Chechens don't need children from Russian women. Chechen Traditions of Upbringing Children Father-Son Relations among Chechens

The centuries-old traditions of ancestors are sacredly honored in Chechnya, laws that have historically developed over several centuries are still in force here. A special place in the life of every Chechen belongs to the family. But despite the patriarchal order, the customs here are not as harsh as those of other Caucasian peoples.

Children are the wealth of the family

Large families are held in high esteem in Chechnya. Here, no one thinks about whether the material wealth allows parents to have many children. Well-being does not matter, because only a large and friendly family can be happy, in which, according to the established tradition, there are at least 7 sons.

Mother is an educator, father is an example to follow

The mother is engaged in raising children in a Chechen family, despite the fact that the leading role belongs to the father. He is a role model and indisputable authority. The father does not even talk to his sons and daughters - communication takes place through the mother. The distance is maintained to such an extent that in the presence of the head of the family, children stand respectfully, rather than sitting. But Chechen grandmothers take an active part in raising grandchildren. They spend a lot of time with children, instill the necessary skills and respect for elders.

Spartan methods? No, love, respect and mercy!

Despite the seemingly harsh laws and traditions, very humane pedagogical methods are practiced here. The child is taught to respect elders, love sisters and brothers, be humane and merciful. Virtue is one of the most important qualities that are brought up in children from an early age. Children and adolescents are not beaten or forced to do hard work. For them, only the stern look of the father or the shout of an irritated mother is a severe punishment. Aggression is not characteristic of Chechen children, because they grow up in an atmosphere of love, warmth and respect.

Physical education

Children are not forced to work a lot and hard, but physical education in a soft and unobtrusive form is an obligatory stage in parenting pedagogy. Mother and grandmother teach girls how to do handicrafts, they can help adults prepare food, clean, look after babies. The boys, together with their elders, graze the cattle, participate as much as they can in the harvest, take care of the horses that are in every family.

For the Chechen people, the family always comes first, this is the most important thing in life.

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On the air of the radio station "Echo of Moscow" - Ramzan Kadyrov, First Deputy Prime Minister of the Government of Chechnya.

The ether is conducted by Ashot Nasibov.

A. NASIBOV - Good night, dear listeners. Ashot Nasibov at the microphone of Echo of Moscow. We are starting the next edition of the School of the Young Father. Today Ramzan Kadyrov, First Deputy Prime Minister of the Chechen government, is our guest on the phone. Ramzan Akhmadovich, can you hear me?

R. KADYROV - Yes, I hear.

A. NASIBOV - Hello. Thank you for taking part in our show. Let me remind you that the air pager number for dear listeners is 725-66-33. You can ask questions right now. And we are starting a conversation with Ramzan Akhmadovich Kadyrov. Hello. Ramzan Akhmadovich, traditionally at the beginning of our program, I want to tell you that you have every right not to answer any of my questions or those of our listeners, because the topic of our conversation is "raising children in Chechen", the topic of raising children in general is a very personal topic that touches all the most delicate strings of the human soul. Can you hear me well?

R. KADYROV - Yes, I hear.

A. NASIBOV - Let's start with the most general statistical biographical data. How old are you?

R. KADYROV - 29.

A. NASIBOV - How many children do you have?

R. KADYROV - Five.

A. NASIBOV - I was preparing for the broadcast, I read that you have six children. I was also surprised because I thought there were five. How many boys, how many girls?

R. KADYROV - One boy and four girls.

R. KADYROV - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - I congratulate you. The birth of a child, especially a boy, in a family is a very big event. Congratulations.

R. KADYROV - Thank you very much.

A. NASIBOV - What are the names of the children? How old are they?

R. KADYROV - Senior Ayhat, second Karina, last Tabara, and Akhmad Jr.

A. NASIBOV - How many is the oldest?

R. KADYROV - 8, 5, 4 and 3 and 2 months.

A. NASIBOV - When your son was born, I know, you especially wanted a son, were you very happy? Fair.

R. KADYROV - I was happy because it adds blood, a Chechen family must have a son. I am very glad because I have a successor.

A. NASIBOV - How did you celebrate? Have you celebrated for a long time?

R. KADYROV - We did not start. I think we shouldn't be celebrating. He just arrived home yesterday, he was in the hospital, then the plane. He flew home yesterday. Let's celebrate now.

A. NASIBOV - And, he just flew home for the first time?

R. KADYROV - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - So you haven't seen your son at home all these two months?

R. KADYROV - He was in the apartment in Moscow. He came home to Chechnya for the first time yesterday.

A. NASIBOV - But how will you celebrate, tell us?

R. KADYROV - My friend, brother older Adam, he will organize, and I will be present. Friends determine this in Chechnya.

A. NASIBOV - And when was you born, how did you celebrate?

R. KADYROV - As it happens in Chechnya, they danced, had fun, shot, walked. I think that all over Chechnya they celebrated and showed everywhere.

A. NASIBOV - When your daughters were born, did you celebrate the wrong way?

R. KADYROV - When the daughters appeared, it was not like that.

A. NASIBOV - Are your children all from one wife?

R. KADYROV - Yes, of course. I have one and only beloved wife.

A. NASIBOV - How did she react to the appearance of her son?

R. KADYROV - Of course, I'm glad. For her, this is happiness, because we love each other, if we had not had a son, I had to live on ... for complete happiness we needed a son. And we have it. Our family is happy.

A. NASIBOV - How do you feel about polygamy? I know that some ...

R. KADYROV - It is necessary in Chechnya, because we have a war, we have more women than men.

A. NASIBOV - How much?

R. KADYROV - By 9%. And another 18% also spoke. According to the latest data, I personally conducted statistics, they told me that there are 9% more women than men in our country. It is imperative, because it is very important for the Chechen people. According to Sharia law, this allows, therefore, everyone who can support must have 4 wives. I welcome that.

A. NASIBOV - Are you going to legislate this norm?

R. KADYROV - No. It is any person who decides for himself how to live. He is the owner, he determines, we will not interfere in personal life, I am sure.

A. NASIBOV - Tell me, what customs do you have in your family for your children? For example, should children necessarily stand in the presence of adults, in the presence of their father, or are they allowed to sit? When guests come, can the girls show themselves in the room where the guests are, or is it better for them not to? What are the customs?

R. KADYROV - How I was brought up, how I spent my life, I can tell you. I never sat down in the presence of my father and never spoke, when asked, I answered. Further. I tried not to go into the room where my parents were together. Until recent years, my father and I never communicated in the presence of my grandfather. I don't remember being praised or caressed by my father. It is exactly the same in our family. In the presence of my father, I never spoke to my wife and children. We were raised that way. And this education will continue with us.

A. NASIBOV - So you are continuing these traditions?

R. KADYROV - Yes. This is from our ancestors.

A. NASIBOV - What are the features of raising girls and raising boys in Chechen families, in particular, in your family? From the experience of your father raising you.

R. KADYROV - A woman is a housewife. Her duties include raising children, cooking, receiving guests. Traditionally, women in our family did not study at universities or institutes. I have two sisters, they are married, they live normally, they have their own families. They finished school. After school they were brought up in our tradition. They follow a husband for very respected people, they live normally. Our boy's first duty is to be the son of his people, relatives, relatives, fellow villagers, always live peacefully with all the locals, always be the defender of his people.

A. NASIBOV - When your son was born, what gifts did he receive, what gifts did you receive, what were the most expensive gifts?

R. KADYROV - The most expensive gifts for me are congratulations from friends. And the rest I do not consider gifts, they just pay attention to me. For me, the most important thing is that they say that he looks like his grandfather and grows like that, this is the greatest gift for me.

A. NASIBOV - Do guests often come to your home?

R. KADYROV - Without guests is not life!

A. NASIBOV - Your wife is now raising five children, and she should probably also help cook and set the table. Is she coping alone, or is someone helping her?

R. KADYROV - They help too. But when guests and friends arrive, she must set the table, because this is traditional, this is a manifestation of respect for guests, she must do it, and she does it and will do it to the end.

A. NASIBOV - Serey asks the question via an on-air pager: "Is it true that schools for raising children existed in Chechnya for a long time?" As far as I understand, not just some educational schools, but schools for raising children.

R. KADYROV - I have never heard. Father and mother, grandfather, grandmother, uncle are engaged in upbringing - that's all. We have regular schools.

A. NASIBOV - You said that there are some rules of behavior for children in the family, you named them, that sons never sit in the presence of their father, in the presence of their parents, what other rules exist, in your family in particular?

R. KADYROV - If you list the rules, it is long. For me, the most important thing: first the Almighty, then there was the father. I did everything to please my father, so that he would say Ramzan is a good boy. For me, the greatest happiness was to please my father and do everything that he taught me. He taught me to help do good, learn, always work for the good of the people. I did it. We had a special relationship. He forgave me a lot. We lived in the yard, I never showed him that I was asleep more than he slept, I always got up before him, later went to bed so that he would not see that I was sleeping. When I got married, we still have a rule - not to show up to my father for a month until he sees you by chance. My mother and I had a separate relationship. Everything that I wanted to say to my father, I conveyed through my mother. It's like a translator.

A. NASIBOV - Were you afraid, or was it just accepted?

R. KADYROV - I was not afraid, there was this respect. Our mother was always a negotiator. When it happened, her father scolded her, and that's all, and we were far from it.

A. NASIBOV - Was your father ever angry with you?

R. KADYROV - Always. I don't remember when he didn't scold me. He always scolded and raised me.

A. NASIBOV - Why did you scold me?

R. KADYROV - No way, I just said how to do it. Strictly brought up. He not only scolded me, he scolded everyone: relatives, nephews, cousins \u200b\u200b- he always brought up strictly.

A. NASIBOV - But at least sometimes he praised?

R. KADYROV - I don't remember, he never praised in person. It would be great happiness for me if he praised me and told me at least once. He spoke to friends, comrades (they passed on), he respected me most of all and appreciated my actions. But he never showed it to me, we never had it, he never spoke to my face.

A. NASIBOV - Let me remind you that the radio station "Echo of Moscow" is working. We are continuing the Young Father's School program, talking on the phone with Ramzan Kadyrov, the First Deputy Prime Minister of the Chechen government. I remind you of the on-air pager number for listeners 725-66-33. And I will pass on to the questions received before our broadcast on the Internet. Let me remind you that we are limited to the topic of raising children, in this case, the topic of education in Chechen. And here are a few questions received before the broadcast on the Internet. Patimat from Moscow asks: "Why should Chechen girls, who have lived in Moscow for a long time, marry only Chechens, while Chechens can marry Russians?" What do you think?

R. KADYROV - This is our tradition. We have a story. We have never had a Chechen woman marry another. Not accepted with us. We accepted Sharia, we accepted Islam. This is part of our traditions and customs, so we accepted Islam. Although Chechen women marry Arabs, I am against this, in our village there are many Russian women who married men. We have many of them.

A. NASIBOV - And your daughters will marry only Chechens, right?

R. KADYROV - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - And if, at the call of their hearts, they suddenly meet a young man of some other nationality, what will you do?

R. KADYROV - This will never happen in our family.

A. NASIBOV - I see. Irina Ilyina asks how one should behave according to the Nokhchi code, what are these rules of conduct?

R. KADYROV - Nokhchi - it means everything. All I have that I can be proud of is that I am a Chechen. This courage, to be loyal, honest, decent, to help the needy, the poor, to always seek peace - all this is included in the word "Nokhchi".

A. NASIBOV - Alexey Olenik from Moscow asks how religious education is built in Chechen families, and if a child begins to show religious intolerance at an early age, does the father react somehow?

R. KADYROV - First of all, the father and mother must explain to the child that he is a Muslim. There is no god but Allah, and Mohammed is his prophet. They need to know. And tolerance is also unambiguous. The Chechens do not have a single person who did not believe. Everyone has it, only the Chechens don't. Chechens are all Muslims.

A. NASIBOV - Sorry, I didn’t hear, you said everyone has what?

R. KADYROV - All believers have people who have changed their faith.

A. NASIBOV - And, people who have passed from one faith to another? Clear.

R. KADYROV - But the Chechens don't have that.

A. NASIBOV - Did you give your wife anything about the birth of your son?

R. KADYROV - I gave the gift that I like the most.

A. NASIBOV - Which one?

R. KADYROV - Love!

A. NASIBOV - Well, the most worthy gift! Tell me, what were the best gifts for the sons in your family? I would like to ask, at what age did you yourself begin to handle weapons, when you were given the first time to see what a real military weapon is?

R. KADYROV - I have been carrying weapons since I was 15 ...

A. NASIBOV - The call failed. We will now try to reconnect. Let me remind you that the guest of the School for the Young Father is Ramzan Kadyrov, the first deputy prime minister of the Chechen government. We are talking on the phone and now we will try to restore the telephone connection again. In the meantime, let's listen to some music.

A. NASIBOV - We re-established telephone contact with Ramzan Kadyrov, the first deputy prime minister of the Chechen government. We continue our conversation. Why I asked a question about weapons. I have a rifle on the wall at home - this is my father's war trophy since the Great Patriotic War, my father brought a German Mauser rifle from the war, and I stroked this rifle, disassembled, cleaned, looked, pulled out the bolt, applied it to me as a child. it was interesting.

R. KADYROV - Chechens always have weapons, they have always been and will always be. As I remember, our father always had a weapon. From the age of 14 to 15 I was already carrying a pistol. Since I was with my father: either I was a driver, then I was a security guard, then I was an assistant - and I always have a weapon with me. Although, to my sons, nephews, to my people, I wish us to live without weapons. We strive for this and will do everything to remove weapons from the Chechen Republic, exchange them for a handle, for a ball and for something else. Because the trouble of the Chechen people is that they are a warlike people. Enough, we are tired of fighting, let others fight, although I do not want anyone to fight. I wish to live peacefully. We want the world to become the main thing for the Chechens.

A. NASIBOV - One more question from Irina Ilyina, received on the Internet before the program: “What is the difference between raising children in Teip Beno from other Chechen clans? How do you feel about the popularity of Chechen boys among Russian girls, what is the reason? "

R. KADYROV - As for this, our upbringing is absolutely the same, no different. We have Chechen upbringing. I didn't understand the second question.

A. NASIBOV - The second question: how do you feel about the popularity of Chechen boys among Russian girls? What caused this?

R. KADYROV - Fine. How else? I welcome.

A. NASIBOV - This is good. Question received from Alexander from France: "Do you think that legal and illegal gang groups in Chechnya educate the new generation in harshness or cruelty?" How bitter is the new young generation in Chechnya now? (I'll rephrase the question.)

R. KADYROV - We have no illegal or legal ones, we have a single leadership team and people in the republic - that's all. We educate as our ancestors taught us. If we have a course of Wahhabism, we will destroy them and will destroy them. Those who do not want to live peacefully on the territory of the Chechen Republic have no place. If he comes, he will voluntarily lay down his arms and will be, as our ancestors taught, when there was no law: the old people gathered, passed a verdict, we lived with this verdict for a year until the old people gathered again. We will live the same way. We have the most beautiful good traditions, customs, and we will live according to these customs. We have nothing illegal in Chechnya. This was all, but I want it not to happen again. We will live peacefully. No we have!

A. NASIBOV - Are you a master of sports in boxing?

R. KADYROV - Yes. There is such a thing.

A. NASIBOV - What role does sports play in raising children in your family and in raising the next generation of Chechen children?

R. KADYROV - We, Chechen men, show our character through sports. We have more opportunities to show character. And we have more success. We have the nicest boxers. This is not a secret, there are certain points that we must cross out, it will definitely be. We have the best athletes. We have the most beautiful and strongest people. Our athletes, I think, will do everything so that in 5 years Chechens will represent Russia completely.

A. NASIBOV - Everything?

R. KADYROV - Yes, in all sports. We will support the sport, because it suits us best, we show character. The Chechen people are strong and brave.

A. NASIBOV - Do you continue to play sports yourself? Do you have a barbell at home, do you swing?

R. KADYROV - Yes, they have a gym in their house. But I play football more now. Running is good.

A. NASIBOV - Tell me, do your girls go to school now? The eldest is 8 years old. Is this the most ordinary school in the village of Tsentoroi?

R. KADYROV - This is the most ordinary school, we made a complete overhaul of it, we have a large gym in our school, and there is a swimming pool, there is a computer class. I brought teachers from Krasnodar, Rostov. We have a school named after Akhmad Kadyrov, who renamed it by his presidential decree. And we have the best school in all of Russia, in the village of Tsentoroi.

A. NASIBOV - Where did the teacher come from?

R. KADYROV - Our teachers are Russians from Rostov and Krasnodar. We also teach English. I even want to introduce French next year. We have computer classes. We have, I can even say, a special school in the village. Here, I will also say, everyone walks in the same uniform so that they do not dress differently. We have a school uniform. Boys - in suits, ties, girls dress aprons as expected. We have a uniform uniform at school.

A. NASIBOV - Do boys and girls study together?

R. KADYROV - Yes, they study together.

A. NASIBOV - Ayhat, as far as I understand, is 8 years old?

R. KADYROV - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - What class does she go to?

R. KADYROV - Already in the 3rd she walks.

A. NASIBOV - What are your successes?

R. KADYROV - She is an excellent student at school. While they praise her there. She has a good memory, she remembers. True, I don't go there, my wife says that everyone says that she is a good student.

A. NASIBOV - Have you yourself ever checked her diary?

R. KADYROV - Diary is rare. So I check, she shows her grades. I'm rarely at home, when I have time, she shows. And for that I praise her. She already says that my father will come and say that Ayhat is great. This is happiness for her.

A. NASIBOV - How much time do you manage to spend with children?

R. KADYROV - I spend my free time with my family.

A. NASIBOV - How much free time is it: a day a week, a day a month? How much it?

R. KADYROV - It can be different. I don't want to lie now. After my father's death, I always try to come in my free time to the village, to spend time with my family, with my nephews, with everyone.

A. NASIBOV - Let me remind you that Ramzan Kadyrov, the first deputy prime minister of the Chechen government, is answering the questions of the program on "Echo of Moscow" "School for a young father," our conversation is underway on the phone. Karim asks the question: “Do you smoke? And how do you feel about smoking among young people? " I will add, what is the attitude in Chechnya to the distribution of drugs?

R. KADYROV - I have never smoked, drank, and will not drink in my life. I don't have a single friend to smoke and drink. When I was in school, we had the most exemplary class at school. Nobody smoked or drank. In our village, young guys do not smoke or drink. We don't even sell vodka. I always set a condition: train, go in for sports, send to study. In our village young guys growing up do not smoke. And I don't recommend it.

A. NASIBOV - You patronize the Terek football club. How do you feel about football, how do your loved ones feel? Why Terek, why not some other club or some other sport?

R. KADYROV - I am both the president of the boxing federation club of the Chechen Republic, and the president of the Terek club, because this team has existed for a long time, thanks to the Minister of Sports Alkhanov. because our football shows the world that we are ordinary people, that we are not bandits, not terrorists, this is also a political issue, so I support and will support our football, although we are under pressure in the football league, but we will prove that thanks to the Chechen character we we will always be the first.

A. NASIBOV - Alexander from Yekaterinburg sent this question: "Is it true that Chechens never beat their wives?"

R. KADYROV - True, of course. And what kind of man am I if I beat a woman? You need to educate your wife, not beat her. We have very good customs, traditions, I never beat my wife.

A. NASIBOV - What does it mean to "raise a wife"?

R. KADYROV - Explain how she should behave, that's all. If she doesn't understand, she should get a divorce. But I do not welcome this, I do not admit it.

A. NASIBOV - Zinaida Prokofievna sent the following message: I wish you health, first of all; secondly, he asks: "If you had a girl again, would you continue to strive for a boy, or not?"

R. KADYROV - I have a son. The main thing is that Allah will give. The main thing is that the child is healthy, this is the most important thing.

A. NASIBOV - A man with an interesting name Pusya asks: "Do you like animals, especially cats?"

R. KADYROV - I don't like cats. I have a tiger, lion, wolves, dogs. Animal nerves are calming. I love animals, of course. Unfortunately, no cats. But it will be. I will find a good cat tomorrow.

A. NASIBOV - You said you have a tiger, you have a lion. Who else?

R. KADYROV - I have a wolf, I have a bear.

A. NASIBOV - Where do you keep them?

R. KADYROV - In the village of Tsentoroi.

A. NASIBOV - Is there such a zoo?

R. KADYROV - No, not a zoo. I keep it at home. When a zoo is opened in Grozny, I will transfer them all there.

A. NASIBOV - Did they give you a lion, a tiger, or did you find them somewhere, bought them?

R. KADYROV - They gave it to me. My friend from Shali gave me a lion, and my named uncle Gamzatov from Khasavyurt gave me a tiger. And my regiment commander gave the wolf.

A. NASIBOV - I wonder how they brought the tiger and the lion?

R. KADYROV - We specially prepared the documents, put them in the car and brought them. And I have a small tiger. The tiger is 5 - 6 months old and the lion is 4 months old. They run, do not bite, play with children.

A. NASIBOV - Do you let children visit these animals?

R. KADYROV - Yes, they play with them. They love children, they do not touch children. These animals are very smart. When they are offended, they are evil, and so, they love people.

A. NASIBOV - Tell me, are your children limited in their movements? I understand that when it comes to 8 year old, 5 year old children ...

R. KADYROV - Absolutely. My children play, they go to the neighbors as usual. They go to their relatives ...

A. NASIBOV - That is, they calmly walk around the village, is it?

R. KADYROV - Absolutely calm. I declare to you, Tsentoroi is the center of the world!

A. NASIBOV - Well, are you ready to listen to one or two phone calls?

R. KADYROV - Come on.

A. NASIBOV - Let me remind you that the telephone number of the broadcast studio is 783-90-25. Try calling now to the studio "Echo of Moscow". Let me remind you that we are talking with Ramzan Kadyrov, First Deputy Prime Minister of the Chechen government. The topic of our conversation is "education in the Chechen way." I ask the listeners to limit their questions to this particular topic and speak more compactly. Do we have the first call? There is. We listen to you. Some kind of noise on the line. Let's try to take another call, because it is impossible, nothing is heard. Still have a call? 783-90-25.

LISTENER - Hello. My name is Andrey. I have a question. How is the hierarchy settled in Chechnya? I know that there are people who transfer the right to raise a child only to a grandmother, and there are some to parents. So how is this settled? What should a grandmother do, and what should parents do in raising a child?

A. NASIBOV - That is, the relationship between parents and grandmother in raising a child?

LISTENER - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - Ramzan Akhmadovich, did you hear the question? Do grandmothers play a role in raising children in Chechnya?

R. KADYROV - Of course they are. The grandmother brings up more, because she does nothing. It was my grandmother who raised me and brings up my children, because she knows more than anyone else. My grandmother is 84 years old. She is absolutely healthy and walks. It happens when at her age people lose their minds, but she is very smart, and she brings up not only my children. She has grandchildren and great-grandchildren, and she brings up everyone. The wisest in our country are grandparents. My grandfather is a very respected person. It is a great happiness for me that my grandfather and grandmother are raising my children. They raised me.

A. NASIBOV - How old is your grandfather?

R. KADYROV - 86.

A. NASIBOV - How many grandchildren do your grandparents have?

R. KADYROV - We have dozens! They tell me, they say 50 - 60.

A. NASIBOV - Already 50 - 60 ?! Let me remind you that the direct telephone number to the studio "Echo of Moscow" is 783-90-25. Let's try to take another phone call. Goodnight. Hello. I can’t hear you very well. Can not hear. Let's try to take one more phone call. 783-09-25. Goodnight. You are on the air.

LISTENER - Good night.

A. NASIBOV - What is your name? Where are you from?

LISTENER - My name is Olga Konstantinovna. I am from Moscow. I am very glad to welcome Ramzan Akhmadovich on the air. I consider him my fellow countryman, since in my youth I worked for 7 years in the Caucasus in Dagestan, and my relatives lived in Grozny. I, a young girl 19 - 20 years old, walked the streets of Grozny completely free. Then I still felt the system of raising children and adolescents, which is very solid, based on religious traditions. I am a Christian myself. But it was there, in the Caucasus, in Dagestan, in Grozny, in Chechnya, that I noticed this protective power of faith and therefore I thank the Muslim people, even though I was born in Christianity and believe in Christ, my faith was conceived precisely from examples of education in Chechen and Dagestani families.

A. NASIBOV - Thank you Olga Konstantinovna, but maybe you have a question for Ramzan Akhmadovich? We hung up the phone. We again lost contact with Ramzan Kadyrov, the first deputy prime minister of the Chechen government. We will try to restore it again. I ask the director Nikolai Kotov to reestablish the connection, dial the phone number, and for now we will listen to some music.

A. NASIBOV - We have established a telephone connection with Ramzan Kadyrov. We continue our conversation. Here some questions came to the on-air pager, in particular. Alexey Alekseevich asks this question, what do you do if a woman is cheating? Is there a concept of treason in Chechen families?

R. KADYROV - I don't even want to touch on this topic. This is even an insulting question for us. I do not want to answer.

A. NASIBOV - That's it, we are removing the question. "What do your kids think about the recently organized rock festival?" - Edik asks a question. Did you take your children to this rock festival, which was recently?

R. KADYROV - Not only my children were there, the entire village of Tsentoroi was there: nephews, cousins, everyone was there, and my children were there too. They rejoiced, greeted, even said that more such events are needed.

A. NASIBOV - By your order, slot machine halls in Grozny and other cities, in Gudermes, etc. were closed.

R. KADYROV - Completely in the republic.

A. NASIBOV - Who was more fond of the game: young people or people of age?

R. KADYROV - Exactly people of the age, elderly people, people of middle age. The gambling business led to the fact that there were a lot of applications. There was even a blood feud. It happened that they received compensation and paid off the debt in full. Father, mother are sick, there is still some problem, and their son was playing with this money. I just invited all the entrepreneurs and said that let's come up with another business, we will open computer labs, we will teach children there, and the parents themselves will pay you money and you will receive. They absolutely agreed. I explained to them if your son was in debt and would sell a car or an apartment, if people came to you and asked you to give a loan for your son, as you see it. And they understood. I did not issue a decree or order, I just said that it should be closed. People even thanked, prayed, cried. A whole delegation of women thanked us for closing this gambling business. And as long as we are there, it will never be, because if my will was, I am sure that the majority of Russian citizens support me, I would completely close the gambling business in Russia. I advise the leadership of Russia and the parliament (State Duma) to pass a law on the closure of the gambling business, because most crimes in Russia are due to this gambling business.

A. NASIBOV - Chechnya has the highest unemployment rate in general among all Russian regions. As far as I remember, there are about 340 thousand unemployed, which is about 60% of the working-age population. Correctly, about the figures are?

R. KADYROV - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - How to engage young people, how to give them the opportunity to earn a normal income and live a normal life so that it does not go awry?

R. KADYROV - Yes, indeed, it was said earlier that our first question is security, but now our first question is unemployment. People all say that. We have this problem, we are doing everything to ensure that there is no unemployment in our republic. I think that in 2006 we will fully engage in the restoration work of the city. We have those who invest in business, there will also be jobs where young people will be employed. We do everything, although it doesn't work out right away. I think that in two years we will have the best indicators in Russia, not that we will not have unemployment at all, but we will have enough jobs. Why is it like this? Because everything has been destroyed in our country, the entire infrastructure has been destroyed in the Chechen Republic. We are rebuilding on the sly, usually rebuilding from scratch and will be rebuilding. The President of the country Vladimir Vladimirovich Putin helps us in this. We will be even better than in other regions, because our people are hardworking, and they will do everything to restore what was destroyed.

A. NASIBOV - I see. Let's hear another phone call? 783-90-25 - telephone number of the live broadcast in the studio "Echo of Moscow". Ask questions to Ramzan Kadyrov, First Deputy Prime Minister of Chechnya. We listen to you.

LISTENER - Good evening. How did it happen that the noble Chechen broke the nose of Kristina Orbakaite?

A. NASIBOV - In my opinion, the question is not the topic. We're talking about parenting. Let's try another phone call. 783-90-25 - live telephone. We listen to you.

LISTENER - Good night.

A. NASIBOV - Good night. What is your name? Where are you from?

LISTENER - My name is Alexey, I am calling from Moscow. I would like to ask the esteemed Mr. Deputy Prime Minister about what kind of assistance, if any, does the international community actually provide? In particular, I am interested in the United Nations and its programs.

A. NASIBOV - Do you mean the Chechen children or to whom?

LISTENER - Children, including. Of course, I am also interested in other areas.

A. NASIBOV - That is, what kind of assistance is provided to Chechnya by international programs, including through the UN? Did I understand you correctly?

LISTENER - Yes.

A. NASIBOV - Let's address this question to our interlocutor. Have you heard the question?

R. KADYROV - I have not heard the question.

A. NASIBOV - The question of what kind of assistance international organizations, in particular UNN (United Nations Organization), provide Chechnya, in particular, Chechen children?

R. KADYROV - I will not say that they help children a lot, we don't have that. But there are certain times when they supposedly help. I think that these organizations are more concerned with personal interests than with Chechen youth. We do not have this to show that they are helping.

A. NASIBOV - Perhaps my last question for today. Your son yesterday for the first time came to your home in the village of Tsentoroi. How will you celebrate now, what will you do now?

R. KADYROV - My son entered my grandfather's house for the first time.

A. NASIBOV - Who brought it? Wife or you?

R. KADYROV - My sister. And he was there for an hour and a half. Now he is in his room. How we celebrate the birth of a son is determined by friends. I will ask and I will answer you tomorrow. I am unable to answer this question today.

A. NASIBOV - Set the table, okay?

R. KADYROV - I am unable to answer you, because my friends decide.

A. NASIBOV - How many friends are expected for the celebration?

R. KADYROV - In Chechnya I have all of Chechnya friends, and all Chechens and non-Chechens who live on Russian territory are all friends, except for the Wahhabis. My enemies are only Wahhabis and international terrorists. I call them shaitans. The rest are all my friends and comrades. I invite everyone to visit!

A. NASIBOV - I thank Ramzan Kadyrov, First Deputy Prime Minister of the Government of Chechnya, for talking on the phone as part of the program "School of a Young Father", which is broadcast on the radio station "Echo of Moscow" I thank you for the story on the topic of Chechen education. Sorry, dear listeners, if we were not able to ask all the questions from you. Thank you very much, Ramzan Akhmadovich.

R. KADYROV - Thank you very much too.

Children are the wealth of the family

Mother is an educator, father is an example to follow

Spartan methods? No, love, respect and mercy!

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For the Chechen people, the family always comes first, this is the most important thing in life.

Chechens are raising their children in the same way as their ancestors 100-200 years ago, according to the republic. A childless family is compared here with a tree without branches and fruits. Therefore, the birth of a child, and especially a boy, imposes a serious responsibility on the parents, which is considered the main business of life.

One parable is very popular in Chechnya: a young mother went to an elder to ask him when to start raising a child. The elder asked how old the baby was. She answered: one month. The elder, without thinking, said that she was exactly a month late with her upbringing. The most important thing that children are taught according to Chechen traditions is respect for their elders. The father's name is an indisputable authority that magically acts on the child.

Each of the children is a project, the implementation of which completely depends on the organizers - father and mother. In the end, a person, raising and spending on the education of children, invests in them both strength and finances in order to ensure his old age, remaining respected in society both during life and after death. Older people often say that there is nothing more enjoyable in old age than hearing from strangers about the merits of their children and how respected they have become. Ruslan Musaev, 43 years old, father of seven children.

Despite the fact that the modern world leaves its mark on traditions, on the family way of life, on the upbringing of children, in Chechnya they managed to preserve one of the most important traditions - having many children. If you ask a 30-year-old Chechen who does not have a steady job and a stable income why he has so many children, it’s like questioning whether he needs his brothers and sisters. Until now, when a child is born, in the first congratulations to the parents, everyone wishes that the born one had seven brothers. It doesn't matter if it's the third child or the fifth. A family with seven brothers is a very serious argument worthy of respect in Chechen society.

The main educator of children in a Chechen family is the mother. If in an ideal Chechen family a boy learns from his father's example and is carried away by his authority, then his mother is practically the first teacher. A woman can turn to her husband for help only in extreme cases, when the child is beaten off. “I’ll tell my father everything when he comes back,” such statements affect children as shock therapy. Even if the father never raised his hand against the children. ...

The family of Ramzan Kadyrov is a good example, here in practice you can see all the features of the traditions of local education.

I never sat down in front of my father, I never spoke. When asked, he answered. I tried not to go into the room where my parents were together. Until recent years, my father and I never communicated in the presence of my grandfather. I don't remember my father praising me. It is exactly the same in our family. In the presence of my father, I never spoke to my wife and children. We were raised that way. And these traditions will continue with us. ...

In fact, according to traditional adats, Chechens will never praise their children in public. Almost any Chechen father will remain silent if his son tells him about his successes. Father and son communicated through the mother, keeping a distance. But the core of his son's upbringing was the father, who should be imitated and strive for his ideal.

My father has always been the most important for me after the Almighty. I did everything to please my father, so that he would say Ramzan is a good boy. He taught me to do good, learn, always work for the good of the people. I did it. We had a special relationship. He forgave me a lot. But I, for one, never showed him that I was more than he slept. I always got up earlier, went to bed later so that he would not see that I was sleeping. We still have such a rule - not to show yourself to your father for a month until he himself sees you by chance. We had a separate relationship with my mother. Everything that I wanted to say to my father, I conveyed through my mother. She's like a translator. Ramzan Kadyrov, head of the Chechen Republic.

Punishment of the mother was considered not so shameful, especially since it was usually carried out only during the first years of life. At the same time, the word of the grandmother has always had great authority for a boy, especially a teenager.

Grandmothers play a colossal role in raising children in Chechnya. It was my grandmother who raised me and brings up my children, because she knows much more than anyone else. The wisest are our grandparents. And my grandfather is a very respected person. It is a great happiness for me that my grandfather and grandmother are raising my children. Ramzan Kadyrov, head of the Chechen Republic.

Grandparents play a special role in the upbringing of Chechen children. The writer Musa Beksultanov has a story where an old man takes his grandson with him on a hunt. This was a long-awaited trip for the boy. His grandfather allowed him to take a rifle and shoot at the animal. At the last moment, when the game was at gunpoint, the boy did not fire, and the frightened roe deer ran away. The boy felt ashamed of his weakness, and he began to cry. His grandfather, on the contrary, praised him for his humanity. "Well done, a good person will grow out of you!" - said the old man.

For all their brutality, Chechens have always appreciated humanity and mercy, taught children to it. To the boy from the story, such a reaction of his grandfather to the seemingly weakness that he showed, in fact, in the future will have a very strong effect. He will understand that a strong person will not offend a weak person. For children of this age, this is a big break. Khamzat Duduev, child psychologist.

Even pre-revolutionary historians showed interest in the Chechen traditions of raising boys. When they asked why parents do not beat their children, fathers and mothers answered: "We want them to grow up as human beings." And the famous Russian Caucasian scholar Adolphe Berger argued that Chechens never beat their sons, because they are afraid that they will grow up to be cowards. The son is not beaten or scolded so that he does not know the feeling of fear.

Chechen historians cite psychologists who argue that a person who has gone through fear can become a great oppressor. In the worst case, the Chechens believed, the soul of such a person could be taken away. They say that if a Chechen is afraid of something, then he should only be afraid of shame or lose face. As the Vainakh proverb says, a horse that was whipped will not become a real horse.

The upbringing of children began at a fairly early age. This does not mean that they were forced to do some labor-intensive work. On the contrary, until a certain age, children were forbidden to lift weights. Chechens never beat their sons. This principle is not particularly honored these days. Sometimes parents are forced to flog their negligent offspring with a belt, as if eliminating their own shortcomings in the upbringing process. Sometimes this kind of spanking is beneficial. The carrot-and-stick policy as a contrasting approach also justifies itself - depending on the adolescent's intelligence. In general, upbringing implies edification and censure, rather than corporal punishment. Suleiman Demalkhanov, historian, lecturer at ChSU.

The Chechens and Ingush never gave up their children. Complete strangers could take the lost child under their care. Proof of this is the case that took place several years ago in Ingushetia. In the village of Achaluki, relatives found a Chechen boy who disappeared 16 years ago. Somehow from the Chechen city of Argun, he got to the border with Ingushetia. Having found the child, a local resident who worked at that time in the Ingush police took him to his place. Since that time, Murad Soltanmuradov has been living in two families.

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There has long been a tradition in Chechnya when a brother can give his child to his brother and daughter-in-law, who have no children. Usually, children only learn the truth when they become teenagers, and until then they consider their adoptive parents as their father and mother. Such children will never be deprived of the attention of both adoptive and true parents. Islam, which is now practiced by Chechens, as well as the traditional right of Chechens - adat, strictly regulates the rules for the adoption of children. At the same time, according to representatives of the clergy, according to the canons of Islam, adoption is of two types: permitted and prohibited. Permitted is the type of adoption when a child is taken into a family with the aim of giving him the correct upbringing, showing kindness and sensitivity to him and completely replacing his parents.

Prohibited is when a child is adopted so that he is considered a child of the adoptive parents and the same rules apply to him as to other children in the new family. An adopted child cannot be given a new surname, and he is not obliged to consider strangers as his parents. If the true parents of the adopted child are alive, then he should know about them.

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Chechens are raising their children in the same way as their ancestors 100-200 years ago, according to the republic. The birth of a child, and especially a boy, imposes on parents a serious responsibility, which is considered the main business of their entire life. (6 pictures)

Despite the fact that the modern world leaves its mark on traditions, on the family way of life, on the upbringing of children, in Chechnya they managed to preserve one of the most important traditions - having many children. Until now, when a child is born, in the first congratulations to the parents, everyone wishes that the born one had seven brothers. A family with seven brothers is a very serious argument worthy of respect in Chechen society.

According to traditional adats, Chechens will never praise their children in public. Almost any Chechen father will remain silent if his son tells him about his successes. Father and son communicate through the mother, keeping a distance. But the core of the upbringing of the son remains the father, who should be imitated and strive for his ideal.

The family of Ramzan Kadyrov is a good example, here in practice you can see all the features of the traditions of local education. “I never sat down in front of my father, I never spoke. When asked, he answered. I tried not to go into the room where my parents were together. Until recent years, my father and I never communicated in the presence of my grandfather. I don't remember my father praising me. It is exactly the same in our family. In the presence of my father, I never spoke to my wife and children. We were brought up like that, ”Ramzan Kadyrov said in an interview.