Where can I find my mom? How to find a surrogate mother to give birth to a child and how much do the services cost? Resources for Finding Love

How to find your mother, if contact with her was lost? We know how to find your birth mother and help you reconnect with her. For what reasons does it happen that mothers disappear from the lives of their children, we list the most common ones:

The mother abandoned the child in the maternity hospital and wrote a refusal form;
The child was adopted and raised in a foster family;
Mom was deprived parental rights, and then disappeared from the life of the child or children;
She separated from her husband, the child or children remained to live with their father, and she left in an unknown direction.

No matter what happens, we know how to help you. If you want to find your mother, find out the country and address of her residence, in this case, use the order button, write to us what you know about your mother, what information you have. We will review your application and respond as soon as possible.

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People spend YEARS of time and energy on fruitless searches instead of entrusting them to professionals. By contacting us and ordering a service, you will put your money to good use and gain the most important thing - you will find the person you have been looking for for so long.

From our own experience, we can say that looking for women is not an easy task, they get married, change their last names, some change their last names several times during their lives, and this circumstance only complicates the search. But in any case, we are ready to begin searching for a person even with a limited amount of information about him.

We will help you find your mother if you have lost her.

We will help you find your mother if she abandoned you immediately in the maternity hospital and you were brought up in a boarding school or orphanage. Unfortunately, this is a sad fact, since the collapse Soviet Union, there are a lot of abandoned children in our countries. Some of them were adopted in foster families, some went abroad to America or Europe, and some were not so lucky and were raised in orphanages. And now these children (regardless of where they were raised) want to find their biological parents, find their mother, find their father and relatives.

A lot of people brought up in orphanages come to us and are looking for their mother. We are very sorry that such circumstances have developed in the lives of these people, but believe me, those biological mothers whom we find and communicate with very much regret their actions. Many of them want to find their children, find out something about them, return them to the family, restore communication and trust.

These women are in great pain and very sorry for what they did. They are also looking for you and want to find you. And when we come to these women, we bring news, letters, photographs from you, they are happy, they are glad to know that you are alive, healthy and everything is fine with you.

If you are adopted, we provide the opportunity to find your mother in any CIS country, but the search will take longer. If necessary, we can meet this woman in person, ask her questions, get her photos and videos.

Among infertile couples in Russia, about 15% require the help of a surrogate mother. Without it biologically native child spouses simply will not be able to be born. There are quite a few reasons for this - congenital and acquired anomalies of the uterus, vagina, serious chronic illnesses that are incompatible with pregnancy and childbirth, age. Surrogacy can also be useful for single men dreaming of fatherhood, and single women suffering from total infertility. Main question– where to find someone who can bear, give birth and give away someone else’s child, and what kind of reward she can demand. In this article we will talk about this in more detail.

Where to look?

In Russia, legislation does not limit the circle of persons who can become surrogate mothers. The only restrictions are dictated by the Ministry of Health - these are strict requirements for the health of the candidate, the presence of her own children, etc. In some countries, for example, in Israel, it is legally prohibited to choose a surrogate mother from among relatives. There is no such ban in our country. Therefore, the question of where to look for a woman who can bear your child can be answered like this:

by friends and relatives (any relative of reproductive age will do);
through specialized reproductive agencies;
in a clinic where an infertile woman is being observed;
through the Internet.

Searching on your own will help you save money and find a reliable person you trust without intermediaries.

However, remember that this coin has a flip side - after the birth of a child, you are unlikely to want to see this relative or friend visiting you, the relationship will deteriorate. This, alas, is inevitable.

Searching on the Internet seems tempting and quite easy, because the query “find a surrogate mother” will certainly open up a large number of forums and advertisements. Good and proven gestational couriers (these are official name surrogate mothers on the recommendation of WHO) themselves do not want to become victims of scammers, and therefore they usually do not publish their offer on the Internet.

But on the Internet you will find a huge number of women who, even tomorrow, are ready to provide you with fake medical certificates about the state of their health, just to quickly receive an advance payment from their biological parents for their services.

Several types of scams thrive on the Internet. Someone declares himself a mediator. He meets you in reality, introduces you to a pretty and modest lady, who, of course, has all the certificates and documents. But here’s the problem: several certificates turn out to be expired. They take your money for a new examination and disappear. Typically, such “intermediaries” from the Internet deceive several couples, after which they change their phone numbers and again volunteer to act as intermediaries under a new name.

Another scheme is that a potential candidate herself gets in touch, asks to send her money for travel to your city, for example, from another point in Russia or even from the CIS countries, and then simply disappears. Some people purposefully do not want to get pregnant, even after signing an agreement with the “customers”. Neither doctors nor biological parents in this case will understand why several IVF attempts were not successful. In the meantime, the woman will take hormonal drugs that will prevent pregnancy from occurring, and at each attempt, demand another advance payment from the biological parents.

The most reliable, but less economical search is through reproductive agencies and clinics. Almost every large clinic that provides IVF and other types of assisted reproductive techniques has a personal register of gestational couriers. In reproductive agencies, surrogacy registries are more extensive; before being included in the registry, all candidates undergo a full medical examination, receive an opinion from a psychiatrist, a narcologist, a geneticist, and also provide all the documents needed to participate in the program. Only after checking them, agency legal advisers make a decision on whether a gestational courier is allowed to participate in the program.

Of course, no agency, no clinic can 100% guarantee that there will be no problems with the surrogate mother recommended by them at one stage or another, but the likelihood of a successful search in this situation is much higher.

In addition to consultation, lawyers will help draw up the correct agreement between the “customers” and the “performer”, which will be completely legitimate and will also take into account the interests of all parties.

Requirements for the candidate

The requirements, as already mentioned, are clearly outlined by Order of the Ministry of Health No. 107-n, which regulates the procedure for providing assisted reproductive medical care to the Russian population. But future biological parents should navigate this issue no worse than the officials of the Ministry of Health, because we are talking about the health of their future and such a long-awaited baby.

Here are the basic requirements that a woman who intends to bear a baby for strangers must meet:

Age. The ideal age is considered to be the age of highest reproductive activity - from 20 to 35 years.
Having a child. How your child was conceived plays a role, whether this conception was natural. The method of delivery is also important. If the candidate had C-section, she will not be able to be a gestational courier.
Family status. If a potential candidate is married, be sure to ask her for her husband’s notarized consent for his wife to participate in the IVF program as a surrogate. If the candidate is divorced or lives in civil marriage, such a document is not needed.
Health status. A detailed list of tests and medical specialists is available in your clinic or in Order of the Ministry of Health No. 107-n. In addition to many tests, a woman is required to provide certificates from a psychiatrist and a narcologist, while the psychiatrist makes a separate conclusion about sanity.
Genetic clearance. A geneticist will make a conclusion about a woman’s health at the genetic level. Her oocytes will not be used for IVF, this is prohibited by law in Russia, but a genetic conclusion is important in order to exclude some hereditary diseases in the woman herself, because they can appear during pregnancy.
No criminal record. A woman who declares her intention to bear your child must have a valid certificate of no criminal record, and also that this moment she is not a suspect and is not under investigation.

You can try to find a surrogate mother in Ukraine or Belarus, where their services are cheaper, but the requirements set by the Ministries of Health of these states may differ. Therefore, most Russian clinics try to cooperate only with ladies who have Russian citizenship. If this issue is of fundamental importance to you, ask for confirmation - a Russian passport, SNILS.

Pay attention to the personality - how intellectually developed the woman is, does she have bad habits how obligatory it is. This will help you understand how she will approach her responsibilities, because carrying someone else’s child is real work. You need to follow a certain regimen, take vitamins, eat right, don’t drink or smoke, and visit the doctor on time.

Also pay attention to the build. Fat women and women with obvious obesity will have a harder time carrying pregnancy and may develop dangerous complications, for example, gestosis. As a result, the child will suffer, and he will be yours, relatives by blood and genes. It is important that the biological mother has the same Rh blood factors if we are talking about positive Rh.

It is better not to consider women with negative Rh as candidates for gestational couriers in order to avoid the development of Rh conflict during pregnancy.

Risks and dangers

If biological parents would like to limit communication with a woman they do not know during pregnancy, they can use the service of a curator - the clinic or reproductive agency will identify an intermediary - a person who will monitor the fulfillment of the terms of the contract by both parties.

Biological parents must reasonably control the entire pregnancy process, pay monthly allowance for the surrogate mother, and also bear all the costs of buying food, renting an apartment during pregnancy, buying clothes for her, vitamins and everything that the attending physician prescribes.

Be careful - there are gestational couriers who may begin to blackmail you with an abortion if you do not agree, for example, to buy them an apartment or increase the amount of the fee that is already included in the contract by agreement of the parties.

Price

Surrogate mother services are expensive. On average in Russia, the contract price starts from 800-900 thousand rubles and can exceed 3 million, it all depends on the region and the standard of living in it. This is the cost of childbirth only. In 9 months you will have to fork out for monthly payments, a kind of “salary” for the surrogate mother - from 15 to 50 thousand. Plus all associated expenses (renting an apartment, food, trips to a sanatorium or a trip to a spa treatment).

You should prepare in advance for the fact that the pregnancy will be managed in a private clinic, where everything will be paid. Paying medical bills is also the responsibility of the biological parents. If surrogate mother arrives from a neighboring state, you will need to take care of temporary registration for her on the territory of our country.

Experienced surrogate mothers (already having experience of successful maternity contracts) cost much more than “newbies” because they are more predictable.

A woman gestational courier has the right to estimate the amount of her fee independently; no law regulates the amount of payment. Everything will depend on the candidate’s requests and capabilities married couple satisfy these requests.

Having clarified the price, checking the documents and certificates of the candidate who was found, biological parents should check her against the existing “black lists” on special Internet resources dedicated to surrogacy. Gestational couriers and scammers who disguise themselves as them sooner or later come to the attention and their names end up on lists. Advantages and disadvantages

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Quite often you see information that a person has disappeared. Yes, it’s sad, but most often we just pass by such messages on the street. But this is not correct. Stop for a second, look at the photo, what if you really saw this person somewhere nearby? But, if you think about it, a similar situation could happen to you, God forbid, of course. Think about the fact that lost people are someone's relatives, mom, dad, grandson, brother, and so on.

If mom didn't come back on time

How to find your mother if she suddenly left and did not return as she promised? Yes, the situation is terrible. Just imagine, the child is alone at home, and his mother is still not there. What to do in such a situation, where to turn for help? Firstly, you need to calm down, in case she just lingered a little somewhere and will return a little later. If you have her phone number, then just call it. If no one answers calls and all deadlines have already passed, then you can go searching. It is quite difficult to cope with such a situation alone, so it is advisable to involve friends, relatives, dad, grandmother and others to help.

Independent search

The police are searching for missing people. But how to find the mother if the application is accepted there only on the third day from the date of the person’s disappearance. Therefore, you should not give up trying to find your mother, let the police do their job, and you make every effort. Agree that you can call all hospitals, morgues, friends, acquaintances, because the more people involved in the search, the greater the chances of finding the lost person. You can go to television and place a missing person’s notice there, which includes a photo, detailed description and contact numbers. I think that past the leaflets with the title - help me find my mother! - it will be very difficult to pass. Also very popular now are social media. I think many of you paid attention to the posted statuses and announcements about the disappearance of this or that person. Why don't you use this method too?

Don't lose hope

Remember that you should never despair and lose hope, remember that there are so many kind people around who are ready to help you. Believe in the best and everything will be fine. Remember that you are not alone, because there are so many children in the country who live in orphanages, who have not seen their mother at all, and for every holiday they make only one wish - I want to find my mother. These children have a very small chance of finding their own family and mother. Yes, there are situations when there are good adoptive parents, but this happens so rarely. If parents decide to adopt, they choose babies who are still very small and do not know about their difficult fate. Therefore, many continue to live in an orphanage until adulthood, and then begin to search for their birth mother. And there are times when the mother is there, but most often she has another family, children and this child she just doesn't need it. Which is very difficult and difficult to understand. Therefore, before looking for your birth mother, it is worth thinking about how you will react to the fact that she did not need you before and even more so now.

There are so many in our country lost people. Moreover, you don’t always need to go somewhere or get lost. Many mothers get lost in their apartment, drinking alcohol and drugs. These mothers are lost to their children. Such children remain orphans with living parents. It is unfortunate that similar situations are found more and more often in our lives. It’s good if schools and guardianship authorities don’t pass by and take care of such families and try to help. Let's be a little more attentive to the people around us. Look at how your neighbors live, think, what if the neighbor’s children really need your help. Let's be kinder friend to a friend and to the people around us. Then the world will be at least a little better. But this is already a big victory.