgive. He simply will not allow a woman to start commanding and leading him. You don't even have to try here.

5. The physical superiority of a woman

It is difficult for a man to accept and forgive not only the moral, but also the physical superiority of a woman. If she is stronger, more physically developed, then he is unlikely to like it. And this again hurts his male pride.

Here, many will object that nothing prevents a man from developing physically, and not from growing a beer belly. It really is. But if a girl always emphasizes his physical shortcomings and constantly “pounds” him that he needs to sign up for a gym, this will bring its consequences.

A wise woman will always be able to find an approach to this and make sure that the man himself understands and decides to take care of his physical form.

6. Great love of money and prudence

The biggest mistake of the chosen one of a man is to tell him that without a car and an apartment, he would not have imagined anything and she would not have paid attention to him. Hearing that the woman he loved was attracted only by his well-being, and not by spiritual qualities, is very painful.

The reaction to such words can be both a strong offense and leaving for another woman who is not so interested in his money.

7. A man does not forgive insults to his relatives.

Relatives, as you know, are not chosen. Even if they are not impeccable, they are relatives, they are family. He can think anything about them and say too, but he will perceive critical remarks from a woman as a personal insult.

During a quarrel, a woman should not remember the relatives of her chosen one. Whatever they are, he will certainly defend their good name. Especially it is not necessary to speak insultingly or mockingly about loved ones. He will never forget these words.

Yes, sometimes those still shots get into relatives, and, most likely, your man understands this, but in the heat of your anger and the peak of his patience, he simply can choose them, not you. Yes, perhaps you are more fortunate and your relatives are more cultured and reserved, or even better - they live far away. But imagine if they lived nearby, maybe they also pissed off your man. Therefore, every time you want to criticize the uncle of your chosen one again, think for a second: do you need it ?! After all, you have your own relationship and you love each other not for relatives, but for those qualities that are in your chosen one.

8. Men do not forgive barbs

If a man once showed weakness or his physical incompetence, and a woman cannot calm down and constantly reminds him of this, and even tells everyone in a row. That is a punch in the gut!

A man cannot endure ridicule from a seemingly loving woman.

9. Jealousy

Excessive and / or unreasonable jealousy can bring any man to a boiling point. If a woman does not give him a pass, controls him every second, calling every half an hour when he is with friends in the bath or at work, and if he does not pick up the phone, then they call your friends - this can be two hundred of any man. Remember the measure, no need to overdo it.

What else men do not forgive women

The list of "terrible sins" that under no circumstances will be forgiven by men include the following:

female stupidity . The statement that men love silly beauties has long lost its relevance. They love smart beauties. Remember this;
addiction to strong alcoholic beverages . Few people will like a woman who can hardly stand on her feet and has a terrible smell of drunk alcohol, especially if this is a fairly common occurrence;
woman's demand to stop communicating with friends . Male friendship is something that no woman, even the most beloved, can influence. The prohibition to communicate with friends is regarded as an infringement on personal freedom;
constant reproaches regarding any area of life , whether it be salary, position, skills and abilities;
demanding an apology for any reason ;
hobby for serials . Every man wants to be paid attention to. He will not be able to forgive if a woman exchanges precious minutes with him for watching her series;

It is believed that a woman is able to forgive an insult, but she will never forget it. A man, on the contrary, will not forgive her. After all, to forgive, according to many men, is to show their weakness. For them it is unnatural.

What will a man forgive his beloved woman

It seems that there are no situations that a man is ready to forgive. In fact, a loving man is ready to close his eyes and forgive a lot. Why do men forgive women? Of course, the main reason is love. Loving people are ready to forgive each other a lot.

A wise and loving man will never leave his chosen one because of minor flaws, for example, if she does not know how to cook. Although, if there are a lot of these shortcomings, then ...
A man will turn a blind eye to excessive awareness of the personal lives of your girlfriends. He will understand that changing a woman is simply unrealistic. At the genetic level, they have a need to share information and experiences. But still, a woman should remember that not all the details of family life should become public. There must be some secret between the two.
And most importantly, that a man is ready to forgive his beloved woman, her passion for shopping and shopping. Let her make purchases that are not always necessary and spend large sums on it, but the man will endure it. Here it is important for her not to cross the line herself and not to spend the entire family budget.

What can not be forgiven a man

There is an opinion that a woman is ready to make any sacrifices for the sake of preserving her family and is ready to forgive a man all the time. What a lot of guys use. So it was before. But times are changing. Gone are the days when a man was held in a stranglehold. Now, more and more often we meet self-sufficient women who feel quite confident in professional terms and stand confidently on their feet. For whom the main thing in life is to find an honest man who will love only her and her children all his life.

But there is that line, the violation of which a woman still cannot forgive a man, even if she loves him very much.

1. Treason

This is number one in any case. Like a man, it is also difficult for a woman to get used to the idea that a man easily admitted the fact of a partner substitution. Love, intimately, for many women is a sacrament between her and her lover, it is complete trust and openness. And when a third one invades this fabulous world, it already ceases to be so valuable and unshakable. So it can no longer satisfy as well as before on an emotional level.

Few women around the world forgive this sin to their men. Most often because of the preservation of the family.

Treason is a “point of no return” for both women and men. You can try to forgive, for your own sake, for the sake of your children, to step on the throat of your pride, but... It will be the same as collecting a broken vase. Beautiful? It seems to be whole, but something is not right. And the cracks remind of what happened.

Advice does not help in this situation. Some say that you need to quit, forget and move on. And most likely, this is the right decision, but which is very difficult.

Why do women forgive infidelity? First of all, they are afraid of being alone without support. There is also some uncertainty about the future and one's own strengths.

2. Dangerous addictions

The woman believes that the bad habits of his beloved are in the past. But, sadly, there are no former drug addicts, alcoholics and gamers. Pernicious passion replaces them with love. The big delusion of the chosen one is to think that her man will change his habits for her sake. Such cases are rare.

A man will not give up a dangerous addiction, even if he is persuaded and asked. All addictions are deep in the subconscious and in order to eradicate them, cardinal measures (psychologists or doctors) or new deep meanings of life are needed. He will promise hundreds of times that he will stop it, but at the same time he will return home drunk again. The next morning he will ask for forgiveness and make promises, but is it worth believing this for the hundredth time. As a rule, women answer - no! But there are others, "terpils". Most often, these are women who are not self-confident, who believe that they will not find anyone better anyway, “and who needs me at 35 years old.”

3. Women do not forgive emotional dullness.

Support in difficult times is very important for every woman, it is important that a loving person is nearby. For women, in principle, it is common to experience a huge amount of emotions. And when you keep everything in yourself for a long time, peaks come that splash out. At such moments, I want to cry, speak out and hear words of support and sympathy in response. It is not always possible to call a friend or mother, and of course, all hope is for a beloved man. But, as luck would have it, he is not around or he does not react in any way, considering your emotions unreasonable and “twisted”.

Ardent and emotional women are simply not able to take such a callous attitude to their emotions now and therefore prefer to part with a man. In this situation, we are talking about a mismatch of temperaments.

4. Women do not forgive constant complaints about life.

Lamentation is the lot of women, but not men. A man must be strong and resistant to all blows of fate. Every woman wants to feel secure and confident that she can always rely on her man. Can a normal woman live with a type who always complains about everyone and everything? Everyone is to blame for him, including the chosen one, that something did not work out for him, that the position was not given to him and that the salary is not high enough.

Not every woman can endure constant complaints. Yes, and it is impossible to understand and forgive when you are accused of all mortal sins.

5. Constant Promises

Women like it when men keep their promises. There is a significant difference between reminders of a certain action, for example, hang a lamp in the hallway, and empty promises. Reminding a man a few times about something is normal, but when promises take on the proportions of a disaster and are not kept, then this is an occasion to reflect.

The man promised to re-tile the bathroom and did not do it, he promised that he would change his behavior and not be so callous to her emotions and did not do it, he promised to stop drinking or not to return again so late and did not do it, he promised to take care of raising children - and did not do it again promised. When the sum of these terms reaches the limit point, the woman simply cannot stand it and takes drastic measures.

Living with a partner who only "feeds" promises is living in constant dissonance: you seem to believe that he will improve, but this does not happen. All this leads to the development of personal and interpersonal conflicts.

6. Unfulfilled ambitions

It is very difficult for women whose man considers himself an unrecognized genius. By this he constantly justifies his laziness, inactivity. A woman can work three jobs to feed her family, while he will lie on the couch and wait for the muse to visit him.

Here, of course, it is a purely individual matter, to forgive and live on, or to let the artist go on free bread. But, as a rule, a genius does not consider it necessary to change anything and continues to wait for his inspiration.

7. Excessive pride

When a man sees no one but himself, it repels a woman. Next to such a man, a woman feels in secondary roles.

Excessive narcissism of a man with his personality, his qualities and achievements makes a woman think about the quality of relations with such a male.

8. Greed

Everyone knows the fact that a woman has more things than men. This is connected both with physiological characteristics and with the roles performed by a woman in the family: mother, mistress, wife, girlfriend, etc.

Many women relax when they go shopping. But there are men who are not ready to shell out for women's whims. To make a useless gift to your beloved, and even more so to buy her an extra handbag, is not about them. They will count every ruble spent by a woman and ask her to account for all purchases. Which, undoubtedly, at a certain time will make the girl think about whether she needs such an accountant in a relationship at all.

An interesting video that will complement the above points. Mistakes of men in relationships.

Relationships are the foundation of a family. How you learn to build relationships before marriage will directly determine the style of your married couple. God created us all equal, we are all born the same, which means we define and create ourselves by working on ourselves, our complexes, fears, etc. We create our own personality. It's easier for someone to be in the role. And someone prefers to be a director and take an active part in building himself, his environment, his life.

We enter into relationships with already established life positions. Someone is ready to forgive all the “deeds” of his partner, and someone will never put up with what does not correspond to his life positions.

In the first case, the relationship is doomed: eternal torment, eternal problems, conflicts, etc.

In the second case, a person knows exactly what kind of partner he is looking for, with what qualities and attitudes. And such a person will definitely find it. And this couple will be happier.

So, what can not be forgiven in a relationship, so as not to be in the role of a victim.

1. Aggression cannot be forgiven

Aggression both towards your partner and towards children. Whatever happens in a man's life, he has no right to take his anger out on a woman, and even more so to raise a hand against her or her children. Sometimes it is not only about physical violence, but also moral. Sometimes harsh words can hurt more. Such behavior destroys even the best relationships that have existed for a long time. But can you really call them good? Aggression should not be forgiven, under any pretext.

You can not forbid your partner to communicate with friends or do what you love in your free time. Often, in this way, he splashes out the negative that has accumulated in him. Otherwise, everything may reflect on you.

2. Dark past

Everyone, without exception, has some secrets connected with their past. For some, this is a long-passed stage to which they do not return and it is better not to stir them up. But there are some things that a partner should know about before starting a relationship. After all, sooner or later some facts of the dark past will become known. It is impossible to hide a criminal past or five illegitimate children.

If you honestly admit what you have done in the past, then a truly loving person can understand and forgive small, in his opinion, sins. And it’s better to tell him about it on the shore in order to understand how small they are for him, can he live with this information about you? But if you try to hide the dark past, then the partner will regard it as a lie and betrayal. After all, to find out that the husband has several more children and the common child will be 5th in line for the inheritance. This is sometimes hard to accept and forgive.

3. Lack of communication with children from previous relationships

Before starting a new relationship, it is important to find out what kind of relationship your partner had before you. After all, on the basis of previous experience, you can build harmonious relationships.

The fact that a man already in adulthood did not have a relationship or children is alarming. Usually, before the age of 40, men have time to get married and have at least one child.

And if a woman, who broke off all contact with her children from her first marriage, left them to be raised by her father, then this is a clear reason to think about what kind of relationship you will have.

It is important to find out all the circumstances of the current situation with children from the first marriage. If a man regularly sees his firstborn, helps financially and morally, then these are signs of a good father. But if he is not at all interested in the life of his own child and saw him for the last time several years ago, and in the VKontakte photo, then you need to think about it.

Every woman, first of all, has developed a mother's instinct. She will not forgive a man such an attitude towards his own child. She is able to love her husband's child from a previous relationship, but she cannot forgive his dislike.

What can be forgiven for a man is small errors. They are forgotten in just a few hours. But a woman's patience is not infinite, just like men. You need to be able to hear each other, respect and share experiences. This is the key to a strong and lasting relationship.

The ability to forgive is a manifestation of a strong spirit. Better think again before you say something. After all, relationships are built brick by brick, and how you lick the next brick will depend on how the whole structure will turn out.

And finally, the reasoning of psychologists about male and female infidelity. Myths and reality.