How to make your lover afraid of you. We reveal the secrets of how to make a man afraid of losing you

Love will come unexpectedly. So it is sung in one famous song. It is a wonderful feeling for two that gives wings. Life seems wonderful and amazing, and a guy and a girl are ready to be together every day, enjoying each other.

It was me who described the ideal relationship. In fact, everything is a little different. More than once, scientists and psychologists have written that men are less prone to emotions. This does not mean that we cannot love, it is just that we are more restrained in its manifestation.

For girls, at least for most of them, the opposite is true. Love makes them a little crazy. They try to surround the guy with care and attention, not leaving him a single step. Soon the man gets bored, he chokes on this love, he has no personal space, interests and hobbies. And then the relationship ends.

And then the girl cries to her friends about what a goat the next guy turned out to be. She gave him everything, but he did not appreciate. You really shouldn't blame the guy. He may have loved, but for him this relationship was worse than torture.

In order to prevent this from happening in the future, girls need to analyze their behavior and learn lessons on how to behave correctly with a man so that he is afraid of losing her.

Don't provoke a man

Before I tell the girls about the rules of behavior, and how to make your beloved man forever yours, I will give some advice on how not to behave with men.

Never to your loved one that you are going to learn how to behave correctly and he will not be able to leave you. It will sound like a challenge from a girl's mouth. And believe me, it can hurt him a lot. In general, this approach is a direct path to quarrels.
A little with other men will stir up the guy's interest in his girlfriend. But this trick must be used very carefully. For example, when I saw my girlfriend flirting with other guys, I wondered if she needed me at all.
Don't call your guy every 10 minutes. Firstly, the guy may be busy with important things, and, secondly, such excessive attention may give him the idea that you, my dear, have nothing to do. This means that the main object is he and you will not get anywhere from him. You can behave as you like and be with anyone.

How to keep a loved one - male version

Why did I emphasize that it is the male version? Because we have different views on some problems with women. Well, we definitely won't advise you to surround us with even more care to feel what kind of girl is irreplaceable.

Based on our own experience, as well as on the thoughts of smart people, we managed to form several simple rules for girls about how to behave so that a man would appreciate and value her.

Stick to measure

The girl fell into a whirlpool of feelings. She constantly wants to be around. Sometimes feelings are so overwhelming that there is a desire to cuddle a beloved man. But I would advise you to hold back. Hug your pet, and just kiss the guy as you pass by. It will be casual and very pleasant.

The next tip I will devote to girls who call, write messages to their boyfriends every five minutes. I can see the guy's reaction. The first call - he answered nicely and amiably, the second - the conversation was rather restrained, this is observed for several more calls. Depending on the patience of the guy, on 5-7 calls, he simply will not pick up the phone or turn off the phone. And after the scandal and resentment. Why is this necessary? It is enough to call once or twice during the day. It would be enough. A guy should miss his beloved, and not consider her an annoying infection.

The moral of the above - know the measure in everything. In a relationship, this is important. A loved one should feel your love and care, but at the same time feel free.

Love and value yourself

Girls, I am writing on behalf of all men: do not make us the meaning of all life. Love yourself and we will love you. A man is not interested in a housewife who has thoroughly studied one topic - cooking borscht. He wants to see in his life companion an interesting interlocutor, friend and helper.

To become your man's friend and partner, a girl needs a constant striving for self-improvement. Remember, when a guy is not interested in communication with you, sooner or later he will pay attention to a more worthy person.

And a new hobby or occupation will take you free time and less time will be left for silly thoughts about your man. Your beautiful head will not be visited by the thought of where he is now and what he is doing.

2 in 1 - friends and lovers

Good and high-quality sex is, of course, great and beneficial for health and shape. But, in addition to a wonderful partner in bed, in everyday life a man wants to see a friend in a girl as well.

We also tend to sometimes complain about life, the head of the tyrant, and so on. And we want to be simply listened to and, sometimes, helped with advice. I in no way urge girls to put on a T-shirt and sweatpants and drink beer with us in the evenings and discuss our boss. But sometimes guys need a friendly shoulder and a kind word.

If a girl can combine a mistress and a friend in herself, then such a guy will never leave and will cherish the relationship.

How to behave so that a man is afraid of losing you

A man loves to be needed

We have a primal instinct to get food and protect the home. I would advise girls to take advantage of this. In our age, girls can do a lot and this scares off the male sex. Why are we weak and weak to strong and independent women?

Do you want your loved one to be afraid of losing you -. This gives us the opportunity to feel like real knights, and you - fragile ladies.

I strongly recommend that you forget that you can carry 20 kg of tomato on yourself for tomato juice, hammer nails and twist the screws with ease. Entrust this work to a man. And then he will spread his “wings” and fly to help.

The man is pleased that such a fragile girl turned to him for help. If he loves and values \u200b\u200byou, he will move mountains. But here I hasten to remind you of the sense of proportion. In the first month, it is not worth asking for repairs in the apartment. You won't see the guy again.

Quarrels are indispensable

No matter how ideal the relationship between a guy and a girl is, quarrels still cannot be avoided. As strange as it sounds, you need to be able to quarrel correctly. In a fit of anger, it is very important not to offend or humiliate a person. We all have feelings and it is very easy to hurt them. Then no amount of apology will fix the situation.

No matter how terribly your significant other is guilty during a quarrel, observe the following rules:

do not stoop to verbal abuse of each other;
do not accumulate resentment, but express everything to your partner at once;
do not make sharp remarks and do not make scenes in front of strangers;
even if you quarreled, go to bed in the same bed, or rather, resolve all issues before bedtime.

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The life of a man is like a relay race. To achieve the desired goal and run further is the motto of his consciousness. This is what contributed to scientific discoveries, the development of civilization.

Women tend to be attracted to those who strive for new heights. In the love sphere, a man also seeks to achieve a goal faster and moves on. After the wedding, a woman often notices that the chosen one pays less attention.

How to behave with a man so that he is afraid of losing you: golden rules

In the old days, divorce was rare.

The reason was not a desire to preserve the marriage, but tradition. The divorce rate today shows how easy it is to ruin a relationship. This leads to a banal misunderstanding of the partner's psychology. Psychologist's advice will tell you how to behave with your husband so that he is afraid of losing you.

A man has dynamic thinking, he needs development, striving for a goal, rivalry, pursuit. The absence of this provokes degradation. A woman, on the contrary, is static, creates coziness, equips the space, establishes contacts with others. You cannot demand from a partner that which is not laid down by nature.

To understand how to behave properly with a man, reconsider the question.

They lose what they have already received. The wife is nearby, but interest in her is gradually decreasing. A man is afraid of losing, if he could not truly achieve, the woman remained for him an unsolved mystery, a mysterious multifaceted personality. If she is one step ahead, the man will really become afraid of losing her.

Important! There is no need to strive to create a fear of losing the family in a marriage. Healthy relationships are not built on fear.

You shouldn't put bans

It is important for men to feel themselves in charge and responsible. At any age, they strive for independence, a manifestation of masculinity. If opportunity is taken away, the stronger sex acts in two ways. Submits, degrades, or revolts.

Even reasonable prohibitions repel, provoke to do the opposite. Think of your boy classmates: how difficult it was for them to observe school discipline. If the teacher did not motivate, but forbade, the boys were the first to not complete the assignments and indulged in. The same thing happens to a man in adulthood.

He follows the rules when he feels the need. This is the only way to maintain masculinity.

Example: a husband has had surgery and is not allowed to drink alcohol. If the wife informs in the form of a ban, he will soon want to drink. The desire to be independent is higher than health. Therefore, it is better to present information in the form of advice. The thought presented in this way will make the spouse think.

"No" overprotection and control

The man said goodbye to these "friends" as a teenager, when he fought with his parents for freedom. If a young man can legally marry, then he does not need supervision every day.

How to behave:

Instead of supervising, take an interest in his affairs.
Replace hyper-care with care.
Demonstrate confidence in him.
Give freedom of action.
Eliminate directive communication.
Say no to feeling jealous.

Do not become a second mother for your husband. These self-sacrifices will be assessed as an attempt to dominate, disbelief in his strength.

Regular and quality sex

At the beginning of a relationship, it is easy for partners to maintain regular sexual intercourse. Over time, this turns into a habit, gradually the desire fades away. Promotes monotony of behavior, attempts to manipulate sex, refusals.

What to do:

Take care of your sexuality education. Look for new options.
Develop sensuality, concentrate on the sensations. This will help you experience intimacy more deeply.
Show real feelings. The guy feels constrained, trying to act in a formulaic manner.
Don't ask for gifts for sex. The man will agree, but you will fall in his eyes.
The punishment of rejection is a surefire way to destroy attraction.
“No” must be justified.
Listen to the wishes of your partner, express yourself.

Experiment, learn to just have fun. It is essential for a healthy relationship.

Show yourself weak

The role of a man is to take care, to protect. It protects the beloved from the outside world, provides comfort. This situation gives satisfaction, the guy feels needed.

Women tend to disrupt the natural order of things, voluntarily take on male tasks. Your spouse will not appreciate your strength and determination. Remember the natural role, enjoy femininity.

Hide the "saw"

You feel calm at home. If you fail at work, with finances, you can return home and recuperate. This is what men expect when they decide to start a family. And these are the most reasonable ideas about marriage.

Instead, they are often faced with a "saw". She confidently undermines the nerves of both, leads to separation.

How a saw woman behaves:

always dissatisfied;
categorically demands;
repeats claims;
talks about her husband's failures;
does not thank.

This behavior destroys strong feelings, charm, makes the character heavy, quarrelsome.

Give your husband three certificates of trust in your mind:

The right to make mistakes.
The right to make the final decision.
Freedom of action.

Stay beautiful!

When meeting a girl, a guy sees her well-groomed, in smart clothes, with makeup, hair. Thinks that the beloved wakes up fresh and blooming in the morning.

Wear clean, beautiful home clothing.
Do a light daytime makeup.
Hair should always be kept clean.
Watch your manicure.
Wear perfume even at home.

The rules can be followed even with young children. This does not require financial costs, but it will help to please the husband.

Remember that there are things that your spouse should never see:

Depilation process, eyebrow shaping.
Feminine hygiene products.
Hair in shower drain.

Accentuate beauty.

Do not deny yourself new underwear, jewelry, cosmetics. Men are happy to give gifts. It helps them feel strong and masculine.

He fell in love with you because you seemed like a fairy, gentle and weightless. Let not living together dispel these ideas.

Cultivate what makes him dependent on you

It was possible to confine oneself to family affairs and children several centuries ago. Now life like that is just boring. The decree provokes depression, makes a woman nervous, irritable. To prevent this from happening, develop. Guys admire girls who are endowed with talents, do what they love.

The fine lines of personality can be surprising for many years, if you do not try to surrender all of yourself already at the beginning of family life.

Is there something that he especially likes? Perhaps he is in awe of flexibility? Do yoga or stretching. Don't say you are doing this for him. Enjoy your own development.

What to do in case of a quarrel, how to behave?

Conflict is normal ... How to behave correctly in order to solve it and not spoil the relationship?

Set three firm "no":

Do not try to offend, emphasize the weaknesses of your partner, past failures, in any other way to hurt the quick.
Fight in private, without witnesses.
Find a compromise before bed.

... If you feel overwhelmed, wait 15 minutes. Rely on reason, not feelings. Be clear about the result you are achieving. Tell your partner exactly the essence of the claim and wishes.

Men prefer to solve a specific problem rather than speculate about abstract situations. Say what you are not happy with and he will make an effort to resolve the conflict.

"Blackmail by leaving": a very bad way to make the husband afraid of losing his wife

Any person lends itself to manipulation. A whole science in psychology studies the ways of persuading others to their opinion. While it's fun, should you use it in your family?

Women who lack wisdom tend to show their husbands that he can lose her, hoping to renew interest. Manipulation really demonstrates a woman's desire to leave. In addition, the husband will consider her unreliable, eccentric, and will expect a catch.

How to behave with a man in bed before and after an argument

The quarrel is a thing of the past as soon as a way out is found. Do not remember grudges or suspicions.

Avoid the following topics in bed:

unsaid claims;
doubts about honesty;
new discontent.

If after the quarrel there is still no desire for intimacy, say directly that you are worried about what happened and did not tune in to the right mood.

Don't let the conflict take its toll on your intimate relationship.

Conclusion

Your beloved independent person, personality. Let him stay that way. Develop, live life to the fullest. Remember, no one can be a part of another. Let go of the urge to make the loved one a property.

The lion's share of quarrels in married couples occurs due to excessive control from one partner and insufficient attention from the other. As a rule, a man suffers from excessive care of his beloved, and a woman is offended when she does not receive every minute participation from her half. Girls feel a lack of attention as a lack of love.

He and she have different perceptions of family relationships. Regardless of the strength of feelings for you, a man will never want to give up gatherings with friends and going to football. Women, on the contrary, tend to rush into relationships with their heads, forget about friends and entertainment, where the beloved is not involved. This creates a painful dissonance.

The first golden rule: to avoid problems - slow down with tutelage. Do not focus on your man 24 hours a day, rather find yourself two or three hobbies that will take up your free time. While your husband is sitting at a bar with friends, you go to sports, to a beauty salon, meet with your girlfriends, sign up for refresher courses, trainings ... So you will not only leave the man a few hours a day without your calls and SMS, but you will also improve yourself externally and internally. Believe me, a man will never want to lose a beautiful self-sufficient woman.

Support him

Relationships need balance and harmony, so don't go to extremes. Have we convinced you that you should not overprotect your man? Great, but do not forget to call (not often, enough times a day!) And ask how he is doing and if he wants to keep you company, for example, in the gym? Now you are equal partners, halves of one whole. Ask about his victories and failures and, if necessary, provide support. Men will never share their failures with friends, which is why sometimes they need the help of their beloved so badly.

The second golden rule: be close to your loved one in moments of victory and defeat. Men will never want to lose a girl who understands and accepts them as they are.

Stay attractive

Many women, after marriage, stop devoting enough time to caring for themselves. Think about yourself at a time when you wanted to attract the attention of your chosen one. How many new dresses and blouses have appeared in your wardrobe? Surely almost every day you did styling in a hairdresser, put on heels, sacrificing convenience for the sake of beauty? If you still stand in front of the mirror for an hour every day, you shouldn't worry, but if the time that you previously devoted to caring for yourself is spent on washing, ironing and "babes" - slow down. Reimagine your daily routine. A man, of course, will appreciate the care, but, first of all, he wants to see you as beautiful as before.

Third Golden Rule: Always be with stylish makeup and flawless manicure. A man is afraid to lose a beautiful woman.

Don't be jealous!

Women sometimes overly romanticize jealousy directed in their own direction, considering it a proof of love. At the same time, they can terrorize a man for a long time and stubbornly if they have to experience jealousy. Neither one nor the other helps build relationships. Having decided to provoke a guy into jealousy, be prepared for the most unexpected consequences. Some men may get angry, others will find you frivolous, and still others will find jealousy proof of self-neglect. Better not to joke with jealousy.

Unlike women, all men, without exception, despise such a manifestation of love and are irritated if the woman they love turns out to be jealous.

Psychologists say that the most common cause of jealousy is self-doubt. That is why a woman thinks that her man is about to find someone better and starts playing detective.

The fourth golden rule: concentrate on yourself, attend as many cosmetic procedures as you need to feel the most beautiful. And the jealousy will go away.

Make him feel needed

Every man seeks to show his soul mate how necessary and good he is. You can play along a little with his noble aspirations and from time to time ask for small, and not so, services. If the man is well versed in technology, invite him to repair the toaster. If you call the master at home, then your young man may take this as an insult to his dignity. Therefore, before doing anything, tell him about the problem, let the beloved decide for himself whether he will cope on his own or need help.

If your half does not have enough skills to solve the problem, do not tell him: "you are a man ..." Your young man may be a professional in one business, but not understand another. And that's okay, because we are all human. Remember, this type of rebuke makes a man feel weak. In response, you may receive an even more painful attack, because you hurt his male ego.

The fifth golden rule: be smarter and use the strengths of your loved one by tactfully keeping silent about the weak! Compromise relationships are usually the most persistent and durable. Men are afraid of losing a woman with whom they feel strong and courageous.

Be financially understanding

Another sore spot for many men is financial well-being. Criticism of his work, salary, reproaches regarding the value of gifts and the like often lead to a complete collapse of the relationship.

The sixth golden rule: refrain from criticizing the financial situation of your chosen one. If you are not satisfied with his income, then discuss with the family council how you can improve your well-being. A man will never want to lose a woman who knows that money is much cheaper than love.

Don't be sprayed with resentment and anger

It can be difficult to regain the former warmth in communication even after several days of mutual grievances, not to mention longer fights. Smooth relationships are the key to success and harmony.

The seventh golden rule: if you love your chosen one, then learn to accept him, and not the idealized image that you painted in your head in the months when he courted you. A man will appreciate it and be afraid to lose you.

To be the one that a man will hold on to at all costs is probably the dream of many women ..

What women do men "cling to"?

Let us make a reservation right away - now we will not start talking about the fact that you need to change for the sake of a man and become, for example, thin, long-haired, ideally cooking meat in thirty ways, etc. Not! We presume that you are you, and there is no need to break yourself and torture yourself for the sake of any man.

They love, appreciate and are afraid of losing a wide variety of women - including short, overweight, hair-cut, tattooed, hating cooking, and mothers of three children from past marriages, careerists and housewives, intellectuals and "simpletons" ...

The point is that, objectively speaking, there is no magic way to "glue" any man to any woman. If we are to discuss the topic of how to behave correctly so that a man is afraid of losing you, then the basis should be a relationship where the man has already chosen you for something, where he has already been "hooked".

By the way, these "clues" can be just those of your features, which from the point of view of others, strangers, not your men will be considered disadvantages!

In addition, the man himself must fit into certain parameters of adequacy: because there are no methods of influencing "chronic womanizers", hyperegoists, various kinds of manipulators, and even more so alcoholics and drug addicts. And if such a character is so attached to a woman that he is afraid to be left without her, then for the woman herself this often turns into total control, demands, and other very unpleasant and unhealthy things with the help of which a mentally unstable person tries to keep her near him.

And then some generalizing, sometimes elusive and difficult to describe characteristics of those very women who manage to easily and without any special manipulations "mock" men so that they are afraid of parting, begin!

Afraid of losing the woman who is good

Good with a man - but good without him! She feels good with her friends, at work, in various companies, with relatives - in general, this is a woman who is tuned in to a certain wave of happiness, calmness and warmth ... This sense of her self is perfectly conveyed to men - they also feel good, easy and cozy!

Of course, this does not mean that we are talking about constant euphoria and the complete absence of negative emotions (this is impossible and abnormal for any person). This refers to the general light and joyful mood that prevails if there are no objectively painful situations.

Afraid of losing a self-sufficient woman

Everything is very simple here: if a man realizes that he is not really being held back, that this girl will cope well in life without him, and if no one will catch up with him with sobs, then he begins to fear that he may be quit. And what you need to try to prevent this from happening - to match your lady, win competition with her other fans, demonstrate your feelings, etc.

Afraid of losing the "mystery woman"

If in a partner there is always something unspoken, unreported and unproven, then curiosity will keep the man next to her - and what else will she discover, and what else will surprise? Simple, "on the board" and completely understandable girls are comfortable for men, but ... sooner or later men begin to get bored.

This phenomenon is best illustrated by the phrase of the unfaithful husband from the movie "The Bat": "A wife is a book read. It can be stored, protected, bound, but it is no longer interesting to read it ... ”.

No matter how sad, but it is so - next to the "read books" men do not stay long ...

What to do to make a man want to keep and be afraid of losing?

But let's move on to practical advice from "Beautiful and Successful" - how to behave so that your man is afraid of losing you.

Sometimes surprise a man with something new in himself. Not a new cutlet recipe! And, for example, the fact that you decide to go to salsa. Or you've read some interesting book and want to discuss it. Or dyed purple. Or you bought a tent and are going to the mountains. In general - sometimes break the predictability of your actions and desires!
Uncommon, but give your man a reason to be jealous. Or at least think about the fact that you have alternative options. This must be done very cunningly and accurately: you need to hint to your partner that other gentlemen are also interested in you, but you are decent, you are not giving them any special chances yet. Bye - bye you are good with him. And if he wants to keep you, then let him try to make you feel good in the future, because the victory in the competition of males should not go to beautiful eyes!
Allow you to constantly win a little. Even if you have capitulated for a long time and have been actively “cooperating with the occupier” for many years! But it does not hurt at all to distance yourself a little from a man if he is lazy and begins to perceive your favor as something a priori due to him. And vice versa - to please him and pamper, if he himself tries to please and pleasantly surprise you!
Be self-reliant. Despite the myth actively supported by the patriarchal culture that “a real woman should be weak and constantly need male help,” in fact, men highly value and respect those women who themselves can figure out their lives, make a decision, show some then activity, etc. And men help more willingly not to “white-handed princesses”, but to self-sufficient ladies who simply cannot cope on their own at a certain moment and really need specific help or advice.

And by all means - enjoy life, be positive. The "inner light" is really very attractive - they don't want to lose such women!