What you need to know to get rid of the imaginary fears of the first pregnancy

Greetings to you, readers of my blog. The moment two stripes appear on the test for the first time, the heart is ready to jump out of the chest, although the brain does not yet fully realize that everything will change soon - thousands of thoughts rush through my head.

And, perhaps, there is nothing more important for a woman than her first pregnancy. What does the expectant mother need to know in order for this period in her life to develop in the best possible way and to be crowned with the birth of a healthy baby (or babies)? This is what will be discussed.

The blonde had twins. She looked at the children and began to cry.

The doctor asks:

- What's the matter? You have lovely kids, why are you crying?

- And how can I explain to my husband who is the second child from !?

(Anecdote in the topic)

The Doctor Is Your Best Friend for the Next Nine Months

Let me explain a little: if in your ordinary life you are used to consulting your girlfriends, acquaintances, mom, aunt, sister for any reason, then, you know, now you have an unusual life. You have entered a completely new responsible and important period. So, for this period, forget about the habit of following other people's advice. Except for the advice of specialists - doctors.

This does not mean that you cannot share your thoughts, feelings, ask the opinions of loved ones - of course, this is all permissible. But the end point of making a decision should always be the opinion of your gynecologist.

If you have doubts or concerns about any issue, do not hesitate to ask your doctor about even the most intimate moments. Whether it's pain or discomfort during intercourse or unusual vaginal discharge.

It is better to discuss even the most insignificant, seemingly, new features of your body associated with pregnancy with a specialist than with a friend.

For example, a "more experienced in matters of pregnancy" girlfriend may advise to drink some miracle tincture prepared according to the recipes of traditional medicine in order to relieve swelling (I wrote about swelling in the article) or something like that. In no case can you do this yourself. Even if it helped her at one time, consult your doctor before taking anything.

Fears of the expectant mother

Oh, how big fear has eyes! And if we also add here the hypertrophied suspiciousness that pregnant women are exposed to due to the restructuring of the hormonal background, then these are no longer eyes, but giant eyes. And it doesn't matter at the age of 30 you got pregnant for the first time or at 18. But fears also do not always arise from scratch, this has its own subjective reasons:

• watched a series about an unsuccessful pregnancy, compared her symptoms and the heroine's or "tried on" the movie circumstances and oops! - the terrible diagnosis is ready;
• I felt unwell, for example, pain in my back or lower abdomen, I went online, what experienced mothers write there, yeah, here it is - everything is bad, everything is terrible, and an inflamed imagination draws the darkest pictures;
• in the queue at the antenatal clinic or in the hospital (and, possibly, already in the maternity hospital) I talked with a pregnant mom with experience, who told (well, who else would know better) about the difficulties in childbirth, and that at 40 it is impossible to give birth to a healthy child ...

These are just a few reasons why pregnant women may have completely unfounded fears. Why unreasonable? After all, there are similar cases! Yes, there are, but they have nothing to do with you, your pregnancy and your child.

It is necessary and important to understand one thing: each pregnancy has its own individual scenario, due to many factors, ranging from genetic predisposition to an appropriate lifestyle.

And if such fears do arise, and even it seems that there are quite objective reasons for that, tell the doctor about them. It's better to play it safe here.

By the way, when undergoing a medical examination, you will have to visit a psychologist at the antenatal clinic, who will suggest that you contact him for help in case of anything.

So, if you feel that you cannot cope with fears and obsessive anxiety, despite the statements of your gynecologist that there is no real reason, make an appointment with a psychologist.

Believe me, there is nothing to be ashamed of here, and the benefits of a session can exceed the expected result tens of times.

The path from delay to childbirth

Pregnancy is the path from the fusion of a sperm and an egg to the birth of a baby. And there are some points that a future mother needs to know in order not to fall for the bait of unreasonable fears, to avoid real threats to her own health and the condition of the baby.

I have already mentioned that you should not listen to advice from the outside, and now I will write what you need to know, or rather - this is a kind of small educational program with small explanations about what awaits you on this very path:

• a bunch of tests and medical examinations - just be prepared for the fact that you will have to repeatedly donate blood, urine, do an ultrasound scan, visit doctors, ranging from a gynecologist (which is obvious) to a psychologist, dentist and endocrinologist. At times, some surveys may seem completely useless, but do not neglect them, each has a meaning. Just take it easy;
• you will need to visit a gynecologist according to a certain schedule, the earlier you register with the antenatal clinic, the better;
• the term of pregnancy will not be calculated in months, as everyone is used to, but in weeks, a full-term pregnancy is considered at a period of 37 to 42 weeks. Optimally 40 weeks, but, again, there are some nuances;
• your main document for the period when you are carrying a baby will be an exchange card. This is a small book in which doctors will record all the data of your tests, examinations, as well as physiological indicators such as weight, abdominal volume, the date of the first movement of the baby and other data, you will give the card when you enter the hospital. In addition, you will be given a generic certificate, which will also need to be given at the hospital;
• from this it follows smoothly that a pregnant woman needs to understand - everyone's belly grows individually, and if your friend in the fourth month already had a distinct roundness, and you don't even have a hint of a future belly, then this is normal. Even during the first pregnancy, expectant mothers may mistakenly take intestinal peristalsis for the first movement of the baby, or vice versa;
• the rule that problems need to be solved as they come is more relevant during pregnancy than ever. Do not try to think over the scenario of the baby's birth in advance. Yes, you can, of course, agree in advance with the doctor who will deliver your baby. But you should not make a panacea out of this, and if suddenly the contractions began a day earlier than the expected time, you should not wait for the doctor you have chosen to take over on duty, go to the hospital immediately, the same applies to the case if the amniotic fluid moved away or began to leak, only do not forget to bring your exchange card and generic certificate, and of course your passport. What else you need to take to the hospital read here;
• toxicosis is a common phenomenon, but not at all obligatory, that is, pregnancy can proceed without fainting, nausea and vomiting at least at 20, at least at 35 years old, so do not tune in to the worst, and if you will not be able to bypass all the "charms" of toxicosis, you will have to be patient, as a rule, after the first trimester, such phenomena disappear;
• what to do for a future mother is simply vital is: walking in the fresh air, eating well, taking vitamins, trying to maintain your own peace of mind and good mood, listening to classical music, reading positive literature, talking with the future baby, and just being a happy woman ...

I wish you a successful pregnancy, easy delivery and healthy babies. Share in the comments your own observations and important points that every expectant mother needs to know. Press the social buttons, let there be happy moms among your friends too.