The man says that we are just friends. Friend man? Or love on the "mountain"

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Hello! I have a question that torments me very much, torments me for more than a year. I am “friends” with one guy. I'm in love with him, and he says that “we are just friends”, but his behavior betrays the opposite! When we intersect, he is terribly embarrassed (why are he embarrassed for a girlfriend?), But if we drink at the company and he goes over it, he starts joking at me, teasing, teasing, trying to hurt me if he sees that I’m offended , he: this is a joke, I'm joking. We rarely communicate with him, I can not keep up a conversation with him for long, although according to him WE ARE FRIENDS. When we started quarreling with him, he tries to suppress this quarrel at any cost, after the quarrel he makes the first contact, it is clear that he tolerates me. He takes care of me, though not often, but doesn’t behave like that with other girls. He is trying to make me jealous, when I complimented another girl, he said how beautiful she was, and so on. It can be seen that this is just a performance to make me jealous.

He communicates openly with all the girls, but he behaves timidly with me, selects words and is silent. It is to me that he is so strange. With all the girls can keep in touch, but something is holding him back with me! (when he is sober), when he drinks, he is brave and starts to touch me, jokingly fight, and so on. On a sober head, he will never do it. When I'm talking with someone in the company, he sits quietly next to him and listens to me. When I speak with a member of the opposite sex, he shuts up and “secretly” watches us. Looks at me when I don’t look at him. And when I look at him at the time of the conversation, for a long time he can’t keep contact with his eyes, turns his eyes away. Regarding my view, this is a separate issue, he is even embarrassed when I look at him! He does not become clever! When we talked on the phone, his voice timbre changed: he swallowed the words, spoke very quickly and it was not clear. It is immediately clear that he was worried at the time of the conversation on the phone.

What kind of behavior is this? After all, if “we are friends” then there should not be this timidity and he should communicate with me as openly as with other girls? If he has feelings for me, then why does he say “we are just friends”? Help clarify this all. He is 20 years old

Z.Y. I confessed my love to him, he didn’t say that he didn’t like me, that I was mad at him, he only said: “We are just friends”

  We need trust in order
to manipulate people.

I could not come up with a vivid title for this article, I could not come up with some way to be read by as many girls as possible.

But I still hope that my note will not go unnoticed by all of you. Or at least for the majority.

More and more often letters began to come to our mail, the content of which resonates in my soul.

“He kisses me, calls me, gives me flowers. Sometimes we walk. But he always says that we are just friends. What should I do?"

I recently read such an interesting phrase:

“A man familiar with the rules of good form conquers immediately. He opened the door in front of you and skipped ahead, shook his hand at the exit from public transport or, ahead of you, gallantly opened the door of his own car in front of you. Do not rush to exclaim: "The gentlemen in this world have not yet translated!" It is possible that your gallant gentleman uses his tact for manipulative purposes ”

Perhaps your man is just like that? Today I will help answer the question "What to do?" to many girls. I will open my eyes to many events. However, many of you will not want to hear me, and this is bad.

“Baby, I really like you, but I just recently broke up with a girl. It hurts me. We can only be friends. ”

"We are just friends"   and after that a long passionate kiss.

“For now, I want to develop a career. Sorry"

“My parents want me to learn first”

If you hear something like this from a person who is nice to you, then I would quickly run in your place.

Why are they doing this?

Everything is simple! Men want a free, easy relationship. They want you to sleep with them, kiss and walk at a time when it is convenient for them. Nobody wants to see you as their girlfriend or to meet their close friends. Give you teddy bears or write gentle sms.

Men of this kind have their own ideas about relationships - we are friends, she does not control me, but we sleep with her. Saying all the above phrases, the man gives a warning “Baby, do not expect me to be your boyfriend!” If you suddenly suspect him in connection with another woman, walking in clubs or other crap in response to hear “Hey, I warned you! We're just friends!"

You will spend time on a person with whom you have no future!

Recently, we have been writing girls who have an affair with men older than them. Such behavior, common among men and the older they are, the more skillfully they use the naivety of girls.

He promises to call and does not call, appears unexpectedly with a bouquet of color or an apologetic look / phrases, kisses goodbye and says he missed. And then it disappears again. Thus, he binds you to himself, does not let you forget that he is in your life - so sweet, caring and good.

Even worse, if a man does not even hide his goals. He hugs and kisses you, maybe trying to sleep. At the same time, he asserts in every way that you are close friends. Watch out. In women, this is called dynamo. You will be left with nothing!

Do not believe a word in the sentence that begins with the phrase “We are friends ...”, because this person is a malicious manipulator who, in which case, can say “I warned!”, “You are to blame!”

“Manipulating a person is a delicate matter. You will spare him - and he will follow his whims. If you are too strict, he will turn against you. ”

As you can see, the more tender and better he behaves with you, the more he attracts you. After all, subconsciously, a person, a person who speaks pleasant phrases to us, is perceived as something positive in your life. It seems to you that he is not lying, referring to affairs and concerns and disappearing for several days or weeks.

Once upon a time I read this thought: “No one can manipulate anyone. Both realize what they are doing, even if later one of them complains that they used it ”and I am sure that the person who invented it is absolutely right.

The relationship between a guy and a girl is complicated. Girls may not notice a guy, and then suddenly fall in love or slowly and steadily develop a relationship. However, the guys are trying and building relationships. But, often they are faced with the fact that the development of relations leads only to friendship. Why did it happen and how to proceed further? That is what we will consider in our article.

In order to understand this problem, you need to understand the reasons why the girl considers you only a friend. But with full confidence we can say that your chosen one either does not decide on a serious relationship. Or the girl has no interest in you.

There are several main reasons why you are only a friend to a girl:

1. You do not attract her as a man.   Yes, you are a good, reliable person with whom it is interesting to communicate, but no more. Therefore, you only approach her as a friend.

2. The girl has someone.   If you know that this is not so, then do not rule out the possibility that your girlfriend may have sympathy for another person. Therefore, she does not notice you.

In any case, do not give up. After all, this is the lot of weak people. You need to be patient and see the potential for further relations in friendship. Understanding the reason, you need to protect yourself from the basic mistakes that guys make in this situation.

And so, what should not be done if the girl said that she considers you only a friend:

1. Do not get depressed.   Friendship is already something. Initially, you should understand that if a girl offered you friendship, then this is not so bad. Because you are at least a reliable person with whom she is interested in talking, and this is not bad.

2. No to ultimatums.   You should not raise the question with an edge and say that you cannot be another, as you have deep feelings for her. Acting so, most likely you will be left with nothing. With these words, you will not win the girl’s heart, but only push her away from you.

3. And most importantly - do not be a bore.   Do not bother the girl with constant calls and messages. A lot of guys are starting to almost follow the girl. With such actions, they only annoy and scare the girl. You are a man, and therefore have respect for yourself.

Girls love persistent men. But they also love those men who know how to compromise and, if necessary, can yield to them. Indeed, it is really very difficult to live with a dictator. Agree to friendship and understand that this is not a categorical “no” told to you, but only temporary. Therefore, to begin with, show your beloved that you are a truly reliable and not annoying friend.

Do not forget that the love between a girl and a guy often begins with friendship.

And so, understanding not the hopelessness of your situation, but seeing only bright prospects in it, we will move on to the final solution to your problem.

Consider what you need to change in yourself so that the girl sees in you her potential man:

1. Charm. Girls fall in love with men who know how to make an impression. Develop in yourself the good qualities that your beloved likes.

2. Flirt.   Learn to subtly hint a girl at something more. The ability to flirt with eyes and facial expressions is a serious weapon in the fight for the girl’s heart.

3. Compliments.   The beautiful half of humanity loves good words to their side. Thus, you will make it clear to the girl that she is very attractive to you.

4. Confidence and reliability.   It is these feelings that your girlfriend should experience while being with you. These are the qualities that say you can rely on.

Using these tips, you will make yourself attractive. And over time, your chosen one will understand that the one she was looking for for a serious relationship is next to her and that is you.

Once in your friendship, a moment may come when you begin to think about whether you want to become with your close friend more than just friends. Romantic feelings can develop at any moment, and you can see some changes in the behavior of your friend, in his attitude towards you. These signs will help you to understand whether your friend has romantic feelings for you, or whether your relationship will remain at the level of friendship.

Steps

Pay attention to changes in the behavior of a friend

Compare how your friends relate to you.   When spending time with mutual friends, pay attention to whether your friend treats you the same way as other friends. Perhaps he is more affectionate, more sociable with you, perhaps he makes you comments about your relationship.

• If your best friend treats you like his other friends, he is unlikely to have romantic feelings for you. A friend who treats you the same way he treated his ex-girlfriend is most likely to like you.
• This will help you to understand if a friend feels sympathy or simply behaves in a friendly manner towards you.

1. Pay attention to your time together.   Naturally, you often spend time with your best friend. Ask yourself if your meetings are like dates. For example, do you go to dinner and to the movies? If so, do you usually only do this together?

   • If a person begins to have romantic feelings for you, he wants to spend as much time with you as possible. If you notice that you began to spend more time with each other than before, if your meetings began to look like dates, most likely your friend will sympathize with you.
   • Also pay attention to whether your friend tells you that he likes to spend time alone with you. Perhaps this is a way to tell you that he wants a romantic relationship with you.

2. Listen to how he says.   First, listen to how your friend talks to other people about you and how he talks to you. If a person likes someone, he will communicate with him in a special tone of voice that will be intended specifically for him. In addition, when talking to you, your friend may get nervous and blush.

   • Pay attention to how your friend laughs at your jokes and reacts to everything you do. If his reaction is much stronger than expected, maybe he just likes you.
   • Friends do not feel awkward when communicating with each other, so if you start to notice that your friend has become shy and timid, discussing any topics with you, maybe he likes you. For example, if he suddenly becomes shy when you talk about school dances or about the dates you attended.

3. Listen to what your friend tells you.   Perhaps he is trying to subtly hint at his feelings. For example, he may have romantic themes or ask directly if you like someone now. In addition, he can try to make your relationship more trusting by asking you very personal questions about your life, dreams, goals and desires.

   • Since this is your best friend, he probably listens very carefully to what you are saying. You may have noticed that he suddenly began to recall small details about your life that are usually quickly forgotten (for example, when you have an exam or some important event). Your friend can show you that he remembers this event by commenting on it or wishing you good luck.

4. Pay attention to flirty behavior.   If your friend flirts with you, maybe he likes you, but maybe he's just a very flirtatious person. You need to be able to understand what this flirtation means, but you already know this person well enough, and this is your advantage. Pay attention to the signs of flirting:

   Pay attention to how he behaves.   You may have noticed that your friend began to pay more attention to his appearance when you spend time together. For example, he can dress beautifully or wear what you like (if this is a girl, style her hair and dye her hair). If a person likes someone, he often tries to appear in front of him in the best possible way.

   • If you start to notice that your friend began to spend more time trying to look good when you are going to meet, maybe he likes you.

   Pay attention to body language

   1. Pay attention to body language, to attempts to attract you.   If a person wants to attract someone, he demonstrates this through behavior. There are a whole host of different ways to show your sympathy, and if you notice a few of these signs with your friend, maybe he likes you. So, pay attention to the following symptoms:

   2. Check if your friend is trying to get closer to you.   If he likes you, he will try to initiate physical contact. For example, if before you did not hug at a meeting, now you hug each time you see each other.

      • In addition, physical contact may differ from what it was before. For example, instead of patting your hand, your friend will try to hug you. Or he can stroke your knee or arm.

   3. Pay attention to when exactly your friend is trying to touch you.   Physical contact between friends is normal, but you may have noticed that your friend began to touch you more often than before. He can show affection by hugging you, putting his hand on your shoulder or touching your hand.

      • For example, he may “accidentally” touch your palm when you are near. Perhaps he is overwhelmed with emotions, and he cannot touch you in a different way (for example, hug). But he wants to be near you.
      • If you are not very comfortable when a friend touches you, politely and kindly tell him about it.

   Rate your relationship

   1. Think about how you feel.   Do you have romantic feelings for your friend? Ask yourself if you would like a romantic relationship with this person. The fact that you perceive this person as a romantic partner will greatly influence your attitude towards his behavior.

      • If you want a romantic relationship with this person, try to be honest with him about your feelings. If you notice some of the signs listed above, most likely this person also likes you. Try to hint that you like someone, see how he reacts. Or ask a friend if he likes someone.
      • For example, you can say: "Zhenya, I thought a lot about our friendship, and I think that we are well together, and we could be a couple."

   2. Observe your behavior. Perhaps you made your friend some hints of a relationship without even thinking about it. For example, you could accidentally flirt with him, be more open and affectionate in communicating with him. If you do not consider your friend as a romantic partner, you should not behave kindly and openly with him, otherwise he might think that you are flirting with him.

      • If you want to meet with him, try to hint to him that he is interesting to you.

   3. Talk to your friends.   You may be embarrassed that your best friend attracts you romantically. Talk with a close friend / girlfriend, find out his / her opinion about this situation and try to find out if someone is like your friend, whom you like.

      • But be careful not to hear rumors about your friend discussing him behind him. Talk with friends you really trust and who are up to date with your situation.
      • You can just talk to your friends and “by the way” find out if someone likes the object of your adoration. For example, you could say something like: “Listen, I noticed that Zhenya is no longer talking about Katya, do you know who he likes now?”

   4. Talk to him.   If you are not sure, just ask. This is the only reliable way to find out if a person likes you (although, of course, this method is risky). On the one hand, your friend may not want to jeopardize your friendship, and therefore it will not be very comfortable for him to share his feelings with you.

      Think about this question very well.   If your friend doesn’t want to reveal feelings to you or answers something dismissive (for example: “By no means, are you crazy (crazy)? We are just friends”), just leave this topic. Try to defuse the situation by saying something like: “Okay, no problem, I was just interested. It's cool anyway. ”

      • If your friend is simply afraid to tell you about his sympathy or struggles with his feelings, he may need time to reveal himself to you. Be patient and considerate, do not put pressure on your friend.

   5. Say you really value your friendship.   A person should know that friendships are very important to you, and that you care about him. Regardless of whether you will meet with your friend or not, your friendship is something special that cannot be lost.

      • If your friend feels sympathy for you, and you do not share his feelings, you may need to take a break. This is painful and unpleasant, but your friend will need time to cope with his feelings and move on.
      • Tell him what you worry about your relationship: “Sasha, our friendship means a lot to me. You’re a great friend, I’m so glad that I have you, I hope we can still be best friends. ”

Incredible facts

Sometimes the strongest relationships grow out of an innocent friendship.

On the other hand, you can sit in the friendzone for years, afraid to tell your feelings to someone who considers you to be just a friend.

How do you know what is more than ordinary friendship between you?

Here are 15 sure signs that a person has more to you than just platonic feelings.

Love for friend

1. You are not called a friend

Very often, a person’s true feelings are manifested through his words, which he uses in a conversation with you. If you are not called a friend, this usually means that you have the status of a more significant person.

A person can simply mention you by name or, in extreme cases, call you a "close friend" and not just a friend.

In fact, it’s quite easy to understand the feelings of another person simply by observing in what a sincere manner the interlocutor speaks about you.

2. Touching in certain places

When people are not indifferent to each other, they often have an uncontrollable, annoying desire to be as close to each other as possible.

A friend who is struggling with strong feelings will find any reason to touch you. Touching does not always mean more than friendships, and in some cases are commonplace between friends.

But how often and how intimate these touches are will tell a lot about the secret desires of a person. A slight nudge, stroking the shoulder or the desire to hold on to the hand - all this can be a sign of nascent feelings.

3. Finds a reason to be alone

One of the most common problems that occurs when you have feelings for a friend is the inability to spend time alone. Friends most often spend time in a large company and are in full view of the others. He who sees in you more than a friend will seek any opportunity to remain face to face.

A friend who ignores your mutual friends and directs all attention to you when you are in a big company, clearly wants a more romantic relationship.

4. Looks at you in a special way.

The eyes are the mirror of the soul. With their help, you can convey a lot of emotions. Therefore, sometimes it is enough to look into the eyes of a person to understand his true feelings for you.

If a person stares at you intently and for a long time, or vice versa, he restlessly looks away and is afraid to look in the eyes when you look back, this may indicate that they are not just looking at you as at a friend.

5. Asks about your past relationship

Curiosity about your past relationship may be a sign that someone has hopes for an affair with you. This suggests that a person begins to imagine what it is like to be with you in a relationship.

He is trying to get rid of your image as a friend and replace him with the image of a partner. Inquiries about your personal life are a clear indicator of intimate desires, otherwise he would not be interested in such things.

6. Clarifies your plans for the future

When a person secretly wants a serious relationship with a "friend", he begins to worry that he may have plans for someone else, and the chance to be together will be missed.

For this reason, he may often be interested in whether you have someone in mind and if you are not going to build a relationship with someone else. From the outside it may seem that this is an innocent interest in your personal life, but the one who closely follows your plans for the future definitely treats you more than your friend.

7. Jealous

Jealousy is perhaps the most undeniable sign of deep feelings for someone. If a person feels pricks of jealousy when someone tries to win your attention, he wants to be in the place of the opponent.

Jealousy in the status of a friend is especially painful, as a person understands that he missed his chance to be near you and wants to change his position.

In the absence of such feelings, jealousy would hardly bother your friend.

8. Remember important dates

If you often chat, and your friend knows your birthday and other memorable dates, you can rest assured that friendship doesn’t smell like friendship here.

A man is so obsessed with you that he counts the days to the date when he can prove to you how much you care about him. If he attaches special importance to this, it means that your life really cares about him.

9. Body language speaks for itself

In addition to looking, other gestures can tell a lot more words about a person’s feelings. It's pretty easy to understand what a friend is experiencing for you, just by watching his body language.

For example, women often correct or play with their hair, unconsciously touching their body in the presence of someone they feel sympathy for.

Men can try to straighten their shoulders and take up as much space as possible to attract attention. All this will tell you the intentions of your friend.

10. Flirts with you

An interested friend often begins to flirt with the object of his sighs. Even if a person is not very sociable, he will try to flirt with you, albeit not too clearly for fear of rejection.

Flirting is another way to probe the soil and see if feelings are mutual. This is a sign that a friend wants a more serious relationship.

11. Tells friends about you

When a person constantly thinks about you, everything reminds him of the subject of his love, and he has a desire to tell others about you.

You may hear a phrase like “ We heard a lot about you". Such behavior is a clear allusion to affection rather than friendship.

12. Tries to always look good

When we try to make a good impression, we constantly worry about our appearance and preen in the presence of the subject of our sympathies.

A man can straighten his shirt or trousers, smooth his hair, women dress in such a way as to emphasize their dignity, and in general they begin to carefully monitor their appearance.

No doubt such a friend wants a closer relationship with you.

13. Hints that is free

If a friend considers you as a lover, he will in every possible way hint that he has no one. Think that there is no need to give this information if you are just friends.

Most often, a hint of loneliness will be said casually, as if between things, but in reality, a person makes it clear that he is free and ready for a relationship.

14. Much expects from you

A friend who has more intimate feelings for you will be very upset if you ignore him or ignore him.

You can easily upset him if you forget about the meeting or promise that he was given. Friends rarely experience such feelings, and in these cases, they prefer to forget and forgive.

A person who is not indifferent to you will expect more, since you have more significance for him.

15. It makes you jealous

If your friend is trying to make you jealous, this is a classic sign that he has romantic feelings for you.

Firstly, by such actions a person wants to attract attention, and secondly, to monitor your reaction and whether you are concerned about the presence of a potential rival.

Although such a method can stir up strong emotions and resentment, this is one of the sure indicators that they want much more from you than just friendship.

Many times guys asked me what to do if a girl tells you that you are just a friend to her? You want love and affection, and she told you the phrase “We are just friends” and that’s it.

The girl says that you do not think about any close relationships, you are for her no more than just a good friend. And you, as a guy, cannot understand why a girl treats you like that.

And I’ll explain it to you now.

In 90% of cases, only you are to blame. Consider the two most common development situations.

Option one - Do you like the girl, you look after her.

This is the most common option,. The girl, in turn, reciprocates. Then, when the guy tells her that he loves, she makes big and round eyes and answers, “Sergey, are you, we are just friends.” And the guy is to blame. Why? Now I will explain in detail.

In any case, if such a situevina is worth a try.

BatMouse   on June 9th, 2010

So I started dating my girlfriend. Before that, I knew her for 3 years, then something woke up, offered her, and she didn’t mind) Already 1.5 years together, I love her)

Maria   on December 5th, 2010

“The ideal option is to show all this at the first three meetings. If you pull longer, you risk labeling yourself “just a friend.”
  ohh guys how wrong you are, most girls will not be very pleased if at the first meetings the guy insists on
  everything should be moderately slow down is not necessary but also not in a hurry
  otherwise you risk getting or a slap in the face)

kirill   on January 25th, 2011

please help me what should I do if the girl doesn’t want to walk with me and I want a problem current at the age of 19 and she is 19.2 she is 2 months older than me help how to be in this situation

Vlad   on February 3rd, 2011

Diman, pliz give a site, the same situation!))))))))
  I won’t say that at the beginning I was stupid, but ... I just didn’t want something then, I thought we just walked and that’s it, and then ... BOOK and that’s it, and then she says to me “you are just a good friend to me, you crossed the line of a guy” \u003d ((((

Sergei   on February 20th, 2011

pliz tell me what to do if I talked about my feelings for her and she we are just friends and all ...

Zhenya   on April 8th, 2011

All this is strange. My opinion is in love, then go to the end. Achieve, chivalry, whatever, because you see - it is created for you, and you for it. If someone fights off - into a jug to him. Let not pretend.

Alexander   on April 11th, 2011

Hello everybody!!! The same situation. I’ve been in love with a girl from the 2nd year, she is my classmate, we are good friends, but she doesn’t see a guy in me, she’s just a classmate and that’s it, I’ve connected her other best friend to this situation so that she talks to me about her, she tells her that for me she’s just a classmate and a good friend, nothing else, I gave her flowers, wrote love poems, but she doesn’t react to this !!! Now we are already finishing the 3rd course. I can’t be with other girls because of her, because I constantly think about her, and I can’t stay with others for a long time, because I love her !!! And now she liked another guy, How can I get her ??? What to do in this situation? How to get out of the Friend zone, into the GUY zone ??? Waiting for comments !!!

Rostislav   on July 2nd, 2011

That fucking article to the point. The girl does not reciprocate. Zadolbala me already. What I just didn’t do. I'll try as you said.

Vano   on July 3rd, 2011

If the girl says no - hammer on her. She is not worthy of your attention. She is not the last in this world, there are a bunch of other girls who will reciprocate.

Artemochka   on July 5th, 2011

Vano said right to the point, it’s difficult to do current if you really fell in love

Rodion   on August 8th, 2011

i donate to Vano! I don’t know about you, for me the main thing is feelings, love ... and to shove, I throw off the side.
  Damn, although right now I have the same situation AAA!
  the girl comes with me for a walk, everything is fine, I see a sparkle in her eyes ... but she says “this is a friendly date” ahah)) I don’t know what will happen next, but she is what I need and will insist on her!
  Good luck to everyone who is on the verge of despair ... remember, the main thing is to believe in yourself and in her!

Kristina   on September 8th, 2011

Dmitry, for the thing I would kill you, remember all the different! you must have been abandoned by some girl, or cheated, so you think that everyone is like that, YOU ARE MUCH MUCH MUCH !!!

Eugene   on December 1st, 2011

i seem to have such a situation, which is indicated in the article, there were 3 meetings, but I behaved in the same way as with a friend, and for some she told me no. what to do? who will tell me?

Max   on January 8th, 2012

minya, too, has a similar problem, I know the girl 3 years before I didn’t know what I like she just recently understood I don’t know what to do I hinted to her she says that we are just friends I can’t do anything I walk with her every day as a friend to me it's a shame when she sometimes hints to me that we are friends and no more I would like to meet with her what to do?

Kirya   on January 24th, 2012

P.S. children are not from me))

Shcherbakova n   on March 14th, 2012

I had this situation. I thought that he was just a friend to me, but it turned out ... Now we don’t see each other, but I really want to see him for at least a couple of seconds. Mentally, with my soul and body, I’m with him, but nothing can be returned.

Alfred   on April 16th, 2012

It’s just that she needs to show that she’s living well without her) don’t call and write ... but sometimes, of course, when you fall in love it doesn’t work ... you call and write first :)) but this is almost a 100% option ... she will start to get you later)) )

Serge   on June 27th, 2012

Zhenek, they walked on all 4 sides. Humble yourself and look for another!

Artyom_Sh   on September 22nd, 2012

I will not fit all under one comb, but nonetheless.
  There is a good saying: We didn’t value those who lost their cries. Some girls openly stupid, guys to them with good deeds, actions, and then they “we are just friends” to them. As a result, if they are strong they forget about them and get to know others, they don’t slow down .Well, those who said “we are just friends” begin to gnaw their elbows and then write in the search engines “why am I such a fool” :) in short, guys, I agree with Vano, said how he cut off: the girl doesn’t want a relationship, blood from her nose, but forget her, chat with other girls. Verified, working :)

Sergei   on September 25th, 2012

Guys, thank you all for the comments! I, like everyone else, have the same theme. You make gifts, accepts! From my actions in shock! I introduced to my parents. Her mother asked me to take them to the airport. Asked me to wait for her father to greet him. I decided that everything was fine, and she answered me, “We need to communicate less and keep our distance.” Can really put her in ignore for a couple of months and see what happens.

Boule   on June 2nd, 2016

It is necessary not to say it in words, but in actions. Girls understand well the action. Most likely, by actions you did not show her the seriousness of your intentions. From here - she automatically brought you into the category of a friend. Plus, with your call, you showed her that she is very significant to you. And put her machine gun above himself. Now she rules your relationship, not you. She is more important. What is there to do - xs. I would say something like: “No, well, okay.” and would begin to muddle with others further. Periodically asking her for advice on where it is better to reduce that other and tell her how you and that one walked cool. The main thing here is not to overdo it. It should be natural. She will have a strong theme: “Fuck, how so? He’s a good guy on the go, and I sent him off, you fool. ” And jealousy will appear, which will make her seek you. And here you are already in a winning position and more important than her. If jealousy and such things will not be - then she stupidly does not need you. Accept it and look for another. There is nothing worse than a girl who does not love you, and you constantly make her love you. When she is with you only out of pity - this is tin and the end of everything.

Alexei   on June 2nd, 2016

Advise something else

Nikita   on August 30th, 2016

Please help !! My best friend has a sister. I really like her. I cannot live without her. A year and a half ago, I wrote to her that I really love and she replied that she was not against the relationship, but she needed to think. Then I wrote every day in the morning, day and night. Somehow later we began to talk less and love passed. I thought about her every pancake day , I was very tormented, but then it became easier. Recently, she and my brother were at my place for 2 days. When we went outside for a walk, she asked, “Are you my best friend, Nekit?” (and so she smiled ...) so I answered why I’m a friend of my girlfriend? (by the way, she’s asking this not the first time) After an answer, she fell silent somehow. When they left, I realized that I fell in love again. Today I went to this site and thought that when she once again asked this, I would definitely say that you attract me neither as a friend but as a girl and I want to look at her reaction but what to do next I do not know (. Advise something else please !!!