Marriage of Russian and Muslim. Muslim husband

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A marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is a voluntary union of women and men, professing different faiths and belonging to different cultures, when a hot feeling makes you abandon traditional Christian virtues and accept Muslim values, namely, complete submission to your husband, restriction of rights and freedoms in public life .

Are marriages between representatives of different faiths possible?

To register love relationships between representatives of various religious faiths is allowed in any country. The restrictions apply only to the age at which you can officially marry.

Russia is a multinational state; more than 190 different peoples live in the country. There are over 11 million inhabitants in Moscow, and the Slavic brothers — Russians, Ukrainians, and Belarusians — are a minority here. There are only 4,620,000. The rest are representatives of other nationalities. Let's say there are much more Tatars in the Russian capital than in Kazan.

Currently professing Islam in the Russian Federation more than 20 million, and this number is constantly growing. Over 15 years, their number in the country increased by 40%. If the growth continues to be so rapid, in about forty years every fourth Russian resident will be a Muslim.

The family code of the Russian Federation (Article 156 “Marriage in the Russian Federation”) does not mention any restriction on a national basis when entering into marriage. So a marriage between a Muslim and a Christian is possible quite officially. It is not a curiosity and is quite relevant today.

Many Russians marry Muslims. This is a matter of personal relations, is not regulated by the state. But Christian dogma imposes certain restrictions on such marriages. The apostle Paul also said that “they should not bow down to the yoke of others with unbelievers ...” (II Corinthians 6:14).

But it was said a long time ago. Now the times are completely different. Orthodox and Muslims live side by side in one country. They work, study and often live in the same hostel. Here it’s not up to the dogma of faith. And the question is very intimate, but you can’t order the heart ...

All this is so. Only a girl who married a Muslim can hardly be considered a true Christian. Wore a cross and even went to church on major holidays? So what? Now this is fashionable and does not mean at all that she was a believer, she knew the dogmas of Christian morality well and understood the differences between Christianity (Orthodoxy) and Islam.

And they are big, especially as they relate to the behavior of women in the Muslim community. Today, a Christian and Muslim marriage is possible, but often enlightenment comes "after". And then those who left for their faithful to a Muslim country are eager to go home to mom and dad, and it’s good if they return without serious consequences for their health, physically and mentally unstable.

Nevertheless, in spite of this, some girls without any regard will “marry” the faithful, leave their country and leave with their husbands to the promised land - to their homeland.

It's important to know! In Islam, a woman is in a lower position than a man. One of the hadiths (retelling the words of the Prophet) says that “A woman is created from a rib and will never straighten in front of you, and if you want to benefit from it, then let the curvature remain with her. And if you try to straighten it, you will only break it. ”

Why do Christians marry Muslims

The reasons for marriage with a Muslim are many. Home, which is given in justification for such an act that a great feeling makes you get married. And with darling, as you know, in a hut paradise. It is useless to indicate to a foolish heart, but the rational should listen to the arguments of the elders or at least ask what awaits a woman of another faith in the house of the Mohammedan.

Among the reasons why marriage between a Muslim and a Christian is possible, the following should be mentioned:

Love. In youth, all are maximalists. And if a flashed feeling for a handsome brunette with a burning irresistible gaze is first love? It makes you crazy. Behind him, even to the ends of the world! The maiden agrees to become his slave and wash his feet, if only he would not give up. There are such simpletons by nature, they easily switch to a different faith and, without unnecessary emotions, adapt to Muslim customs that are unacceptable to most Orthodox women.
Unexpected pregnancy. Suppose they are students, often found in addition to studying at companies. A fun student feast ended in a casual relationship. She became pregnant and wants to solve all her problems by marriage. And it can be complaints of parents, “crooked” smiles of friends and acquaintances. He is quite attractive, and he has plenty of money, because he came to study in another country. So marrying him is not a bad option. And that he is a Muslim and how life will develop in the future, the girl does not think much. Such a marriage is short-lived, in the future it can cause her big trouble.
The desire to move to another country. He is from another world. And there everything is fabulous, besides rich, does not skimp on expensive gifts. And here is such a prose of life, parents give very little money for study. And I want to not only eat well, but also look beautiful. It makes no difference that he is a Muslim, their customs are strict, but fair. And so loves me. I’ll leave with him and I will live well!
Loneliness. The woman was already married. The husband, for example, was very drunk and even beaten. Hopeless, boring vegetation. I had to get a divorce. And then an oriental handsome man with money. And how he cares, gives such gifts ... He promises to take with him, for example, to Turkey. Life is one, but you want to live so beautifully.
Business. He comes, for example, from Turkey. He has his own profitable business here. She works in his company. Warm relationships grew into a love affair. They began to live together, over time, the woman converted to Islam and left for her husband’s country.
The appeal of Islam. Now there are many divorced Islamist preachers, it is easy to access them on the Internet. They convincingly talk about the benefits of their religion. Brand the vices of Christian society. For example, gay marriage, which is prohibited in Muslim countries on pain of death. Many girls (guys) succumb to this propaganda and adopt a new faith. What this can lead to, a vivid example of this is the sad fate of Moscow student Varvara Karaulova. She went to Turkey and tried to illegally cross the Turkish-Syrian border to join the ranks of the Islamic State, the Islamic State terrorist organization banned in Russia.

It's important to know! There will always be women seeking to marry a Muslim. In the end, it is a personal choice. And it is not always fatal. However, the decision must be made conscious so that later it will not be “excruciatingly painful” for the mistake made, if it does happen.

Features of Muslim marriage

The marriage of a Muslim and a Christian should be viewed through the prism of Islamic law, enshrined in adat and Sharia. Adat is an ancient customs that the faithful must strictly follow in their lives. And Sharia is the “right way” given to people by the Prophet Muhammad.

Islam claims that a woman should be an outstanding person. For example, Khadija, the first wife of the prophet Muhammad, was engaged in trade and herself invited him to marry her. Aisha, his second wife, left a lot of Hasidim about the Prophet - information about his personal life. Muhammad respected his many wives, telling his followers that "You have rights over your women, and your women have rights over you."

But the Prophet also has other words that “Most of those who fall into the fire of hell will be women.” Such a contradictory opinion of Muhammad about the female gender has in fact resulted in a severe restriction of the rights of Muslim women.

For example, in Saudi Arabia, women are virtually forbidden to travel by public transport, all parts of the body must be closed. For disobedience can be put in jail. And if you got in jail, then no parole, unlike men.

Therefore, a Slavic girl should think seven times before deciding to marry a Muslim. Will she be able to endure all the restrictions that the life of a Muslim woman will impose on her if she has to leave for her husband’s homeland? After all, there will have to change their faith.

Great love is no excuse for a rash decision. Your feelings should be verified by the mind. Passion can go away, but it is extremely difficult to rewrite a broken fate anew.

Life in a Muslim family has its own nuances that a girl who wants to combine her destiny with a Muslim just needs to know. She must understand that Islamic traditions regarding family relationships are holy and unshakable. For example, without the permission of her husband, she should not spend money, cannot leave home without male escort for a period of more than 3 days. Otherwise it will be considered incorrect. This is already being punished.

The main features of Muslim marriage:

The husband is the main in the family. It is impossible to disobey, his word is rigorous to fulfillment. He can heed the opinion of his wife, but the decision is his. His man should be appeased in everything and always, even in sex. Refusing it without a serious reason (this may be, say, a period of menstruation) is considered a serious fault.
Household. The wife is obliged to conduct all household chores around the house under the supervision of a mother-in-law. And scrupulously carry out all her instructions. She is the eldest among women in the family. She does not have the right to talk to her of her own free will, only when she herself speaks to her.
Work permit. He must be asked from her husband, he can give, but this does not exempt from the household. Muslim women can work only as doctors, nurses, teachers, other professions are forbidden to them.
A woman has no right to talk with strangers. For disobedience is a severe punishment, they can be accused of prostitution.
Wearing hijab. This is dark clothing that hides the body from prying eyes. What kind of multi-colored dresses, so beloved by youth. Even decorations cannot be seen by outsiders. Everything is only for the husband.
Do not leave the house. Only with the consent of his faithful, without his escort or relative, you can not visit, say, acquaintances.
May be more than one wife. I came to his homeland, and at his place, it turns out, three more wives. Muslim law permits polygamy. Nowhere to go, have to put up with it.
Punishment. The husband can punish if the wife stubbornly does not want to obey him. But the beat is not allowed. If she can prove cases of physical abuse, she can achieve a divorce. However, in this case, it is very unlikely that a Christian wife will take her children with her. The law is on the father’s side.
Restrictions on attending sporting events. Due to the fact that there will be involuntary communication with strangers, and this is categorically not allowed.
You can not drive a car. Accordingly, a ban on obtaining a driver’s license. In Saudi Arabia, a female motorist is a great sin.
Internet restriction. The aspirant to marry a Muslim should know that in Muslim countries he is under strict control. Let's say there is a ban on social networks, dating sites, others. The greatest restrictions exist in Saudi Arabia, Afghanistan, Jordan, Iran. Those who trample Islamic values \u200b\u200bon the Internet can go to jail.

It's important to know! The Islamic theologian al-Ghazali has a saying: "Of the 1000 virtues, only one refers to women, the remaining 999 to men." Before a Christian woman marries a Muslim, one should well weigh all the pros and cons of such a union. In order not to bitterly repent later and not bite your elbows.

Consequences of Christian and Muslim Marriages

Actually, all the features of an Orthodox Christian and Muslim marriage can be consequences. Happy or sad if the marriage decision was made hastily.

It is highly likely that he will be prosperous when the husband remained in his wife’s homeland and even converted to her faith. And if they are both unbelievers, it is possible that they will simply live happily without burdening themselves with the religious dogmas of Christianity (Orthodoxy or Catholicism) and Mohammedanism.

In her husband’s homeland, if she decided to leave with him, the family can also be happy. And here a lot depends on the country where you left, and the person of the missus. Will he be able to provide his wife with the usual living conditions in a state completely unfamiliar to her. An important role, as her new family will accept a stranger.

The warehouse of her character also determines the fate of the future. How will she react to a new life unusual for herself, whether she will put up with her or resist the harsh life situation.

A true Christian is unlikely to decide to marry a Muslim, even a great love is not a reason to abandon the faith of her ancestors. And if this still happened, such an apostate departs from Christian morality, loses himself in God. He turns away from her, the realization of this will torment her soul for the rest of her life.

It’s not easy to turn yourself over to a person who is used to living freely, without taboos that are wild in the 21st century. And there are many of these in Islam for men, and even more for women. For example, the Islamic preacher Abu Isa at-Tirmizi, who lived in the 9th century, said: "If a woman is naughty or immodest, her husband has the right to beat her, but not break bones." He believed that if a husband wants intimacy with his wife, she should unconditionally obey, "even if she bakes bread by the oven," since she "does not have power over her body, even her milk belongs to her husband."

Shariah speaks of women's inequality. For example, in court, the testimony of two women is equal to the testimony of one man. A Muslim can cheat on his wife, and interestingly, he can enter into short-term marriages from one hour to a year. In fact, this is a resolution of prostitution.

And God forbid his wife to look at someone else's man or she will be convicted of adultery. This can end very sadly, for example, can be stoned. Such punishment is not practiced in all Muslim countries, but in Somalia in 2008 there was a case when a teenage girl was beaten only on the grounds that she was allegedly raped by three men. The Islamist authorities regarded it so that it provoked them to violence.

The Orthodox must know about such and many other consequences of a marriage with a Muslim before deciding whether to marry a Mohammedan. So that later all the severe restrictions on the rights and freedoms of women reigning in Muslim society, were not a heavy duty for her. If this does not stop - love is above all, then good luck.

But most often, women have a very vague idea of \u200b\u200bthe consequences of a marriage with a Muslim. In the Soviet Union, there were cases when a girl married a guy from Central Asia. Suppose he served where she lived. The soldier seemed a sweet and reliable person, and upon arrival with his young wife to his home he suddenly turned out to be a despot. His relatives did not want to recognize her either. And this was becoming a big tragedy for a woman.

Today, a Muslim often takes his girlfriend to his country. All roots with relatives break off. And what can happen to her in a foreign land, if life did not work out, it's hard to speak. A lot of ordeals fall on the lot of the unfortunate, and it is good if they manage to return to their homeland. And someone resigned to his share. But such a fate can hardly be called happy.

In our turbulent times, it is especially dangerous that among young Muslims preachers appeared who paint the delights of Islam to the Slavs and even marry them. But in fact, women are recruited into the ranks of various terrorist groups banned in Russia. And this is the most terrible side of marital unions with Muslims. It happens that such women become suicide bombers.

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A marriage between a Christian and a Muslim is a very serious step. There are many “whirlpools” that are invisible to an inexperienced eye, in which you can wrap yourself, get confused. First of all, this concerns women who decided to connect their fate with a native of a Muslim country. Feeling is good. But a wise decision is better! If a girl does not value her personal freedom and is ready for self-sacrifice in the name of love, then she will have a flag in her hands! But unfortunately, sad stories often happen in life, when a rash act can prettyly ruin your life. And not only spoil, sometimes it can be lost.

The first thing I would do in such a situation is to prepare the rear areas first of all - this is money. To tell your husband that, for example, your parents need money (you wrote that dad is sick) and therefore you would like to go to work, because it’s not convenient for you to ask him for money, and the children should help their parents (for example, you so wonderful help your mom) and continue to study at the university. And studying at a university in order to work in the future in a normal specialty. So to say, mom copes wonderfully around the house, with the child, etc., that I just get in the way under her feet.

Probably, in the current situation, he would have been against your work and would have simply offered money. You send this money home, where they are quietly stacked in a capsule or in a bank account.

Further study - would break into a cake, but continued, this is your future. There are no sudden movements and ultimatums, for one you have already received a slap in the face. Maneuver, be affectionate and complaisant, agree in everything with the mother-in-law, reduce her vigilance and alertness.
As the reasons for studying - (you kind of wrote that you would be a pediatrician), you supposedly are planning a lot of children, and so it will be wonderful when there is a pediatrician in the family. Children's health is very important.
You have just half a year ahead, slowly, gradually, by autumn, to finish this question. As soon as you begin to learn from you to restore relationships with friends, classmates, life will be more eventful and interesting.

Child - Muslims have decided to leave children to their husband during a divorce, as a rule, their mother-in-law brings them up. I know a couple of such cases. Think about your relationship with your husband. In such a situation, I would not try to get pregnant with the next child, it is more convenient to hide with one. And then - another child is at least a couple of years still at home and, accordingly, problems with communication and study.

In some ways, you can look for the pros - the mother-in-law does everything around the house? - wonderful! You are better off. How old is she, by the way, and how is her health? Do not try to conflict with her, on the contrary, enter into trust, and then after the situation. Try to neutralize your opponent over the little things. For example, she cooks, cook sometime when she leaves home for business, sleeps, is busy, etc. some breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc. is unusual and tasty, interestingly serve.
And everything is literally point by point, which I don’t like, slowly incline to the options you need, there is no money for pocket expenses, you are talking with your husband that it is very inconvenient for you to strain your mother (him), that you need money for laying, you are very inconvenient to ask her money, when you want to give her a gift (when she has a DR, soon on March 8th), maybe he can give you some amount of money? and so forth

Well, and most importantly, try to talk with your husband at the moments of his greatest disposition - as he sees your relationship in the future. Tell us about yourself and your life. Maybe he will listen and think.
I would just save up money, learn, stand on my feet, and in the absence of my husband’s desire to change something, a child under my arm and send these comrades on foot on an erotic journey. ;-), although no, it’s already I’m looking at the situation with your own eyes, I would talk heart to heart with my husband and if I didn’t want to change anything, I would send him right away and let Fatima leave my village and have a meek slave. But it's me.

A great article for Muslims and Muslims, as well as for those who are interested in Islam and the relationship of men and women in Islam. It also explains issues that, unfortunately, not all Muslim men observe, which is one of the reasons for the spread of various "myths" about the status of women in Islam among non-Muslims.

Hajiya B. Aisha Lemu
PERFECT HUSBAND - A Muslim
A lot of ink was spent, the air shook from disputes in which they tried to determine the role of a Muslim woman, the rights and obligations of a Muslim woman and what an ideal Muslim wife is. It seemed to us necessary to discuss this in books and articles, because there were many erroneous views. But since man and woman are interdependent, you should not discuss one thing and keep silent about the other. When I was recently invited to discuss the topic "The ideal wife is a Muslim," I gave myself the task of preparing a lecture on "The ideal husband is a Muslim." It seems to many men that women, and especially their wives, should be perfect Muslims, while they themselves and their friends can behave as they like, without remembering either the Quran or the Sunnah and forgetting about the Sharia.
Therefore, this article is intended to restore balance, to direct a beam of a searchlight at a man so that he also knows what an ideal husband is - a Muslim - and tried to achieve this standard as much as he wants his wife to be an ideal Muslim wife. Naturally, the only place to look for these standards of behavior is the Qur'an and Sunnah.
So let's start from the beginning. What should be the behavior of an ideal husband before marriage? After all, a man should not completely change his character after the wedding. The bride with whom he connects his life is a man whose personality and habits have already formed to a certain extent. What should be the relationship between a girl and a guy before marriage? Islam does not recognize the opinion common in Western secular countries that before marriage, a young man can use the “services” of prostitutes or just sleep with everyone in a row or be in a “trial” marriage. For all these actions, the Qur'an prescribes a legal punishment of 100 strokes (Light, verse 2).

The Quran also says:

“And let those who find it impossible to marry be abstained until Allah enrich them with His generosity” (Light, verse 33).
To help the young man in this situation, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in the hadith of Al-Bukhari advises:
"Young people, those of you who can support your wife should marry. Without looking at the women and preserving your chastity, those who cannot, let them fast and remain calm."

Those who can marry how to do?
We mean that Western practice of having a “girlfriend” or “trial” marriage is absolutely forbidden for Muslims. On the contrary, it is expected that family and family friends will play an important role in finding the right couple. This process necessarily includes a detailed discussion of the nature and all the features of future spouses before feelings arise between a guy and a girl. And as a result, there will be no unwanted temptations, temptations and mental illnesses that are common in the Western courtship system and in intimate relationships before marriage.
It is expected that the guy and his parents make more efforts to find the desired couple, as implied in the hadith transmitted by Abu Huraira, where the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) advises:
"You can search for a woman by her wealth, her kind (nobility), beauty or her religiosity. But you are looking for a religious woman. If you do this, taking into account other considerations, your hands are unclean." (Hadiths are given in the collections of Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
In other words, the key to a happy marriage is the moral character of the spouses. Therefore, a Muslim groom approaches marriage with the responsibility of a person who wants to build a family on the most beautiful foundations of love and understanding, and not be carried away by the beauty, wealth or social status of the bride.
The Qur'an describes marriage with these expressions:
"From His signs - that He created for you from you wives themselves, so that you live with them, arranged love and mercy between you. Truly. this is a sign for people who meditate! "(Romania, verse 21).
Allah Almighty also said:
"... They (the wives) are the garment for you, and you the garment is for them ... "(Cow, verse 187).
Finding a bride in a pious way, marrying her, as the Prophet ordered (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), celebrating this holiday with people, but with a minimum of fuss and window dress, how to lead a married life and what are the responsibilities of the husband?
The first duty is the maintenance of the wife and her protection, the responsibility for her well-being as described in the Quran:
“Husbands stand over wives for the fact that Allah gave one an advantage over others, and for the fact that they spend out of their property ...” (Women, ayah 34).
This includes food, clothing and residence for the wife and children. This is a legal obligation that persists even after a divorce until the expiration of idda1 or, according to some scholars, even more. The financial responsibility for the family lies entirely with the husband, and the wife is not obliged to bear family expenses, if only she herself wants to do it. ” The husband’s legal obligations are not limited to providing necessary things and protection. He should keep her company, perform marital duties and avoid doing any harm to her. These duties are strictly prescribed by Sharia. If a man evades keeping his wife or visiting her for more than a certain period of time, the wife has reason to demand a divorce through a Sharia court. Similarly, if she has proven to the court that her husband harmed her - an idrar, either by drinking alcohol, or by hitting her for no legitimate reason, or by insulting her or her parents, etc., she is given the opportunity to divorce. In none of these cases can a husband demand anything returned, be it a dowry or gifts. Be that as it may, the spouse should avoid divorce, as the Qur'an affirms, and try to preserve the marriage, even if it is not perfect.
Allah Almighty said:
“Deal with them with dignity. If you hate them, then maybe you hate something, and Allah has done great good in this” (Women, ayat 19).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) also emphasized the undesirability of divorce in the hadith from the collection of Abu Dawud:
"The most hated thing of all that is lawful before the eyes of Allah is divorce."
Therefore, the ideal husband, if necessary, must fully use all the means prescribed in the Qur'an for reconciliation and settlement of problems before divorce. It should be noted that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), the ideal spouse, never divorced any of his wives. (See Women, ayah 34).
If a man divorces his wife, he should do it without anger and, trying to find reconciliation, before the divorce is pronounced for the third time. A divorce cannot be pronounced during the period of the wife’s menstruation, but can, when the menstruation is over, but the sex life has not yet been resumed. (See Divorce, verse 1).
In other words, a divorce should not be pronounced in anger or by accident, but only at a certain time when the husband controls himself and the wife is not upset, which sometimes accompany menstruation.
The husband must continue to treat his wife well, even if a divorce has already been completed. He must keep and feed her, as before, in his house until the end of the idda. without disturbing her (See Divorce, verses 1.6), supplying her with her wealth. He must not take away any gift given before or during the marriage.
Allah Almighty said:
“The divorce is twofold: after it, either keep, according to custom, or let go with good deed. And you are not allowed to take from what you gave them anything ...” (Cow, ayah 229).
On the contrary, the husband must give the ex-wife a gift or some form of support for her after the divorce. (See Cow, verse 241).
And if after a divorce a woman wants to marry someone else, the ex-husband has no right to prevent this:
"And when you divorced your wives and they have reached the end of their ida, then do not prevent them from marrying other men if they agree with each other according to what is accepted ..." (Cow, ayah 232).
Also, the husband should know that he is not the only one, in accordance with Sharia, with the possibility of custody of children after divorce (as is believed in many countries). It was the wife who was given priority in the custody of children, in accordance with the hadith given to Amr bin Shuib by Ibn Majah, which tells how the woman came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: "My belly was used as a container for my son, my chest served as a leather bag for him (to have five milk), I kept him in my bosom (in peace), and now his father gives me a divorce and wants to take it from me."
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"You have more rights to have him until you marry again."
At the Malikitov school, this rule is generalized and priority in the care of the child is given to the mother and other five relatives, before the father can take him into care. This care lasts until the period of maturity (puberty) for the son and marriage for the daughter, while the financial responsibility for their maintenance remains with the father.
Knowledge of the necessary separation of children should be an obstacle against indiscriminate divorces of some husbands. It must also be remembered that the husband must be as sincerely believing in marriage as the wife. Compensation for adultery to a married man, man or woman, according to Sharia - death. The fact that this retribution may not apply in some places and at certain times does not make sin less sad in the sight of Allah. A sin that has not been redeemed in this world will follow who committed it to the grave.
Therefore, the spouse should not neglect the following instruction of Allah in the Qur'an:
“Tell the believers that they lower their eyes and take care of their members: this is purer for them. Truly, Allah knows what they are doing!” (Light, verse 30).
Those married men who drive in their cars, looking for schoolgirls to give them a ride, dishonor themselves and lose all rights to demand piety from their wives.
If, for some serious reason, the husband cannot get along with one wife, but does not want to divorce her, he is not forbidden to enter into another marriage, having done so in a lawful and pious manner. Permission to have more than one wife at a time, however, has the following conditions:
"... And if you are afraid that you will not be fair between them, then - only on one ..." (Women, ayah 3).
This condition is often very easily looked at in countries where polygamy has become a tradition. However, there are no meaningless words in the Qur'an; you should not look at this ayah through your fingers. A weak husband will not be respected and fair to his wives, so his marriage to more than one will lead to injustice, constant disharmony and the collapse of the family, which is not in the interests of him, them and the entire Muslim Ummah. If, having more than one wife, the husband feels that his heart rushes to one of the wives to the detriment of the other, he is cautioned that this desire does not reject what is necessary for other wives.
“And you are never able to be fair between wives, even if you wanted it. Do not shy away from all evasion, so as not to leave her as if in limbo” (Women, ayah 129).
This warning is further reinforced by the hadith, in which Abu Huraira reports that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
"Whoever has two wives and is not fair to them, will come on the day of the Resurrection with a half body suspended down." (Abu Dawood, Nassi, Ibn Majah).
We have studied the laws on which marriage and divorce are based, as described in the Qur'an.
Now we need examples to illustrate and clarify, taken from the Sunnah, as stated in the Qur'an:
"There was a good example (behavior) in the Messenger of Allah to those who trust in Allah and the last day and remember Allah a lot. "
How did the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) behave like a husband? It is clear that all his actions were completely legal, but how did he communicate every day with his wives? From the hadiths and Syrah (biography of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) one can draw a wealth of information.
His main principles in relations with his wives were the principles expressed in the well-known hadiths of Al-Bukhari and Muslim:
"A more perfect faith is among those believers who have a kinder disposition and are more kind to their families. "
"The best of you are those who are kinder to their wives."
How did the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) be an example of such kindness?
Firstly, he was not difficult to communicate with and was not a tyrant who considered all homework as “women's affairs”.
In the hadith of Al-Bukhari, Aisha answers the question of Al-Aswal bin Yazid, what the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did usually at home. She answered: " He usually worked for the family, served her; when the time came for prayer, he went to pray. "
Another hadith tells us that he usually repaired his clothes. Secondly, he was not fastidious in food. The Muslim collection has a hadith narrated by Abu Huraira: " The Messenger of Allah never looked for flaws in food. If he liked something, he ate it; if not, he refrained from it. And he never complained about food or the cook".
Aisha reports that whenever she saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), he always approached her, expressing sympathy. He was not ashamed of the fact that everyone knew that his love for wives was greater than for all other people. In the collections of Al-Bukhari and Muslim there is a hadith saying that someone asked the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him): “Who loves you most?” And he answered, “Aisha.” This love and understanding with Aisha did not overshadow the high opinion of his first wife Khadija, who was his only wife from his twenty-five years of age until her death. Aisha said that he always appreciated the memory of Khadija, which helped him and encouraged him for several hard years in Mecca, and he regularly gave presents to Khadija’s close friends as an expression of his undiminished respect and love for her (after her death). He never kept himself aloof from his wives, as if they were naturally below him. On the contrary, he considered "playing with wives" one of the acceptable entertainments. According to the hadith of Abu Dawood, Ibn Madjah and Baihaki: "There are no entertainments (amusements) that are worthy of praise, except three: dressage a horse, playing sports with wives and archery". As an illustration, Aisha said that she and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ran in races, and sometimes she won, and sometimes he won.
Now most men see sports with their wives as something that belittles their dignity, and because of this, their married life is becoming more boring and paler. I believe that this is one of the problems of our study of the life of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Most historical books hold their eyes on the political or military aspect of the life of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and his personality, which constantly attracts attention, eludes us. We tend to imagine him always serious, while the hadith informs us that although he rarely laughed out loud, but " no one used to smile as often as he did. " And this is perfectly expressed in the hadith:
"Smile to your brother (Muslim) - charity."
The attitude of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with regard to girls and the education of girls is an excellent refinement of the Qur'an. The Qur'an not only prohibits the practice of the times of al-Jahiliya (ignorance) - the killing of girls in infancy, but also condemns the usual practice of showing displeasure or anger upon the birth of a girl. (See Bees, verses 58-59).
The hadith narrated by Ibn Abbas encourages the opposite:
"Whoever has a girl and has not buried her alive, does not despise her, does not prefer her boys, Allah will introduce him to Paradise. "(Hadith is given by Abu Daoud).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) showed the greatest love and affection for his daughters, especially Fatima. Aisha reports that " wherever the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) see Fatima, he cordially greeted her, got up to kiss her, then took her hand and put him in his place. "(Hadith is quoted from Al-Bukhari).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) proclaimed that every Muslim - a woman or a man - should seek, acquire knowledge, and prescribed the education of all children in the following form:
"There is no gift from parents that surpasses all other gifts from parents to a child and is better than a good broad (multidisciplinary) education. "(At-Tirmizi and Al-Bukhari).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) specifically emphasized the education of girls:
"He who has two sisters or two daughters, and he gives them a wide education and will treat them well and will marry them, to that - Paradise." (Abu Dawood, At-Tirmidhi).
With regard to the education of girls, it was reflected in the education of Aisha, who was a girl when she married Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and she was only 18 years old when he died2.
She had natural learning abilities, thought well, and he taught her as much as she was ready to study. He was so pleased with her training that he even said:
"You can learn half your religion from this pink-haired girl."
Therefore, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) encouraged people to consult with her on religious issues, and after his death she became one of the main sources of hadith. From all this we can see that the resistance of some people to teaching their daughters is not only erroneous, but also completely opposite to the teachings and practices of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). The ideal husband is a Muslim, so he will give a good education to both his daughters and sons.
The respect of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) to the intelligence of the wives was also reflected in his willingness to advise his wives and give them good advice. An example of this practice can be found in the case of Hudaybiyi. Many Muslims expressed reluctance to accept this treaty. They did not want to return home without making a pilgrimage, and considered some parts of the contract as unacceptable to Muslims. Therefore, they did not want to obey his instructions - to slaughter their sacrificial camels and shave their heads, which would symbolize that the pilgrimage was over and the topic was closed. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), in difficulty, retired to his tent and told his wife Umm Salam everything that had happened. She advised him: "Go and show that you have completed your pilgrimage." The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) followed her advice and slaughtered his camel, saying loudly: "Bismil-la, Allapu Akbar." After that, the Muslims forgot their reluctance and hurried to make their sacrifices.
The presence of Umm Salam on this journey demonstrates another aspect of the relationship of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with his wives. One or more of them almost invariably accompanied him on his hikes and travels. To be fair, the wives pulled lots - which of them to accompany him. His wives were not locked and could freely communicate with other people. They dressed in modest clothes (hijab), left the house and saw with whom they needed it and themselves participated when it was necessary, for example, in courting the wounded in battles.
Umar once criticized the Prophet's wife (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) Saudah for leaving the house, saying that he recognized her on the street. She turned to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) for support, and he supported her by saying:
"A woman has the right to go out if she needs it. "(Narrated by Aisha. Hadith Al-Bukh-ri).
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) allowed his wives and other women to enter the mosque for prayers. He also advised other men:
"Do not stop the slaves of Allah from coming to the houses of Allah (the mosque)." (Hadith in the collection of Muslim).
An ideal Muslim husband will never take the liberty of imposing more restrictions on his wife than Allah limited her and His Messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) restricted wives in his family.
All this shows that the wife of an ideal Muslim husband is protected, but not oppressed, and that is why she is happy and content. Therefore, a Muslim husband is expected to cater to his wife whenever it pleases her.
The Quran says:
"O you who believed! Protect your souls and your families from fire, for which people and stones are kindled. Above him - angels, rude, strong - do not disobey Allah in what He ordered, and do what they are ordered " (Prohibition, verse 6).
Therefore, the husband’s duty is to make sure that his wife is sufficiently educated as a Muslim. If this was neglected in her parents' house, he must definitely rectify the situation by teaching it himself or by doing it in another way. It is assumed that the man is the leader in the family. We have seen that this form of leadership is not a form of dictatorship or tyranny. A good husband, as will be shown, consults with his wife on important issues relating to the family, and if he sees that her advice is good, he will accept it. Islam gives the man the authority of the head of the family, and it is expected that he will firmly adhere to the Qur'an and the Sunnah and will make every effort so that the whole family does not neglect Islamic norms of behavior.
Good treatment of a wife does not include an indifferent attitude to her misconduct. The Qur'an prescribes a series of three actions that the husband must take if the wife demonstrates disregard for Islamic norms through her actions.
The first step is a serious explanation by the husband of the consequences of her actions. If she does not respond to his sincere admonitions, his next step is to interrupt the marital relationship for a while. If this step is also ignored, the husband is allowed to slightly beat her, as the last educational act. If she obeys, the husband should not do anything else.
"... And those whose disobedience you fear, exhort and leave them on the boxes and hit them. And if they obey you, then do not look for ways against them - verily, Allah is exalted, great! "(Women, ayah 34).
This beating is the last measure, not the first, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) established certain boundaries for this:
a) must not be hit in the face or other easily vulnerable places;
b) this should not be the cause of suffering, damage or leave marks on the body.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said that if a person should beat his wife, this action should be more or less symbolic, something like a toothbrush. The Prophet himself (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not like the beating of his wives, and he himself never did it. In a collection of hadiths, Abu Dawood reports that Lakid bin Sabrah said:
"Exhort your wife, and if there is anything good in her, she will perceive; and do not beat your wife, as slaves beat."
In the collections of hadiths of Abu Dawood and Ibn Majah there is this:
“Do not beat the slaves of Allah” (i.e., good Muslim women).
At-Tirmizi has a hadith in the collection, transmitted to Amr bin al-Ahuas: " And convince your wives good; verily, they married you: you have no power over them at all, except if they make obvious abominations, but if they appealed to you, then do not look for ways against them. And truly, you have rights over your wives and your wives have rights over you. "
Therefore, a Muslim husband has no right to beat his wife indiscriminately and out of habit for petty misconduct, and if he does so, his wife has the right to demand a divorce in Sharia court. Also, as we see, Islam does not give a man the right to beat his wife in such a way that sometimes you might think that she made 10 rounds in the boxing ring - that’s how she’s wounded. The phenomenon of beating wives is not a feature of Muslims, it is widespread throughout the world. However, some Muslims unfairly claim that they have religious sanctions when they beat their wives, while in most cases they beat them only because they themselves are cruel or because of a bad mood.
A bad mood must be controlled, do not pour it on weaker women. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said this:
"Not the one who throws people to the ground, but the one of you who is able to control yourself in anger." (Reported to Abu Huraira, Al-Bukhari and Muslim).
Aisha describes the self-control of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) as follows:
"The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) never beat any of his wives or slaves. He didn’t hit anyone with his hand, except at the behest of Allah or preventing the offenders of Allah, and he punished in the name of Allah.
The ideal Muslim husband will therefore try to achieve the practice of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who generally avoids beating his wives and tries to discourage others from doing so.
This will lead us to another interesting aspect of the relationship of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) with the wives. He let his wives do what is called "return response back "This is an example for those men who think that a woman, as a child, should be in sight, but she should not be heard. There are several recorded examples when the Companions of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) argued with him or him wives about this practice, however, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) always allowed his wives to express their opinions.
The case recounted by Ibn Ishake Sirat Rasul Allah (early biographer of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is worth knowing: "Once Umar rebuked his wife for something, and she sharply returned the answer to him, and when he demanded an explanation, she replied that the wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) usually returned the answer to him, so why shouldn’t she of this. " And she added, referring to her daughter (Hafsu), "who expressed her opinion without embarrassment, from morning to evening" . Thrilled with this, Umar went to Hafsa, who did not deny that her mother had told the truth. “You have neither the grace of Aisha nor the beauty of Zaynab,” he said, trying to fake her self-confidence, but when he saw that his words had no result, he said: “Are you sure that if you make the Prophet angry (yes Allah bless him and salutes him) will Allah not destroy you in His wrath? " Then he went to his cousin Umm Salam (who was the other wife of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “Is it true that you expressed your opinion to the messenger of Allah and answered him without reverence?” “I swear to all the beautiful” "Said Umm Salama." What makes you walk between the messenger and his wives? "" Yes, by Allah, we tell him our opinion, and if he allowed us to do so, this is his business, if he forbade us, he found us more submissive than we obey you. "Then Umar realized that he had gone far and retired.
In this case, we clearly hear the voice of a woman who respects her husband not because she is afraid of him or a hypocrite, but loves and admires him. The fact that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) allowed his wives to express their opinions shows that he never considered women as slaves or second-class people, but as people to whom Allah gave reason and the ability to separate truth from lies also like men. In another hadith, Aisha goes even further, saying that if the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) told her something, and she questioned his words, then he would give her explanations until she was satisfied. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) did not tell her that she has no right to argue with him or contradict him, because he is a Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and a man, while she is only a young woman. He, on the contrary, highly appreciated her critical abilities and clear mind.
From all this we see that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) had a calm inner certainty and natural leadership abilities, that he did not need to establish himself over his wives and did not fight with them. Men who behave like tyrants at home, who demand their rights in a violent manner and in disputes, are usually weak men who suffer from a hidden inferiority complex and are afraid that their wives' mental and moral superiorities will be revealed. To prevent this, they intimidate them so that they are afraid to open their mouth in the presence of husbands.
Another example illustrates how the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) asserted his leadership without using harsh words and violence. There will be a case, as he did with his wives, when they became very demanding on the comfort of this world. Aisha reports that before taking Khybar she did not know what it means to eat enough dates to fill. The wives of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), who knew perfectly well the general poverty of the Muslims of Medina, asked him only for the necessities. After the capture of Khybar rich in agricultural products, the situation of Muslims improved, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) could give gifts to his wives, and they quickly got used to comfort. This caused problems, because in fairness, what was given by one should be given to everyone, and this cannot always be done. The described events developed among several of his wives. When his advice was ignored, he took the next step prescribed by the Qur'an: he broke off contact with them and began to live on the covered veranda, which was the only place he could live except for the apartments of his wives. Rumors circulated that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) divorced his wives, and the wives repented of their demands on him. Then, through Umar, he let them know that he did not divorce them, but did not want to see any of them until the end of the month.
At the end of the month, he called his wives one at a time and offered them a choice in accordance with the new message from Allah:
"O Prophet, tell your wives:" If you want a near life and its embellishment, then come: I will let you enjoy and let you go in a wonderful way. But if you want Allah and His messenger and the last dwelling place, Allah has prepared a great reward for the good-natured of you "(Host, verses 28-29).
All the wives answered: “Verily, I wish Allah and His messenger and a dwelling place in the Hereafter,” and not one of the wives chose the other. This event is given in several collections of hadiths, including the hadiths of Al-Bukhari and Muslim.
Here we saw a husband who, despite his love for wives, did not go to the injustice between them and did not put himself in a difficult position, trying to satisfy their desires beyond the necessary. He did not fit the role of a husband under the heel. His firmness quickly made his wives look at the matter with his inherent responsibility, and the peace in the house was restored without divorces and harsh words.
Cases such as this make it clear why the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) is considered a great example for Muslims in all aspects of life. It can be seen from them that he really was an ideal husband. He was pure both in thoughts and in deeds, and very kind, in accordance with his own words:
"Verily Allah is blameless and loves blameless, pure and loves the pure, merciful and loves the merciful, kind and loves the good." (This was told by At-Tirmizi).
Another important feature was his love for children. The love of her children for her mother is almost automatic, and this love and care for their well-being accompanies her until the end of her days. Some men do not share this love for children and see it as “caring for women.” It is common in our society today that a mother often plays a leading role in caring and caring for children, in paying for tuition and monitoring their behavior, etc. The fact that a mother demonstrates her love and affection is certainly good, but how can a father justify his detachment from moral and financial responsibility and ignoring paid education and parenting?
We mean the role of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in raising his daughters (until the girls have reached adulthood) and asserting the education of persons of both sexes. There are many hadiths describing his love for children, and how this love was usually expressed. For example, the hadith from Abu Hurairah in the collections of Al-Bukhari and Muslim tells us:
“The Prophet of Allah kissed his grandson Hassan, son Ali in the presence of Acre bin Habis, when Acre said:“ I have children, but I never kissed any of them. ”The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) looked at him and said:
"What can I do for you if Allah has taken mercy from your heart. Those who are not merciful to others will also not experience mercy."
The Muslim family is therefore a very strong family. Mutual understanding between husband and wife lies at its core. Islamic parenting is one of its most important functions. For the Islamic Ummah to succeed, both husband and wife must know their responsibilities and constantly control themselves, adhering to the Islamic way of behavior in the family. In the end, it is interesting to recall the qualities of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) mentioned at the beginning of the article. Some men are afraid that, adhering to Islamic norms of behavior, they will scare the woman away, but this, of course, is a mistake. Therefore, those men who want to make their marriage happy, let them follow the example of the blessed Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him).
I pray to Allah that he will give our brothers fortitude to achieve high moral qualities and through this achieve happiness in marriage. I pray to Allah that He guide my sisters and make them worthy of being the wives of ideal Muslim husbands.
And in conclusion, we give praise to Allah, the Lord of all worlds.

1 - Idda (Arabic) - the period during which a woman has no right to marry after the death of her husband or divorce.
2 - It should not be surprising that Aisha was engaged at 6 years old and married at 8 years old. As you know, southern peoples, including Arabs, grow up early. An example of this is the youngest grandmother - an Arab woman of 17 years.

In an emancipated society, the question of how to please the husband is not very relevant. The vast majority of modern women will tell you that nobody needs to please, because you are an independent, whole person, and you should, above all, love, and not exploit in your interests.

Marrying a Muslim: Aspects of a Future Marriage

It is no secret to anyone that in Islam there are centuries-old traditions that cannot be violated. And if you decide to connect your life with a representative of this religion, you should be fully prepared to learn to obey your spouse.

Suppose your romance is developing so rapidly that Mendelson’s solemn march already sounds in your head, and you almost imagined a portrait of a future joint child. But everything is complicated by the fact that your chosen one lives according to the Quran. If you gave your heart to a Muslim, you will have to learn to live according to other people's traditions and comply with other people's laws.

It's no secret to anyone how zealously representatives of this culture honor its commandments. Allah is sacred to them, and they can live only according to his laws. Of course, if we are talking about real Muslims, not Europeanized representatives of the eastern countries.

What is your role?

So, if you seriously fell in love with a Muslim, you should know what you should do next to build a family and marry him.

In the near future you should do the following:

Get to know his parents, and they certainly will like it. True, even in the second case, no one will guarantee that they will be ready to sacrifice their principles and allow Christian women to stay in their home. It is no secret that Muslims are trying to choose representatives of the same religion for their children as companions of life. And if they are categorically against you purely from religious beliefs, you can forever forget about your eastern prince. People living under the laws of the Koran respect and honor their parents more than anyone in the world. And the opinion of these is guaranteed to be decisive for them, even if the man himself loves you " until your heart stops". How to please the future husband and his mother? Firstly, you need to look modest. Going for the first acquaintance, forget about the existence in your wardrobe of miniskirts and bodysuits with a deep neckline. However, this rule is relevant for meeting with any parents. Secondly, immediately indicate that you see their future in their son, for which they are ready to live. Thirdly, be restrained, listen more than speak. Demonstrate to them that you respect them no less than your own son;
Accept another faith. If you want to love mother’s remoteness and charm his father, you should be ready for the next step - the adoption of Islam. According to Muslim laws, you must renounce the Christian faith and accept Islam. As a rule, this happens either immediately or over time. But remember - until you have entered into a legal marriage, you can think about it and refuse. If your legal husband orders you, there will no longer be any way to retreat (only divorce). In principle, according to the Qur'an, a Muslim is allowed to marry an “infidel” (non-believer) only in order to convert her to Islam. Therefore, think hundreds of times if you are ready for such a step;
Living the laws of the Qur'an. Naturally, your religious "adventures" do not end with the adoption of Islam. Now you must live exclusively according to the laws of the holy book of Muslims. And wearing a hijab in this case is not the worst thing that you have to practice. By the way, according to the laws of the Koran, some marriages between a Muslim and a Christian are a priori impossible. If you are his teacher or pupil, you were previously married to a Muslim, are evenly related to him, were wife to his father, brother or son - you can not dream of an alliance with him. The prohibition of marriage is also relevant if you are a pagan;
Behave in the Qur'an.In continuation of the previous paragraph - a few more specific nuances. From now on, you will have to lower your eyes when meeting with any man, hide your body and jewelry under clothes, cover your hair with a scarf, move silently, and not visit someone else’s home without the consent of your husband. You also have no right to leave your home alone. A loving mother-in-law will immediately tell you about all these rules. By the way, you must now please her no less than her husband. You must obey the new “mother” in everything, and turn a blind eye to injustice, or even vileness on her part. If you dare to complain to your husband, he is guaranteed to take the side of mom, and you can also get a hard time. In fact, the woman in Islam is a being almost completely disempowered. The purpose of her existence is to please her husband and run a household. Are you ready for such a fate ?;
To be completely submissive. This paragraph applies not only to the domestic, but also to the sexual aspects of marriage. How to please the new husband in bed? To obey and do whatever he wants. By the way, you have no right to refuse him the most sexual contact. The ban is lifted only during religious holidays, your menstruation and in the postpartum period. In a Muslim family life, you must endure even violence if your spouse wants it. However, usually representatives of this religion are rather "courteous" in bed with their chosen ones;
Tolerate polygamy. The Qur'an says that a man should marry women who are dear to his heart. A Muslim can have up to four wives, as well as concubines. No one will ask for your advice and approval in this matter. But everything will be extremely honest in terms of material security - all income is distributed evenly to each of them. If your fiancé is not rich, you’ll probably be " one and only". However, no one can guarantee that the caring parents of your husband will not engage in the search for the other wives. Moreover, you will have to nod approvingly, and perhaps even help the mother-in-law with the choice. And do not even try to enter into disputes - such are the written laws of Islam;
Endure punishment. Perhaps this item is the most scrupulous of all. The Qur'an says that a man can use physical force against his woman in case of her disobedience, or simply “in order to improve her character”. At the same time, he can hit you, but not in the face or other vulnerable places. There should also be no signs of beatings on your body. And the beatings themselves, according to the Qur'an, should not cause a woman suffering. A man has no right to beat a woman “inaudible” for petty misconduct. If all this happens - you can demand a divorce in a Sharia court;
Remember the divorce according to the Qur'an. Divorce in Muslim countries, like everything else, is one-way. Usually the initiative belongs to the man. Moreover, it is enough for him to repeat three times with witnesses "You are no longer my wife", And your union is automatically terminated. The Christian herself remains completely powerless in this case. Note that you can’t pick up children, just as well as defend your rights in court. But there are pleasant exceptions;
Reproduce offspring. One of the main goals of Muslim men is the reproduction of offspring, so childlessness can become a significant reason for the gap. You must also be prepared to give birth as much as is required of you.

A wedding in the Qur'an can take place both at home and in a mosque. And, interestingly, even without the participation of a couple. It is enough to ask witnesses to go to the mosque for the wedding ceremony.

Know his responsibilities

Your husband should fully support you, as well as be fully responsible for the well-being of the family. He is obliged to contain and protect you, in addition, to give you due attention. If a man shies away from providing for his wife, or does not pay attention to her for a certain time (this mainly relates to intimate life), you have the right to file for divorce. But know that divorce is “ the most hated of the law before the eyes of Allah».
Yes, a Muslim man needs to be loved, cherished and cherished without special reciprocal feelings. Yes, Muslim men love complete submission by women. And yes, from now on you will feel like a real slave in freedom.

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