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  In the presence of the child, avoid criticisms of the kindergarten and its staff.
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  Try not to be nervous, do not show your anxiety on the eve of visiting kindergarten
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  On weekends, do not change your child’s daily routine abruptly.
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  Do not wean your child from bad habits in the adaptation period.
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  Create a calm, conflict-free environment in the family.
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  For a while, stop visiting crowded places with your child, cut back on TV, try to spare his weakened nervous system.
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  Emotionally support the baby: more often hug, stroke, call affectionate names.
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  Be tolerant of his whims.
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  Follow the advice and recommendations of the teacher.
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  Do not punish, do not scare the kindergarten, take home on time.
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  When the child gets used to the new conditions, do not take his tears when parting seriously - this can be caused simply by a bad mood.

Psychological support of the process of adaptation of young children to DOE

Adaptation period – a serious test for young children: from a familiar family environment, he falls into new conditions for him, which inevitably entails a change in the child’s behavioral reactions, sleep disturbance and appetite. At the age of 1-3 years, the child has a number of specific age-related opportunities. This period is characterized by heightened sensitivity to separation from the mother and the fear of novelty. Admission to kindergarten often causes stress in a child. This is due to the fact that not only the mode of the day, familiar from birth, but also the environment surrounding the child is changing radically, a large number of strangers appear. Adaptation of the body to new conditions of social existence, a new regime is accompanied by a change in the child’s behavioral reactions, sleep disturbance, and appetite. The child's family also requires some time in order to adapt to new life circumstances.

Recommendations to parents for the period when the child first started attending kindergarten

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  Bring home mode in line with group mode;
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  To get acquainted with the menu of the preschool institution and introduce new dishes for the kid’s diet;
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  To expand the orientation of the child in the immediate environment: visit playgrounds, go to visit a friend in the sandbox games, stay overnight with my grandmother, etc .;
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  If possible, accustom the child to self-sufficiency in self-care;
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  Send a child to kindergarten only on condition that he is healthy;
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  Do not give up the child in the midst of a crisis of three years;
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  As soon as possible to introduce the baby to the children in kindergarten and the teachers of the group where he will soon come;
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  Try to give it to a group where the child has peers who are familiar with whom he used to play at home or in the yard;
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  Set the baby as positive as possible for his admission to kindergarten;
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  Do not threaten the child with kindergarten as a punishment for disobedience;
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  Do not be nervous and do not show your anxiety on the eve of a child entering kindergarten;
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  Plan your vacation so that in the first month your child visits the new team, you would have the opportunity to leave him there not for the whole day;

What to do if a child cries when breaking up with parents

Common Parent Mistakes During _ adaptation of the child to preschool education

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  Unavailability of parents to a negative reaction of a child to a preschool institution. Parents are frightened by the crying of a child, they are confused, because at home he willingly agreed to go to kindergarten. It must be remembered that this is the first experience for the baby, he could not imagine the complete picture in advance, that tearfulness is the normal state of the preschooler during the period of adaptation to the kindergarten. With a patient attitude of adults, it can go by itself.
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  Blaming and punishing a child for tears. This is not a way out of the situation. From elders only patience and help are required. All that a baby needs is adaptation to new conditions.
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  It is not worth planning important things in the first days of a child’s stay in kindergarten. Going to work is better to postpone. Parents should know that a son or daughter can get used to the kindergarten for 2-3 months.
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  Stay of parents in a state of concern, anxiety. They care about public opinion, experience internal discomfort, worry that they are not good enough in the roles of “mom” and “dad”. First of all, they need to calm down. Children instantly feel when their parents worry, this condition is transmitted to them. It is very important for parents to understand that the child is adapting to new living conditions. You should avoid talking about the baby’s tears with other family members in his presence. It seems that the son or daughter is still very small and do not understand adult conversations. But children at a subtle spiritual level feel their mother’s concern, and this further enhances children's anxiety.
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  Reduced attention to the child is also a typical mistake of parents. Satisfied with the work of the DOW, some mothers breathe a sigh of relief and do not pay as much attention as before to the baby. It is recommended, on the contrary, to spend as much time as possible with the child during this period of his life. With this, mom shows that there is nothing to be afraid of, because she is still there.

When the baby begins to talk cheerfully about the kindergarten, read poetry, retell the events that happened during the day - this is a sure sign that he has mastered.

It is difficult to say how long the adaptation period will last, because all children go through it differently. But getting used to the preschool is also a test for parents, an indicator of how they are ready to support the child, to help him overcome difficulties.

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   Try to bring your child’s mode in advance to kindergarten mode, gradually change his diet so that it looks more like food in the kindergarten. Find out what time it is best for you to come on the first day and what mode of visit will be in the first days. In our kindergarten on the first day you will be asked to bring the child to 8.00. In the following days, the child’s stay in the group will increase individually, as proposed by the teacher.
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  Make all preparations in advance. Fold the necessary things the night before, decide what your child will wear and what clothes he will take as a spare.
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  Set an alarm so that in the morning there is enough time for gatherings and preparations. Think in advance what road you will walk or ride in the kindergarten, how long it takes and when you need to leave the house.
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  Prepare a children's wardrobe in advance, consult with a teacher. Trousers on the straps and body are not very comfortable - the child will not be able to undress on his own to sit on the potty. Too expensive clothes that require special care can quickly become worthless from a collision with sand, plasticine, paints and soup. Shoes are best bought with Velcro fasteners, then the child will quickly learn how to remove and put it on.
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  Make sure that the teacher has a list of all your phones (home, work, mobile, husband’s, grandmother’s, etc.) in case you need it urgently.
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  If your baby is prone to allergies to a particular product or medicine, be sure to notify the kindergarten staff and make sure that this information is correctly and clearly recorded.
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  Often the child of all the teachers chooses one and sees in her a temporary replacement for her mother. Try to find out who exactly he prefers, and communicate with her as much as possible - then you will be able to hear a lot of cute details about your baby.
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  Mom’s heart breaks at the sound of a desperate crying baby. Especially when this cry accompanies her every morning for several weeks and is remembered all day. You have to go through this if you really need a kindergarten, otherwise you should not start! Leaving - leave. Do not poison your soul by observing the site from behind a fence or by eavesdropping under the door. By the way, children most often quickly calm down immediately after the mother disappears from sight.
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  The first days or even weeks can be difficult - a child can refuse “kindergarten” food, sleep badly during the day, get tired very much, cry a lot, look lethargic and depressed ... The natural feelings of any mother are pity, compassion and, possibly, even guilty feelings misery. How to cope with this condition?

First, be confident and consistent in your decision. Be optimistic yourself and infect others with this optimism. Do not show your child your anxiety. Share your feelings with your husband, your or his parents, girlfriends and work colleagues. You will hear many comforting stories about how children got used to kindergarten and then did not want to leave there. You will be surprised to find that after several years, parents generally have difficulty remembering the difficulties of the first days of visiting a kindergarten.

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  If you yourself visited the kindergarten, try to remember your childhood - many adults remember only the last couple of years before school and their memories include only games and matinees. The pain of breaking up with parents is not remembered. If you remember any negative points, think about how you
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  you can help your child what you expected from your parents when you were a child.
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  Do not transfer your childhood negative experiences to the baby. If you felt bad, you were offended by children or the teachers were tough, not fair - this does not mean that your child will go the same way. In the end, now it’s different times, different conditions and, for sure, you have found the best kindergarten of all the options.
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  Do not make mistakes or take breaks in the visit - a week at home will not only not help the baby adapt to the kindergarten, but will also show him that there is another option that can be achieved by all means. After a week's stay, all the results that the child has achieved by getting used to kindergarten may disappear and you will have to start all over again!
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  A little time will pass and it may seem to you that the baby's behavior has changed. He became more moody. In the evenings you can expect unexpected tantrums about and without reason, scandals, accompanied by screaming, crying, throwing objects, etc. Some parents may be terrified at the sight of such a drastic change and blame the kindergarten for it. There may be several reasons.

At firstIndeed, adaptation to the kindergarten is a big stress for the baby, his nerves are tense and they need a discharge. In addition, surrounded by outsiders, the baby often tries to restrain negative emotions, so that they splash out only in the evening on the heads of parents.

Another reason for the "bad" behavior of the baby may be ... his age. Everyone has heard about the famous crisis. The kindergarten can accelerate the growing up of the child, and this very crisis will fall on your head without warning along with the problems of adaptation of the crumbs in the team.

The only advice that parents can give during this period is patience and patience again. Remember that it’s very difficult for a small person, try to help him cope with his emotions, do not provoke him once again, try to maintain a calm atmosphere in the house.

The main thing is to remember that this is still the same baby. Spend all the time with him, hug him more, lie down and sit side by side, whisper his favorite song in his ear, and you will quickly notice the positive influence of the kindergarten on the development of the child. He will become more independent, learn to eat, dress and shoe on his own, roll himself down the hill and climb into the chair. He will bring new words, new facial expressions and gestures from the kindergarten. Do not be sad, once this was supposed to happen, your chick spreads its wings a little and tries to fly out of a warm and soft mother’s nest.

Good luck, baby!

Memo to parents

process supportadaptations

child to the conditions of DOW

Adaptation to preschool education is a difficult period for both children and adults, parents and caregivers. It is difficult for children to get used to a new institution, unfamiliar peers, requirements from adults, and security issues. Parents are anxious about their child and also get used to the requirements of the kindergarten. And it’s sometimes difficult for teachers to find an approach to children and their parents .

Admission to preschool education is stress for normally developing children. During the adaptation period, regression is often observed in the entire development of the child: in his speech, skills, abilities, play activity. All children during the adaptation period experience anxiety associated with communication with peers, as well as certain fears.

To prevent children's fears from becoming a persistent emotional problem, consider the following recommendations:

How to behave with a child:

- show the child his new status (he has become great);

- do not leave him in kindergarten for long periods

- pay attention to the positive climate in the family;

- should reduce the psychological stress;

- inform interested specialists about the features of the child, the specifics of regime moments, etc .;

How not to behave with a child:

- speak negatively about the institution, its specialists;

- not pay attention to visible deviations in the behavior of the child;

- interfere with contacts with other children;

- increase the load on the nervous system;

- dress the child out of season;

- conflict at home, punish a child for vagaries

Teacher-psychologist Chursina E.G.

The period of infancy is beautiful and emotionally saturated for the baby and his loved ones. This is a wonderful incomparable period of psychological unity of mother and child. But time goes on, the baby grows up and there is a need for a new stage in his life - acquaintance with such a social institution as a kindergarten.

This circumstance makes serious changes in the life of the child, which you need to get used to:

The absence of loved ones, relatives.
  - There is a need to comply with the regime.
  - The child has to come into constant contact with peers and unfamiliar adults.
  As a result, the child has to adapt to new conditions, and this, in turn, requires him to destroy some of the previously existing connections and quickly form new ones. At this stage, the child is undergoing an adaptation period.

Adaptation- This is the adaptation of the body to new conditions, which is an unusual situation in the life of your child, therefore, stressful, requiring a more careful, patient attitude to the child.

Please note: the adaptation period can take up to 128 days.

Adaptation of the child to new circumstances of life  - A complex process for both children and adults (parents, carers). The child is not yet able to express his feelings in words, so significant changes in his behavior appear. But if you treat the baby carefully and without irritation, then these temporary deviations will pass faster and less painfully for you and the child.

Our kindergarten employs experienced professionals who take an individual approach to children, especially those who are very sensitive, withdrawn, and crying a lot. A favorable emotional climate is created in the group. Educators are good actors: they know how to tell a fairy tale in time, sing a song, they know many works of folklore: comic books, petulists, lullabies to distract the child on occasion; use fun games as a surprise moment. Game-classes, conducted by a teacher-psychologist. They pass up to 15 minutes. The first games are held frontally, so that no child feels deprived of attention.

The organization of game activity in the adaptation period is aimed at forming emotional contacts “child-adult” and “child-child”.
  The main objective of the games in the adaptation period is the formation of emotional contact, trust in other adults and children, society as a whole. Children of two or three years old do not yet have the need to communicate with peers. They can watch each other, jump, and remain completely indifferent to the state and mood of the other child. An adult must teach them to communicate, and the foundations of such communication are laid precisely in the adaptation period.

ADAPTATION CRITERIA

By duration, three types of adaptation are distinguished:

Easy adaptation:  from 8 to 16 days.

The child normalizes sleep on days 8-16, he normally begins to eat.
  The mood is dominated by a cheerful, interested, in combination with morning crying.
  Relationships with close adults are not violated, the child succumbs to rituals of farewell, is quickly distracted, he is interested in other adults. Attitude towards children can be both indifferent and interested. Interest in the environment is restored within 2 weeks with the participation of adults. By the end of the first month, active speech is restored.
  The child is sick no more than 1 time, for a period of no more than 10 days, without complications.

Adaptation of moderate severity: from 17 to 32 days.

Sleep and appetite is restored only after 20-40 days.
  The mood is not stable throughout the month, tearfulness all day.
  Attitude to loved ones: emotionally excited (crying, screaming when parting and meeting). Attitude towards children is usually indifferent, but may be interested.
  Speech is either not used, or speech activity slows down.
  Incidence of 2 times, for a period of not more than 10 days, without complications. Changes in the autonomic system: pallor, sweating, eye shadow, flaming cheeks, peeling of the skin (diathesis) - within 1.5 - 2 weeks. Severe adaptation: from 32 days or more. The child falls asleep badly, has a short sleep, cries out, cries in a dream, wakes up with tears. Appetite decreases greatly and for a long time, there may be a persistent refusal of food, neurotic vomiting, functional disorders of the stool, uncontrolled stool. The mood is blank, the child cries a lot and for a long time. Behavioral reactions normalize only on the 60th day of stay in a preschool educational institution. Attitude to loved ones: emotionally excited, devoid of practical interaction. Attitude towards children: avoids communication, shuns or shows aggression. Speech does not use or there is a delay in speech development for 2-3 periods. Incidence more than 3 times a month, more than 10 days.

What can not be done in any case:

You can’t punish or be angry with the baby for crying when parting or at home at the mention of the need to go to the garden! Remember, he is entitled to such a reaction.
  A strict reminder that “he promised not to cry” is also completely ineffective. Children of this age still do not know how to "keep their word." It’s better to remind you that you will definitely come.

You can’t scare a kindergarten (“You’ll behave badly, you’ll go to kindergarten again!”). A scared place will never be either loved or safe.
  It is impossible to speak badly of teachers and kindergarten with a child. This may lead the kid to the idea that the garden is a bad place and bad people surround him. Then the alarm will not go away at all.
  You can’t deceive a child by saying that you will come very soon if, for example, the baby has to stay in the kindergarten for half a day or even a full day. Let him know better that Mom will not come soon, than will wait for her all day and may lose confidence in the closest person.
Parent Tips

1. First of all, parents should get to know teachers.

2. In about a month, you can begin to prepare the child psychologically - to talk about what kindergarten is, who goes there, what happens there, it is advisable to walk around it as often as possible so that the baby gets used to the territory. However, at the same time, one should not overdo it - one should not focus too much on the upcoming event, which can cause fear and insecurity in the child’s own strengths.

3. It is also necessary to prepare for the kindergarten mode well in advance - usually children are brought in early in the morning, and taken away at 6 pm, quiet time - from 13 to 15. Not all children are used to getting up early in the morning, so you need to start rebuilding in a new way at least for 2-3 months. Going to bed is better at 21.00.

4. In the first few days, in no case should you leave your child for more than 2-3 hours. Watching his reaction, you can gradually increase the time spent in kindergarten.

5. Food in kindergarten is different from home, so parents should prepare their child in advance, accustoming them to normal and healthy foods - soups, cereals, salads, etc.

6. It is necessary to accustom the child in advance to independence and self-care skills.

7. When going to kindergarten, it is possible and even necessary to allow the child to take any toys with him so that he brings there a “piece” of his home.

8. During parting with mother, the child often begins to be capricious - clinging to mother with all his might, sometimes even screaming loudly, sobbing and making tantrums. You need to calmly kiss the baby, wave his hand and "pass" into the safe hands of the teacher (if he himself refuses to go). Usually children, especially toddlers, cry for 5-10 minutes and calm down.

9. In the first few days, the child feels constrained in the kindergarten. Constant restraint of emotions can lead to a nervous breakdown, therefore, during the period of adaptation, the child simply needs to “release” emotions in the usual home environment, which does not cause stiffness. Do not scold him for shouting or running too fast - he needs it.

10. When the child is outside the kindergarten, parents need to try to devote as much time as possible to them - to walk, play, talk.

11. Be in contact with educators - be interested in the child’s behavior in the garden, his relationships with adults and peers, and discuss emerging issues.

The adaptation period for each child goes differently and is determined by the characteristics of his nervous system, the level of development of communication, the general emotional background (mood), family circumstances. It must be remembered that changes in the life of a child are also a test of parental competence, an indicator of how much parents are ready to support the child, to help him overcome difficulties. Remember that at the new stage of life, the baby learns to gain experience in building relationships with the world and you, makes important steps towards his development, the development of his personality. Parental support, the adoption of anxieties and worries of the child, the belief that he will cope with all difficulties will give the little man confidence in his strength and provide the necessary emotional mood.

These tips will help your child go through the process of adapting to kindergarten conditions. If you need qualified help, a kindergarten psychologist is always waiting for you.

It’s time for the kid to go to kindergarten ... What age is suitable for visiting a preschool? Parents are concerned about the question of how painlessly the child will adapt to kindergarten. Consultation of a psychologist on this issue will help prepare for an important difficult period in the life of the whole family and successfully overcome it.

Parents seek to protect the baby from psychological trauma associated with an early separation from their mother, they want him to be carried away with joy and interest in the learning process, easily overcoming the difficult stage of adaptation.

The adaptation process can conditionally be considered in 2 aspects: psychological and physical.

Physical adaptation involves:

• getting used to an unfamiliar daily routine;
• expanding the level of contacts with peers;
• a different diet.

Much more difficult is psychological adaptation, which involves breaking up with mom. Under new conditions, the degree of attention from adults is decreasing. In a baby, this can cause nervous tension.

How long does the adaptation take?

Often, it is a full-fledged consultation with a specialist in working with children that helps harmonize the child’s adaptation to kindergarten. Addiction in babies occurs in different ways. A couple of weeks or long six months - depends on the child’s psychotype, his upbringing, competent and professional approach of the teachers and the caring attitude of the parents.

Degree of adaptation

Quick adaptation in kindergarten

The period of quick adaptation lasts about 1 month:

• the child calmly comes to the kindergarten, without crying and tantrums releases his mother;
• finds contact with children and the teacher, is easily involved in the game;
• after the kindergarten, he shares his impressions with parents with interest;
• the mood is stable, without sudden changes.

Average adaptation

The stage of average adaptation lasts about two months.  During this time, children can get sick. In emotional terms, the child is calm, communication difficulties are not observed.

How this stage is displayed on behavioral factors:

• when parting with mother, tears are inevitable, but the child quickly calms down;
• having overcome some wariness, begins to play with children;
• shows interest when the teacher offers a toy;
• adheres to the general regime, calmly responds to comments;
• not always ready to communicate with the teacher.

Slow adaptation

It’s hard for a kid to become part of a team. Children with this degree of adaptation often get sick, are in constant despondency. They need special attention and support, perhaps even the help of a psychologist.

Manifestations of behavior:

• having come to kindergarten, she doesn’t let her mother go. Spends the whole day waiting for his parents to come for him;
• does not want to communicate;
• not distracted by the game;
• shows isolation and aggression;
• remarks cause crying or fear.

Important components that affect a child’s adaptation

What factors influence the adaptation of the child to kindergarten. Specialist consultations help stabilize the nature and duration of the adaptation period. Age, level of development of mental processes, state of health, communicative abilities significantly affect involvement in an unfamiliar team.

Child age

An important component of this stage is the age of the baby.
The rapid pace of physical and mental formation at the age of 10 months to two years complicates the process of adaptation. After two years of age, children more easily adapt to the conditions of the kindergarten.

Health status

The functional immaturity of the preschooler's body is the cause of complex adaptability to environmental changes. Frequent colds, due to which the child becomes passive, weak, lethargic, leads to indifference to the environment. Poor well-being delays the desire for movements, actions, as a result of which the process of general development suffers.

Degree of psychological development

The success of the adaptation period is closely related to the individual characteristics of the child, the development of mental functions, qualities of character and temperament.

Children of different age categories, coming to a preschool for the first time, behave differently. Some at first calmly relate to the requirements of the teacher, to the conditions, but then, upon arrival in the kindergarten, they begin to protest, cry, do not sleep, refuse to eat, etc.

Others in the early days when parting with their parents cry, object to the regime of the day, but gradually begin to get used to, their appetite, sleep, passion for playing with their comrades is restored.

Level of socialization

Increased contact with children and adults is an important factor in adapting a child to kindergarten. Consultations of a child psychologist provide effective assistance to those babies whose communication before the kindergarten was limited to a narrow circle of the family.

Such children are difficult to socialize in the new society. The lack of communication skills and the inability to resolve conflicts increases children's anxiety and forms a reluctance to attend kindergarten.

How quickly a preschooler socializes depends largely on the teacher, his professionalism and ability to find an individual approach to each newcomer.

Adaptation through Disease: A Medical Aspect

It is important for parents to know about the medical aspect of the process of adapting a child to kindergarten.  Consultation with a specialist will help to reveal the essence of the stages of adaptation: acute, subacute and period of compensation. In the acute period, all body systems are in tension. The behavior of the baby is unstable, he is easily excitable, naughty.

The frequency of contractions of the heart muscle increases, the pressure fluctuates, the content of microbes and susceptibility to diseases increase, the blood composition changes, and often the kids lose weight. The period lasts from ten days to three months, depending on the individual characteristics of the children.

The subacute period is characterized by a gradual normalization of behavior and physiological parameters. For 2 weeks, appetite is restored, speech, sleep are normalized and the emotional background is harmonized. The compensation period marks the return of physiological and psychological indicators to the initial level and indicates the adaptability of the child.

Recommendations to parents: how to prepare a child for kindergarten

The role of parents is huge in the painless adaptation of the child to kindergarten. Consultation of a psychologist in preparation for visiting a preschool is based on recommendations to parents on how to solve a difficult adaptation problem.

How can I help the baby so that a visit to the kindergarten is comfortable:

• In the process of preparing for visiting the kindergarten, include a gradual transition from home-made food to the kindergarten diet.
• Build communication skills. To do this, organize walks with the baby to the site of the children's institution, introduce them to the children, and engage in joint activities. Perhaps also a preliminary acquaintance with the future carer will help.
• To instill affordable self-care skills.
• To prepare the kid with stories about kindergarten, explain why you want him to attend the kindergarten.
• Raise the "status" of the kindergarten, telling in the presence of the baby about how proud you are that he will go to kindergarten in the fall.
• To tell the child about the regime in the institution, about what classes and games await him. The more detailed this story is, the more confident the crumbs will be in the kindergarten.
• Develop subject-game activity. Children, accustomed to playing with toys, are quickly involved in new conditions precisely through the game, with interest exploring toys in kindergarten.
• A system of “signs of farewell to the baby” should be developed so that separation from parents is painless.
• Answer the question: "Does your child need a kindergarten right now?" If you are not sure about this, and the child feels that visiting the kindergarten is an alternative, he will certainly resist.
• You should not speak critically about the kindergarten and its employees in the presence of the baby, all the more frighten him with a visit to the kindergarten.
• Warn the baby about the exact date of visiting the kindergarten for the week, so that he can psychologically calmly prepare for this event.

What mistakes should parents avoid during the period of adaptation of the child to kindergarten

• Underestimating the importance of this phase. It is unacceptable to bring a child to kindergarten and go away for the whole day. Parents need to be prepared at any time to return to the kindergarten, in the case of the ongoing crying baby. temperature increase, etc .;
• Failure to follow the sequence and systematic visits. Such inconstancy creates additional difficulties in adaptation;
• Abrupt leaving when parting.  It’s more correct to come up with an individual “ritual” of farewell that will facilitate parting with your mother;
• Lack of socialization.  Before visiting the kindergarten, the child should have some experience in communicating with other children and the habit of sometimes separating from parents with the explanation that they leave for work, but after a certain time will certainly return.

How to develop independence in a child

Each parent wants to see his child confident and independent, so that in the future he can build his adult life in accordance with his decisions and achieve good results.

An important role in raising children belongs to teachers. In the complex multifaceted issue of the formation of the personality of the child, coherence of actions and the community of educational methods of educators and parents are necessary.

• First, you have to be patient.  Children always strive for independence, but adults, taking care, try to take on even the most basic duties, just not to trouble the baby;
• Need to give the child a choice  of several options: this applies to food and clothing, and the choice of toys, etc .;
• Let the child look for questions to his answers.  Adults only need to help him with this;
• In relations with the baby, excessive custody should be excluded, obsessive explanations about what is harmful and what is useful. If possible, the word “no,” which generates aggression, should be replaced with an alternative to a compromise solution to the problem;
• It is important to believe in a child, always help and support him.  And then he will grow up an independent and self-confident person.

How to form a positive attitude towards kindergarten

Long before visiting the kindergarten, the baby must be prepared for this important event, so that he has a positive impression.

Stories about how fun classes are in kindergarten, how many children there are to play with interesting classes, what fun holidays are organized in kindergarten - all this finds a positive response in the soul of the baby. You can conduct an excursion to a kindergarten, in which the child will go. Let him get acquainted with the situation and conditions.

How to facilitate parting with the baby

Morning breakup is the most difficult moment for the crumbs. He feels the feelings of his mother, who is also not easy for the first time to let go of her child for a long time. Therefore, first of all, mom should not worry and it is necessary to behave calmly and confidently.

This difficult moment can be alleviated by inventing some kind of ritual - a hug or a kind word in the ear, repeating the same thing every day.

Usually, even the most capricious children easily enter the game and release their mother. If a child is emotionally more attached to his mother, which happens in most cases, then let other family members bring him to the kindergarten at first.

How to develop sociability

As you know, sociable kids are easier to adapt to the conditions of the kindergarten. Therefore, it is necessary for the child to develop communication skills.

  At a consultation with psychologists, almost every specialist recommends paying great attention to games between people to better adapt the child to kindergarten. This improves the ability to quickly socialize.

  In this matter, parents will help:

• Developing minimal communication skills, teaching the rules of polite handling: say hello, say goodbye, find out the name of the interlocutor, ask, thank, share toys and so on;
• Games based on questions and answers. Offering a child a game, it is useful to ask questions about the plot, to encourage him to tell the game situation;
• Collective games for walks. You can arrange games with other kids, involving the child in communication with other children through the game;
• An important rule: do not force communication. Some kids do not like fun company and prefer to be outside observers. Perhaps some time will pass, and the child himself will want to build relationships with other children.

What should parents do if the child cries on the way to the kindergarten?

It is important to take into account the fact that a psychologically prepared child will not cry on the way to kindergarten.

However, sensitive and impressionable children may express some concern in the form of crying or whims. Moms should not overly sympathize and sympathize with the baby, because, having felt the mother’s anxiety, the baby goes deeper into their feelings, which often leads to diseases in the form of colds, vomiting, weakness, poor appetite, etc.

But there are times when a child cries on the way to kindergarten, because he is not comfortable there. Parents should find out by talking to the caregiver to support their baby. The reasons may be different. Perhaps he did not have a relationship with any of his peers, for example.

Do not run to the kindergarten and arrange a showdown. A tutor or psychologist will help here.  Having studied the problem, they will try in the game activity with the help of psychological and pedagogical techniques to resolve the situation.

What should a caregiver do if a child cries in the garden?

Crying a child in kindergarten during the adaptation period is normal. In overcoming the problems of adaptation by the kid, the teacher plays a huge role. It is very important at this stage to maintain close contact with parents, to be interested in the character and hobbies of the baby, what kind of games and toys he likes, what types of activities he does with particular interest.

The educator needs to be patient and pedagogical tact, in no case to put pressure on the personality of the child, to become his friend and assistant.

It may take a long time to adapt the child to kindergarten. Consultations with parents, their own observations will help to reveal the characteristics of the child’s personality, his abilities and hobbies. At this stage, you need to gradually engage the baby in the game and communication, to give tasks, the implementation of which gives the baby joy.

Only a competent attitude of the teacher can create in the soul of the child that positive emotional background that will help him to safely go through the difficult adaptation period.

Building trust in new unfamiliar adults and children, creating emotional contact based on kindness, attention, caring, support during a difficult period for a baby, a special individual approach based on respect for the personality of a small person, communication, accompanied by a smile and gentle intonation.

Here are the principles on which the success of the adaptation period is based, those factors, the observance of which will help ease the difficult test for the child's psyche and create the necessary conditions for the successful involvement of the baby in a friendly children's team.

Video about adapting a child to kindergarten

A comprehensive solution to the problem of adapting a child to kindergarten:

Consultation with a child psychologist on the adaptation of children in kindergarten:

Adaptation period   - A serious test for kids. Stressful reactions caused by adaptation disturb the baby’s emotional state for a long time. Therefore, we recommend:

bring home mode in line with the mode of the kindergarten group to which the child will go;  to get acquainted with the menu of the kindergarten and introduce new dishes for the kid’s diet;  to teach the child at home all the necessary self-care skills: to wash, to wipe his hands; dress and undress; eat on your own, using a spoon while eating; ask for a pot. Clothing must necessarily be convenient for a child of this age, the best option: pants or shorts without fasteners and straps;  to expand the child’s “social horizon”, let him get used to chatting with his peers at children's playgrounds, visit his friends, stay overnight with his grandmother, walk around the city, etc. Having such experience, the child will not be afraid to communicate with peers and adults;  it is necessary to form a positive attitude in the child, a desire to go to kindergarten. The baby needs emotional support from the parents: more often, tell the child that you love him, hug him, hold him in his arms. Remember, the calmer and emotionally positive parents will relate to such an important event as a child attending a kindergarten, the less painful the adaptation process will take;  on the first day it is better to come to kindergarten, taking your favorite toy with you.  plan your time so that in the first month of your child’s visit to the kindergarten you have the opportunity not to leave it there for the whole day. The first weeks of visiting the kindergarten should be limited to 2-3 hours, later you can leave the baby until dinner, at the end of the month (if the teacher recommends it) bring the baby for the whole day;  during the adaptation period at home, it is necessary to observe the daily regimen, walk more on weekends, reduce the emotional load;  the child should come to kindergarten only healthy. For the prevention of acute respiratory infections and acute respiratory viral infections, it is necessary to take vitamins, lubricate the nasal passages with oxoline ointment.

The implementation of all the above recommendations is not mandatory. But the implementation of them will help your child to safely go through the period of adaptation.

The problem of adaptation of children to kindergarten.

The problem of kindergarten - whether it is good or bad, to give or not to give - sooner or later arises in the family. The relevance of the problem almost does not depend on the level of family well-being and on the employment of parents, each of whom has his own experience and his own personal opinion about the advantages and disadvantages of preschool institutions. Kindergarten is a new environment, a new environment, new people. The admission of a child to a preschool educational institution is accompanied by a change in his environment, day regimen, the nature of food, the system of behavioral reactions (dynamic stereotype) of the crumbs, leads to the need to establish social connections, adapt to new living conditions.  Adaptation to a preschool institution is a difficult period for both children and adults: parents, teachers. In order for the child to quickly and painlessly adapt to the conditions of the preschool institution, it is necessary to prepare him for admission to kindergarten. Parents are not always fully aware that when they go to kindergarten, the child finds himself in other conditions that are significantly different from home ones.  It is difficult for children to get used to a new institution, unfamiliar peers, requirements from adults, and security issues. Parents are anxious for their child, and also get used to the requirements of the kindergarten. And it is sometimes difficult for educators to find an approach to children and their parents.  For a child to successfully adapt to the conditions of a preschool institution, adults need to form a positive attitude towards kindergarten and a positive attitude towards him. It depends on the professional skill of the educators, the atmosphere of warmth, kindness, attention.  Adaptation difficulties arise in cases where a child is confused, they try to involve him in communication, the content of which does not meet his interests and desires. The child should be ready for the level of communication that sets the atmosphere of the kindergarten. Children far from always possess the communication skills necessary for a particular kindergarten group.  Failure to comply with the basic pedagogical rules in raising children leads to violations of the intellectual, physical development of the child, the emergence of negative forms of behavior.  Adaptation (from lat. - to adapt) - in the broad sense - adaptation to changing external and internal conditions. Adaptation in the conditions of a preschool institution needs to be considered the process of a child entering a new environment for him and a painful addiction to its conditions. The child’s adaptation process is affected by the achieved level of mental and physical development, health status, degree of hardening, the formation of self-care skills, communicative communication with adults and peers, the personality characteristics of the baby himself, as well as the level of anxiety and personality characteristics of the parents. Children with deviations in these areas are more difficult to adapt to new microsocial conditions. They may develop an emotionally stressful reaction leading to poor health.

The child’s psychological readiness for preschool education is one of the most important outcomes of mental development during preschool childhood.

Preparing children for admission to preschool education and predicting adaptation to it.

Adaptation is an active process, leading either to positive (adaptability, that is, the totality of all useful changes in the body and psyche) results, or negative (stress). The child during the adaptation period is a living stress model.  Two main criteria for successful adaptation are distinguished: internal comfort (emotional satisfaction) and external adequacy of behavior (ability to easily and accurately fulfill environmental requirements).  The most important component of adaptation is the coordination of the child’s self-esteem and claims with his capabilities and the reality of the social environment.  There are a number of criteria by which one can judge how a child adapts to life in an organized children's team.

The main criteria for the adaptation of the child to the conditions of the DOE. The main adaptation criteria include:  behavioral reactions;  level of neuropsychic development;  incidence and course of the disease;  main anthropometric indicators of physical development (height, weight).

Practice shows that the main reasons for the difficult adaptation to the conditions of DOW are:- the absence in the family of a regime that coincides with the regime of preschool institutions,- the presence of a child's peculiar habits,- inability to occupy yourself with a toy,- lack of basic cultural and hygienic skills,- lack of communication skills with strangers.

Memo for parents number 1

What can not be done in any case:

Can not be punished   or be angry with the baby for crying when parting or at home at the mention of the need to go to the garden! Remember, he is entitled to such a reaction. A strict reminder that “he promised not to cry” is also absolutely not
effectively. Children of this age still do not know how to "keep their word." Better yet
just remind you to come.

You can not scare kindergarten (“Here you will behave badly, you will go again!”). A scared place will never be either loved or safe.

It is impossible to speak badly of teachers and kindergarten with a child . This may lead the kid to the idea that the garden is a bad place and bad people surround him. Then the alarm will not go away at all.

You cannot cheat a child , saying that you will come very soon if the baby, for example, has to stay in the kindergarten for half a day or even a full day. Let him know better that Mom will not come soon, than will wait for her all day and may lose confidence in the closest person.

Memo for parents number 2

Tips for parents:

1. First of all, parents should get to know teachers.

2. In about a month, you can begin to prepare the child psychologically - to talk about what kindergarten is, who goes there, what happens there, it is advisable to walk around it as often as possible so that the baby gets used to the territory. However, at the same time, you should not overdo it - you should not focus too much on the upcoming event, which can cause fear and insecurity in the child’s own strengths.

3. It is also necessary to prepare for the kindergarten mode well in advance - usually children are brought at 8-9 in the morning, and taken away at 6 pm, quiet time - from 13 to 15. Not all children are used to getting up at 7 in the morning, so you need to rebuild start at least 2-3 months. Going to bed is better at 21.00.

4. In the first few days, in no case should you leave your child for more than 2-3 hours. Watching his reaction, you can gradually increase the time spent in kindergarten.

5. Food in kindergarten is different from home, so parents should prepare the child in advance, accustoming him to normal and healthy food - soups, cereals, salads, etc.

6. It is necessary to accustom the child in advance to independence and self-care skills.

7. When going to kindergarten, it is possible and even necessary to allow the child to take any toys with him so that he brings there a “piece” of his home.

8. During parting with mother, the child often begins to be capricious - clinging to mother with all his might, sometimes even screaming loudly, sobbing and making tantrums. You need to calmly kiss the baby, wave his hand and "pass" into the safe hands of the teacher (if he refuses to go). Usually children, especially toddlers, cry for 5-10 minutes and calm down.

9. In the first few days, the child feels constrained in the kindergarten. Constant restraint of emotions can lead to a nervous breakdown, therefore, during the period of adaptation, the child simply needs to “release” emotions in the usual home environment, which does not cause stiffness. Do not scold him for shouting or running too fast - he needs it.

10. When the child is outside the kindergarten, parents need to try to devote as much time as possible to them - to walk, play, talk.

11. Be in contact with educators - take an interest in the child’s behavior in the garden, his relationships with adults and peers, and discuss emerging issues.

Tips for parents on adapting a child in kindergarten

Tips for parents on adapting the child

in kindergarten

Tip One - Part Time

Try not to leave your child for a full day. First time desirablepick it up when he’s not tired yet. Garden timeincrease gradually.

Tip Two - Personal Hygiene

It is advisable to find out all the rules that exist in the kindergarten, especially thoseas for personal hygiene. Try to stick to their house - thenit will be easier for the child to get used to the requirements of the kindergarten. Be sure to leave inkindergarten stock of clothes and linen so that, if necessary, the child canquickly change into clean and dry.

Tip Three - Food

Do not teach children to snack, and follow a diet. The child’s body gets used to snacks and in the garden this may not be enough. Kidwill feel discomfort, but cannot explain. Is the child eating himself ordoes he need help? Confidently uses a spoon and fork? Decide how muchyou want help in this matter from educators. Tell about yourwishes to people who will directly communicate with yourthe kid.

Tip Four - Sleep

Very often, parents are sure that the child does not need daytime sleep, because at homeoh you can’t do it. In kindergarten, children sleep because their life is much moredynamic and saturated, and after lunch the children just roll over from fatigue.

Tip Five - Clothing

Clothing should be comfortable and comfortable. What is more important for you - that helooked the most fashionable and stylish or so that he was not afraid to get dirty and to wrinkle clothes? Pay attention to the convenience of fasteners. Let the little onethe person feels comfortable and free, and the clothes will not be subjectyour regrets and complaints to the child.

Tip Six - Toys

Agree with the child that he will bring only those to the kindergarten
toys with which he is ready to share, and the loss or damage of which is not
will cause a storm of tears. Remember now there is adaptation to kindergarten, this is so
it’s hard for your child, and he doesn’t need anything extra shocks.

Tip seven - Parting

Parting   with mom is a burning issue for everyone. So many childrencry when parting. They have to persuade and distract for a long time.The teacher will help you with this, but in your power to make the separation lesspainful. Find out how your child feels in your absence. If hequickly calms down, is not sad then, most likely, the reason for the ritualparting. It is necessary to invent or modify a ritual so that the child hasit’s easier to let you go.

Tip eight - Never fool a child   Cheating - even if your plans have changed - can become very difficulttrue for the child, shake his confidence in you and nullify all effortsfor successful adaptation in the garden. Therefore, if you are not sure whether you can fulfill your promise - it is better to pick up the child earlier without warning - this will be a pleasant surprise for him.

POSITIVE POSITIVE

Often parents ask how long does the adaptation period last? Of course, a lot depends on the child himself. But if you are expected at work, then begin to accustom the baby to the conditions of the preschool institution 4-6 months before going to work.I notice how we, adults, sometimes happen, callous to our kids. In this difficult period for the baby, when everything is unfamiliar to him in the preschool, we begin to count in what time period the baby has fit in, getting used to new living conditions. Some say: exactly 128 days. Others give a month or two, otherwise a sentence: "Not a kindergarten child." Yes there are no such! These are the adults themselves. If a mother recalls with horror her childhood in the walls of an unsuccessful kindergarten, she unconsciously lays a negative image of a child care institution in her child’s mind. In the hearts of such a mother exclaims: “Why do you eat it yourself? Here I’ll give you to kindergarten, you will remain hungry - no one will feed you!” Then grab a spoon vividly! ”,“ Take away the toys yourself! You’ll go to kindergarten, I don’t let you down there will give! " And even sadder when they start to scare a dark room, a corner.

It is important to positively set the child up for future changes in his life.

Try to tell as much as possible about how you yourself went to kindergarten, what was interesting and interesting there. You can even come up with stories with children who go to kindergarten. And it’s even better to say: “If you learn to dress yourself, then you will be received!”, “Today you pushed your friend Romka, why are there such children in kindergarten? There are all kind, friendly children. It’s time to improve! There’s not much time left.”

In most cases, mothers, going to work, are forced to send their children to a preschool institution by the age of three. Therefore, I will continue to talk about a specific age of 2-2.5 years.